Doing business with 'friends'

[jkm]

I actually cheered up a little going back to my 'getting a cat' thread on GIT. I'm more mad because my husband can't learn that doing business with 'friends' doesn't work, and because I actually counted on this person to come through.

Husband goes to their house yesterday, and the idiot wife & he were arguing because she didn't want to give up their cats even though they have three kids under the age of 5 and have tanked financially. So, the cat my daughter thought she'd have to play with she didn't, and I realized as I should have all along that hubby would again be **** on by these people he calls 'friends'.

I should be cheering up reading that thread because there is an adoption fair this weekend and daughter & I are going. It just makes me mad a grown man can't learn as I have that doing business with 'friends' doesn't work and we're the ones who get left out.

When we have rented property from these people? They have reneged on the terms of the lease. One time we were childless & ended up with roommates. Another the woman--who proved totally unreliable to do business with before, and I warned him about that before he leased the apartment, yet he rented from her anyway--got into an argument with her roommate and wanted her apartment back. We had to move downstairs when I was pregnant & sick with a cold.

Another time she introduced my daughter to a friend's child the same age. She promised Mimi would see the child again the next day--yet couldn't be reached by phone & didn't return messages. Fortunately, that little girl is at her school, but the point is still that this woman is totally unreliable and the hub can't learn

Recently he "sold" a computer to one after buying another. I didn't ask for or want this computer I'm on now. The old one worked just fine. "Friend" reneged again, and we are stuck with two computers. Next, the cat, which I somehow knew in advance was going to be another bum deal.

I changed my mind about making friends up here some time ago. It's too different a mindset, and not one I'm comfortable with. I have one, and he's not from around here originally, either, but even with him if he asked if I wanted to lease or buy something from him, I'd say NO. Doing business with friends doesn't work. Why do some people never learn & keep stupidly doing the same things?

It isn't even just that, either, but the excessive dependency on 'friends'. Someone can be my friend and not be staring at me on Skype--from the next town--at 6 AM. I have a friend. Does he disrupt my family time? Do I disrupt his, or expect him to drop time with his family or an activity he enjoys to bail me out of my latest self made mess? No. Do I spend every--or any--weekend with him? No. I just don't understand clinging to people who really are just moochers and, as Dr. Barbara DeAngelis puts it, time and energy vampires.

[Long Island Bob]

That was kind of meandering and 6AM'ish. Oh well. We are friends and 6AM affects us all that way.

But I am sorry to hear about your troubles and generally I am not opposed to doing business with friends, but I do find the terms of each agreement must be spelled out even more clearly than when doing business with strangers.

[Vaard]

when you mix money with friends, you often end up losing both.......

[VA-165 Boomer]

After almost 30 years in service work with the same company, I have found that friendships can develop with customers but trying to make customers out of friends is a different story.

[jkm]

when you mix money with friends, you often end up losing both.......

It's what I've been saying for awhile now, and this is due to experience. It just gets so frustrating watching my husband do the SAME THINGS OVER AND OVER WITH THESE PEOPLE, and they have proved themselves unreliable in the past, and expect something different to happen. Why oh why do some people just never learn?