The Cancer Thread

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

:redface::redface: I think you give me too much credit Rhet...but boy do I appreciate the compliment! I surprised myself in that I didn't become the raving lunatic that most Mother of the Brides become. Oh..don't get me wrong...I understand it...well understand it...just didn't let myself go there as I knew that would be a one way trip for me! LOL

Pictures are up and on line. Send me a pm and I'll give you the address and password so you can see them. She really was so lovely...and the event was lovely!

Rest...oh yes...even for us wicked creatures...rest is much needed. Walking Mom through her wants for the after death process....hard to deal with at times...but I must remember that these are her wishes and wants for her life and death...not mine. Patience seems to be my biggest lesson in this life....and this huge lesson of watching a parent pass on won't be any different. ;)

Keeping you all in my thoughts. Praying that Mr. G. is enjoying his world wind tour of family and friends while Mrs. G. is flying through work and fun. Praying for Rep as she enjoys the release of stress that the tumor under her eye was benign! How my heart sung with that news...and praying that strength and health and vitality will soon return to her mortal body...giving her time to enjoy those things that she once enjoyed yet again. Praying for Rhet as she is stuck dab in the middle in the hot and heavy of her summer school schedule. Praying that her students realize what a prize and privilege to be under her wing as she navigates them through all the wonders of literature. I'm also keeping a mindful prayer that your garden has revived and healed from those awful sand storms...and is green and lovely once again.

All my thoughts and prayers are with you all....keeping the Good Lords ear bent on that front...praying for some ease and comfort before the upcoming storms hit in our lives. I think He might be sick of hearing from me....;):mrgreen:

All my love and best wishes to you all....May God truly bless you and bring you blessings into your lives,

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

:redface::redface: I think you give me too much credit Rhet...but boy do I appreciate the compliment! I surprised myself in that I didn't become the raving lunatic that most Mother of the Brides become. Oh..don't get me wrong...I understand it...well understand it...just didn't let myself go there as I knew that would be a one way trip for me! LOL

Pictures are up and on line. Send me a pm and I'll give you the address and password so you can see them. She really was so lovely...and the event was lovely!

Rest...oh yes...even for us wicked creatures...rest is much needed. Walking Mom through her wants for the after death process....hard to deal with at times...but I must remember that these are her wishes and wants for her life and death...not mine. Patience seems to be my biggest lesson in this life....and this huge lesson of watching a parent pass on won't be any different. ;)

Keeping you all in my thoughts. Praying that Mr. G. is enjoying his world wind tour of family and friends while Mrs. G. is flying through work and fun. Praying for Rep as she enjoys the release of stress that the tumor under her eye was benign! How my heart sung with that news...and praying that strength and health and vitality will soon return to her mortal body...giving her time to enjoy those things that she once enjoyed yet again. Praying for Rhet as she is stuck dab in the middle in the hot and heavy of her summer school schedule. Praying that her students realize what a prize and privilege to be under her wing as she navigates them through all the wonders of literature. I'm also keeping a mindful prayer that your garden has revived and healed from those awful sand storms...and is green and lovely once again.

All my thoughts and prayers are with you all....keeping the Good Lords ear bent on that front...praying for some ease and comfort before the upcoming storms hit in our lives. I think He might be sick of hearing from me....;):mrgreen:

All my love and best wishes to you all....May God truly bless you and bring you blessings into your lives,

~Mysty

Rest and enjoy.

Prayers for you and your mother continue, they surely do.

And for Gregor and Mr. G.

And for Repchick, too.

So many fighting a good fight. Too many to just list here. But each of you are buried deep in my heart.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Has it really been a week since the wedding? Feels like mere moments have passed!

Whew...when God amps up and starts pouring blessings down....he don't mess around does He? ;) Mark passed his contractors license on Monday (last Monday...just two days after the wedding) and our business has doubled over night. :dance: This whole thing may just get pulled off! Color me shocked and happy! Everything's running almost too smoothly.... well...for me anyway.

Mom's not doing so well. 4th chemo session really took it out of her. Damn Nulasta really pulls it's punches on her poor body. More weight loss....more side effects of chemo doing it's job....more frustration emotionally on her end can be easily seen this time around. She is hanging in there...as they say....being clear minded as she can be about her own death and dying process. We cut off most of her hair just after the wedding...and it seems to be holding on...what little is left it anyway. I remind her that all of these horrific side effects are proving to us that the chemo is indeed doing it's job. I pray it puts her into remission so that she won't be faced with having to go through this again. She says she won't ever do chemo again...but many chemo patients say that whilst they are in the midst of the tempest. Thursday she goes in for blood tests. I'll be taking her to her appointment as well. I have written down my list of questions to ask....so keep everything crossed and bend His ear for us.....we need every one we can get at this point. :pray:

So, I've been trying to keep Mom glued together,....trying to help her out where and when she will let me. Very independent that one is.....at least I know where I get it from....hehehehehe. ;)

Other then life becoming very busy....my emotional life has gotten very quiet. Which is fine by me! Since no one from my side of the family showed up for Amber's wedding...I made the final slice to rid myself of excess weight and baggage. I feel lighter and at peace for finally seeing the truth of this very twisted family situation. My father...an alcoholic abuser...who has treated me more like an unwanted stray almost my entire teenage to adult life; choose not to come three weeks before the wedding. I didn't have an emotional response then....still haven't had one. It gave me a clue as to where my own heart had been headed towards...but didn't want to admit it to myself.

I always found excuses to keep a small flame of hope alive that some day he, my father, would look at me, tell me how much he loved me...how proud I had made him...and open his arms to me. Now, with my eyes fully open, and my heart not in a very young and needy place, I can walk with my head held high, and walk past that part of my life without so much as blinking. It's a nice weighted bag to finally be able to put down. It's one I hadn't known I was carrying around...or should I say dragging around...until very recently. Funny how that works isn't it?

Both of my younger brothers...(I'm the eldest) have also slipped into this same category as my father. I've listened as my Mother has cried bitter tears of pain that her son's ignore her and push her away. It breaks my heart as a mother...can't even imagine what that must feel like...it would indeed crush me if my own flesh and blood ever treated me as they treat my mother. I understand it...logically...but emotionally I can see how devastating it is to her. In that pain that I see on her face, is where my emotional response finally rears up it's head. Although I was shocked when it wasn't anger that popped up in response...but a deep abiding sadness for the entire situation.

So...Mark and I are harvesting the fruits of our own small family....busy with his new HVAC business...and taking care of Mom. It's enough to keep me busy....without stress or heart ache...that I've had enough of to last two lifetimes. ;)

Praying that all of you are enjoying your summers. Keeping you in my daily thoughts as I bend God's ear....may you all be reaping the bounty of blessings that His love brings....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Has it really been a week since the wedding? Feels like mere moments have passed!

Whew...when God amps up and starts pouring blessings down....he don't mess around does He? ;) Mark passed his contractors license on Monday (last Monday...just two days after the wedding) and our business has doubled over night. :dance: This whole thing may just get pulled off! Color me shocked and happy! Everything's running almost too smoothly.... well...for me anyway.

Mom's not doing so well. 4th chemo session really took it out of her. Damn Nulasta really pulls it's punches on her poor body. More weight loss....more side effects of chemo doing it's job....more frustration emotionally on her end can be easily seen this time around. She is hanging in there...as they say....being clear minded as she can be about her own death and dying process. We cut off most of her hair just after the wedding...and it seems to be holding on...what little is left it anyway. I remind her that all of these horrific side effects are proving to us that the chemo is indeed doing it's job. I pray it puts her into remission so that she won't be faced with having to go through this again. She says she won't ever do chemo again...but many chemo patients say that whilst they are in the midst of the tempest. Thursday she goes in for blood tests. I'll be taking her to her appointment as well. I have written down my list of questions to ask....so keep everything crossed and bend His ear for us.....we need every one we can get at this point. :pray:

So, I've been trying to keep Mom glued together,....trying to help her out where and when she will let me. Very independent that one is.....at least I know where I get it from....hehehehehe. ;)

Other then life becoming very busy....my emotional life has gotten very quiet. Which is fine by me! Since no one from my side of the family showed up for Amber's wedding...I made the final slice to rid myself of excess weight and baggage. I feel lighter and at peace for finally seeing the truth of this very twisted family situation. My father...an alcoholic abuser...who has treated me more like an unwanted stray almost my entire teenage to adult life; choose not to come three weeks before the wedding. I didn't have an emotional response then....still haven't had one. It gave me a clue as to where my own heart had been headed towards...but didn't want to admit it to myself.

I always found excuses to keep a small flame of hope alive that some day he, my father, would look at me, tell me how much he loved me...how proud I had made him...and open his arms to me. Now, with my eyes fully open, and my heart not in a very young and needy place, I can walk with my head held high, and walk past that part of my life without so much as blinking. It's a nice weighted bag to finally be able to put down. It's one I hadn't known I was carrying around...or should I say dragging around...until very recently. Funny how that works isn't it?

Both of my younger brothers...(I'm the eldest) have also slipped into this same category as my father. I've listened as my Mother has cried bitter tears of pain that her son's ignore her and push her away. It breaks my heart as a mother...can't even imagine what that must feel like...it would indeed crush me if my own flesh and blood ever treated me as they treat my mother. I understand it...logically...but emotionally I can see how devastating it is to her. In that pain that I see on her face, is where my emotional response finally rears up it's head. Although I was shocked when it wasn't anger that popped up in response...but a deep abiding sadness for the entire situation.

So...Mark and I are harvesting the fruits of our own small family....busy with his new HVAC business...and taking care of Mom. It's enough to keep me busy....without stress or heart ache...that I've had enough of to last two lifetimes. ;)

Praying that all of you are enjoying your summers. Keeping you in my daily thoughts as I bend God's ear....may you all be reaping the bounty of blessings that His love brings....

~Mysty

I'm thrilled for you and Mark. Business start up can be so VERY nerve wracking and time consuming.

The wedding pics are GORGEOUS. That must have been one whale of a shindig. Those who got to go must surely have enjoyed themselves. You did VERY well. And your daughter is worth being proud of. Thanks for letting me look over your shoulder through the pics.

I'm glad you've found peace about your father and your brothers. My own brothers aren't worth the pain they cause, either.

Mostly I'm glad you've found a new relationship pattern with your mother. She needs you -- and you need her to need you. No matter what, these days will be cherished memories to help you stand strong for the rest of your own life. My memories of Mama after her last and so devastating stroke are worth all the hassles and problems of being her primary care giver during her own last years -- worth every single second, and I'd do the same in a split nanosecond if I could. I'm glad she's at peace now, partying with Daddy and the LORD, but I treasure every hug we shared in those last days.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

I'm thrilled for you and Mark. Business start up can be so VERY nerve wracking and time consuming.

The wedding pics are GORGEOUS. That must have been one whale of a shindig. Those who got to go must surely have enjoyed themselves. You did VERY well. And your daughter is worth being proud of. Thanks for letting me look over your shoulder through the pics.

I'm glad you've found peace about your father and your brothers. My own brothers aren't worth the pain they cause, either.

Mostly I'm glad you've found a new relationship pattern with your mother. She needs you -- and you need her to need you. No matter what, these days will be cherished memories to help you stand strong for the rest of your own life. My memories of Mama after her last and so devastating stroke are worth all the hassles and problems of being her primary care giver during her own last years -- worth every single second, and I'd do the same in a split nanosecond if I could. I'm glad she's at peace now, partying with Daddy and the LORD, but I treasure every hug we shared in those last days.

She was blessed to have a daughter such as you in her time of need honey. I know in my heart that my own daughters will be there for me too when my time comes. Love is a funny building block isn't it? Just when you think something would make you fall....Love picks you up and carries you to your destination. ;)

Was on the phone early this morning with Mom. I have a question...my poor mind is so tired that I can't remember every little detail of nursing that I once could....:wall:

Chemo patients are known for not wanting to eat....loosing weight...etc. Mom however has not had a real huge issue with that as yet. Where she is having her issue is her bowels. Very loose..very runny. For the life of me, I can't remember if that is the chemo mixture working it's way through her system....or if it's the diet itself that she is eating....or what it's attributed too. I do know that she can't go on with loose stools for too long before skin issues, weakness and pain issues come to the forefront. Any idea's or advice on how we can deal with this issue...without meds if possible?

Big Hugs to you all.....
man my life got busy all of a sudden....stupid business phone won't stop ringing this morning! LOL.

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

She was blessed to have a daughter such as you in her time of need honey. I know in my heart that my own daughters will be there for me too when my time comes. Love is a funny building block isn't it? Just when you think something would make you fall....Love picks you up and carries you to your destination. ;)

Was on the phone early this morning with Mom. I have a question...my poor mind is so tired that I can't remember every little detail of nursing that I once could....:wall:

Chemo patients are known for not wanting to eat....loosing weight...etc. Mom however has not had a real huge issue with that as yet. Where she is having her issue is her bowels. Very loose..very runny. For the life of me, I can't remember if that is the chemo mixture working it's way through her system....or if it's the diet itself that she is eating....or what it's attributed too. I do know that she can't go on with loose stools for too long before skin issues, weakness and pain issues come to the forefront. Any idea's or advice on how we can deal with this issue...without meds if possible?

Big Hugs to you all.....
man my life got busy all of a sudden....stupid business phone won't stop ringing this morning! LOL.

~Mysty

It's been a HUGE long time since I did any real nursing myself -- and never was involved with cancer patients and chemo.

However, if I understand what I've read it's a bit of both, chemo side plus diet.

Have you considered dietary fiber supplements, like Metamucil -- plus LOTS of focus on raw veggies like carrots, snow peas, lettuce, spinach salads, that sort of thing? In fact, I've got a small dish of baby carrots sitting in front of me to munch and crunch while I type.

And fiber-heavy cereals help a lot, too, as does that morning bowl of oatmeal.

Just go easy on the Metamucil, just enough to prevent constipation from the fiber increase, the objective being to regulate without stopping up the plumbing line entirely, of course. I find a small glass every other day just about right, but my Bear requires more. Could be his own plumbing problems, could be something that just varies from person to person and from day to day. And each of us adjusts the quantity a bit depending on how we feel when we get up in the morning.

Be careful of juices, though. Especially too much of the apple and cranberry and grape ones. BAD effects if I guzzle those. Lemonade and orange stuff seem fine. As do the raw fruits in moderation.

I was told that coffee's an absolute no-no, but I'm an addict and seriously can't discern any negative side effects despite the ban.

And NOBODY is taking my one (and only one) glass of red wine in the evenings -- hugely beneficial, IMO, as well as a great tension easer and sleep encourager. Might check for negative chemical mix potential against the other meds, though.

I know that's what my own doc recommended, anyway, and it's working for us.

And, of course, you've got her on an increased vitamin/mineral supplement. Surprisingly, I've found that pre-natal vitamins are doing a super job helping to restore my pre-injury strength and endurance and energy without throwing the aging digestive tract into total chaos. I take half of one in the mornings and a whole one with supper.

But, I wouldn't get too radical, forcing her to eat stuff she hates or avoid stuff she adores. She's got enough misery going on without giving up ALL life's little comforts.

Does that give you with the greater nursing experience some ideas? Can't hurt to try it, anyway, and see if it doesn't at least help.

Oh, and "an ounce of prevention being worth a pound of cure," the most lusciously does-the-trick skin cream I've ever tried -- intensely dry skin, inherited from my Dad, compounded by meds -- is Cetaphil. Not the lotion in the pump bottle. The cream in the old-fashioned jar with the screw on lid. I get mine at a local Walmart. Where even a bandaid tore the skin last year, the thin, dry, and brittle old stuff has gotten back a lot of resilience, bend and flex, and it's not reacting with the heavy sun screen I have to use, either. It's been months since I suddenly found a hole in the old hide when I had no idea what had caused it.

BTW: I'd feel sorry for you about the business phone, except I don't. Every ring is still more potential profit. GOOD JOB! :clap:

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Your posts got my brain clicking...and was nodding my head as I read down the long laundry list of how to help Mom's situation.....btw...thank you for being the normalcy to my poor brain these days....feels like I'd forget my head if it weren't attached to my neck!

I think I have a darn good idea what may have changed...I changed her off of Metamucil to Meralax...for sever constipation. I think it's safe to say we've moved on to something more draining....:frown: I think the best change now would be to change her back to her old fiber regimen...and see if that doesn't help.

Thanks for the brain stimulus! I just for the life of me couldn't think what the issue was.

Big hugs

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Your posts got my brain clicking...and was nodding my head as I read down the long laundry list of how to help Mom's situation.....btw...thank you for being the normalcy to my poor brain these days....feels like I'd forget my head if it weren't attached to my neck!

I think I have a darn good idea what may have changed...I changed her off of Metamucil to Meralax...for sever constipation. I think it's safe to say we've moved on to something more draining....:frown: I think the best change now would be to change her back to her old fiber regimen...and see if that doesn't help.

Thanks for the brain stimulus! I just for the life of me couldn't think what the issue was.

Big hugs

~Mysty

No sweat, luv. You've kept my own head functional many times. Stress does weird things to our ability to think. And you've been under a train load of stress and then some for a very long time. I'm surprised you haven't cracked yet.

I pray the fiber regimen does the trick. You and your mom are carrying a truly heavy load as it is without this, too.

:hug:

[itsrea]

Gregor? How's it going? How are you and hubby doing?

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Has anyone heard from Ms. G of late? Aren't they still on their vacation in Europe? Hope everything is going well for both Mr. and Mrs. G. ......praying for a truly wonderful and relaxing time for both of them. God knows they deserve it!

Gearing up for Mom's three day rat poison treatment. Thursday, Friday and Saturday.....feels like she just went through this last week.....it never feels like two to three weeks have gone by. I get to sit down with her tomorrow night after chemo and go over all the pictures online. She tried to look at them...but only looked at them in thumbnail size...which is near impossible to really see anything. So, a light dinner and some good tearing up is the plan for me. :((

Megan's off today to finish up her sign up for college. My eldest daughter came and rescued me from having to go through that again. Twice was enough for me let me tell ya! LOL. College...you need a degree just to get all squared away and signed up properly....:rolleyes:

Business is good...phone rings allot! Which is good. Mark received his contractors lic. number in the mail yesterday....so...officially....we are all done with the 'i' dotting and 't' crossing. I pray it will sustain itself and do what it is Mark is praying it will do. ;)

All my best to you all....sending hugs and good thoughts for happiness, love and above all peace in your lives.

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Has anyone heard from Ms. G of late? Aren't they still on their vacation in Europe? Hope everything is going well for both Mr. and Mrs. G. ......praying for a truly wonderful and relaxing time for both of them. God knows they deserve it!

Gearing up for Mom's three day rat poison treatment. Thursday, Friday and Saturday.....feels like she just went through this last week.....it never feels like two to three weeks have gone by. I get to sit down with her tomorrow night after chemo and go over all the pictures online. She tried to look at them...but only looked at them in thumbnail size...which is near impossible to really see anything. So, a light dinner and some good tearing up is the plan for me. :((

Megan's off today to finish up her sign up for college. My eldest daughter came and rescued me from having to go through that again. Twice was enough for me let me tell ya! LOL. College...you need a degree just to get all squared away and signed up properly....:rolleyes:

Business is good...phone rings allot! Which is good. Mark received his contractors lic. number in the mail yesterday....so...officially....we are all done with the 'i' dotting and 't' crossing. I pray it will sustain itself and do what it is Mark is praying it will do. ;)

All my best to you all....sending hugs and good thoughts for happiness, love and above all peace in your lives.

~Mysty

I despise college admin with a passion -- and I'm a prof. :)) Glad you got out of that one.

I'm glad about your business. Prayers for it to thrive going up.

And prayers for tomorrow, Friday, and Saturday. May the poison get the ratty cancer cells and leave your mother alone. Mostly, may the weepy sharing be a rich memory making for you both, memories to cherish for all eternity.

[jwil59]

Prayer and love for all my friends in the cancer thread.........

God bless you all

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Thought I would pop in and give an update. Rhet, your idea's on how best to help Mom get back onto some normalcy as it pertains to the whole fiber regimen, worked beautifully! Thank you!

Mom has three more session to go with chemo treatment. She doesn't want to complete those last two if she can help it. I gave her the analogy that chemo regimens of treatment is close to taking the whole regiment of antibiotics. One may feel better inside of the first days of taking the antibiotic, and choose to stop taking it as they assume that they are all better; only to find the same infection comes back down the road. Taking the full regimen of treatments ensures that all the cancer cells have been affected by the drugs in the chemo treatment.

That idea sat on her brain for a couple of days before she mounted an query of attacks against my analogy. We both go in on the 28th to see if the doctor will do an early PET scan to see if she is in remission. I highly doubt that he will accommodate her; but we shall see.

Her last chemo is set for the month of September. The weakness and general malaise of her treatments has finally gotten a firm hold on her. I believe that due to the more sever issues of weakness is what is driving this thought of not completing her chemo treatments. I am praying for the right words and comforts can come from my mouth to ease her fears of enduring what is left of this process.

Other then that, life is going along fairly swimmingly. Business is good, the new happy couple settled back into the daily grind, our youngest set for college, and all of my duties in PTA finally coming to a close. (Hip hip hooray!) I swear, out of the 25 years of service I've given to that organization, these last two years have been the hardest. :rolleyes: I've been advising and teaching one of our high schools on proper procedure and guidelines of PTA. I've had to wear the black hat a few times now. Teaches me not to do a favor for friends anymore! It's been more then harrowing in just this last few weeks. I've got a Principal who wants to pee in my cheerios. :eh: She is a newer principal, so I give her as much slack as I can muster.......but man is she pushing it with my good nature! Think I'm gonna end up eating me some principal buns here real soon! :lol:

Praying all of you are well. Any word from Mrs. G and Mr. G yet? Do we know when they are expected back home from their holiday? Can't wait to hear all about their trip!

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Thought I would pop in and give an update. Rhet, your idea's on how best to help Mom get back onto some normalcy as it pertains to the whole fiber regimen, worked beautifully! Thank you!

Mom has three more session to go with chemo treatment. She doesn't want to complete those last two if she can help it. I gave her the analogy that chemo regimens of treatment is close to taking the whole regiment of antibiotics. One may feel better inside of the first days of taking the antibiotic, and choose to stop taking it as they assume that they are all better; only to find the same infection comes back down the road. Taking the full regimen of treatments ensures that all the cancer cells have been affected by the drugs in the chemo treatment.

That idea sat on her brain for a couple of days before she mounted an query of attacks against my analogy. We both go in on the 28th to see if the doctor will do an early PET scan to see if she is in remission. I highly doubt that he will accommodate her; but we shall see.

Her last chemo is set for the month of September. The weakness and general malaise of her treatments has finally gotten a firm hold on her. I believe that due to the more sever issues of weakness is what is driving this thought of not completing her chemo treatments. I am praying for the right words and comforts can come from my mouth to ease her fears of enduring what is left of this process.

Other then that, life is going along fairly swimmingly. Business is good, the new happy couple settled back into the daily grind, our youngest set for college, and all of my duties in PTA finally coming to a close. (Hip hip hooray!) I swear, out of the 25 years of service I've given to that organization, these last two years have been the hardest. :rolleyes: I've been advising and teaching one of our high schools on proper procedure and guidelines of PTA. I've had to wear the black hat a few times now. Teaches me not to do a favor for friends anymore! It's been more then harrowing in just this last few weeks. I've got a Principal who wants to pee in my cheerios. :eh: She is a newer principal, so I give her as much slack as I can muster.......but man is she pushing it with my good nature! Think I'm gonna end up eating me some principal buns here real soon! :lol:

Praying all of you are well. Any word from Mrs. G and Mr. G yet? Do we know when they are expected back home from their holiday? Can't wait to hear all about their trip!

~Mysty

No word from the G-Pair, yet. Wouldn't expect it much before early August, either -- in time to get ready for the Fall term, but not a day earlier than absolutely mandatory. At least, I wouldn't, if I were them.

I pray your mother finds the strength and courage to finish the series.

But I sympathize with all my heart about the weakness and general malaise. You have these PLANS in your skull and are habituated to DOING -- and then, all of a sudden, you CAN'T Do, but the Need to Do is still there pushing and shoving and nagging at your soul. So you keep trying to Do anyway -- and falling flat on your face, exhausted long before the Do is Done.

Totally frustrating. And it makes you feel like a total Failure.

Us Type A Over-Achievers are driven to DO and don't take CAN'T DO very well at all at all.

Try selling her the last couple of treatments in terms of continued weakness, growing weakness, if she doesn't, hope that the weakness will be totally licked if she does. I pray she sees the hope if she does finish the series, anyway.

It is good to see tasks like graduation and weddings finished, new beginnings on the horizon, isn't it?

And good luck with the Newbie.

Teaching new Principals how to be Principals is NOT FUN, not at all at all.

But somebody has to do it -- and you're stuck with the job for a bit longer. I'm glad it's you and not some doofus social snob Freak-a-zoid Mother May I type I've known through the years. :) :hug:

[jwil59]

Thought I would pop in and give an update. Rhet, your idea's on how best to help Mom get back onto some normalcy as it pertains to the whole fiber regimen, worked beautifully! Thank you!

Mom has three more session to go with chemo treatment. She doesn't want to complete those last two if she can help it. I gave her the analogy that chemo regimens of treatment is close to taking the whole regiment of antibiotics. One may feel better inside of the first days of taking the antibiotic, and choose to stop taking it as they assume that they are all better; only to find the same infection comes back down the road. Taking the full regimen of treatments ensures that all the cancer cells have been affected by the drugs in the chemo treatment.

That idea sat on her brain for a couple of days before she mounted an query of attacks against my analogy. We both go in on the 28th to see if the doctor will do an early PET scan to see if she is in remission. I highly doubt that he will accommodate her; but we shall see.

Her last chemo is set for the month of September. The weakness and general malaise of her treatments has finally gotten a firm hold on her. I believe that due to the more sever issues of weakness is what is driving this thought of not completing her chemo treatments. I am praying for the right words and comforts can come from my mouth to ease her fears of enduring what is left of this process.

Other then that, life is going along fairly swimmingly. Business is good, the new happy couple settled back into the daily grind, our youngest set for college, and all of my duties in PTA finally coming to a close. (Hip hip hooray!) I swear, out of the 25 years of service I've given to that organization, these last two years have been the hardest. :rolleyes: I've been advising and teaching one of our high schools on proper procedure and guidelines of PTA. I've had to wear the black hat a few times now. Teaches me not to do a favor for friends anymore! It's been more then harrowing in just this last few weeks. I've got a Principal who wants to pee in my cheerios. :eh: She is a newer principal, so I give her as much slack as I can muster.......but man is she pushing it with my good nature! Think I'm gonna end up eating me some principal buns here real soon! :lol:

Praying all of you are well. Any word from Mrs. G and Mr. G yet? Do we know when they are expected back home from their holiday? Can't wait to hear all about their trip!

~Mysty

I am still praying for Mom...........

And am also wondering how Mr. G is doing

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

No word from the G-Pair, yet. Wouldn't expect it much before early August, either -- in time to get ready for the Fall term, but not a day earlier than absolutely mandatory. At least, I wouldn't, if I were them.

I pray your mother finds the strength and courage to finish the series.

But I sympathize with all my heart about the weakness and general malaise. You have these PLANS in your skull and are habituated to DOING -- and then, all of a sudden, you CAN'T Do, but the Need to Do is still there pushing and shoving and nagging at your soul. So you keep trying to Do anyway -- and falling flat on your face, exhausted long before the Do is Done.

Totally frustrating. And it makes you feel like a total Failure.

Us Type A Over-Achievers are driven to DO and don't take CAN'T DO very well at all at all.

Try selling her the last couple of treatments in terms of continued weakness, growing weakness, if she doesn't, hope that the weakness will be totally licked if she does. I pray she sees the hope if she does finish the series, anyway.

It is good to see tasks like graduation and weddings finished, new beginnings on the horizon, isn't it?

And good luck with the Newbie.

Teaching new Principals how to be Principals is NOT FUN, not at all at all.

But somebody has to do it -- and you're stuck with the job for a bit longer. I'm glad it's you and not some doofus social snob Freak-a-zoid Mother May I type I've known through the years. :) :hug:

I too wouldn't come home until absolutely necessary. Keeping them in my thoughts....

I like how you put the situation with mom an personalities. It may help her through those last few nasty treatments.

You crack me up Rhet.....Mother may I freak a zoids....oh....I"ve known a few honey....lol. Thanks for the immediate smile !!!

Part of living in the new overly PC land of the country; and it's horrific side effect of Godzilla woman :rolleyes:. People in positions of power use the cover of PC to pull their horrific abuses.....and these sheeple allow it Rhet!!! Holy Moley and flying frogs! So yeah....I'm the new big bad truth telling, confrontation pushing, black hat wearing sheriff in town. I look good in black actually...... lol

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.....
~Mysty

[rhet 2]

I too wouldn't come home until absolutely necessary. Keeping them in my thoughts....

I like how you put the situation with mom an personalities. It may help her through those last few nasty treatments.

You crack me up Rhet.....Mother may I freak a zoids....oh....I"ve known a few honey....lol. Thanks for the immediate smile !!!

Part of living in the new overly PC land of the country; and it's horrific side effect of Godzilla woman :rolleyes:. People in positions of power use the cover of PC to pull their horrific abuses.....and these sheeple allow it Rhet!!! Holy Moley and flying frogs! So yeah....I'm the new big bad truth telling, confrontation pushing, black hat wearing sheriff in town. I look good in black actually...... lol

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.....
~Mysty

"Holy Moley and flying frogs"? :)) I love it!

Wish I were there to help with the confrontational gig. I HATE SNOBS. Too brutally addicted to emotional/psychological BULLY Girl behaviors for man or beast or their own kids to long endure.

Happy hunting, friend. Bag a Bully for me, too, while you're huntin' the nasty little bugs in the social woodwork.

[Gregor]

Hi all...hope everything is well with you. I don't have time to read the thread, but my thoughts are with you. Still in Italy....amazing summer. Later alligators!!!

[rhet 2]

Hi all...hope everything is well with you. I don't have time to read the thread, but my thoughts are with you. Still in Italy....amazing summer. Later alligators!!!

Goof off!

Enjoy, dear heart. Enjoy.

[jwil59]

Hi all...hope everything is well with you. I don't have time to read the thread, but my thoughts are with you. Still in Italy....amazing summer. Later alligators!!!

man they have some great wine in Italy

[rhet 2]

man they have some great wine in Italy

Not as much as they used to have. I know this great little importer guy............ :))

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Not as much as they used to have. I know this great little importer guy............ :))

:lol: funny.......

Mrs. G......you stay out on vacation as long as possible honey.......you can tell us all about it when you get home.

Howz everyone else doing? OK?
Been a bit of craziness here at my homestead this week....nephew went home yesterday afternoon.....had our little great niece that just turned one stay with us for a few days just prior to leaving with her uncle. Fun and exhausting all at the same time!

I can smell September creeping into our August air.....school will be in session soon. I am not one who will have to go school supply shopping this year. It will be the first time in absolute years that I have not had to do so. Megan is self reliant and doing beautifully. She started her new job this last Monday....the restaurant is very very upper scale dinning. She was sooooooo nervous her first day.....but came home triumphant and standing tall. The caterpillar has burst forth a butterfly. :hug: I am very proud of her.

Well off to get this poor house of mine cleaned up from so much company. Keeping you all in my thoughts....praying that God's blessing rain down upon you and yours....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

:lol: funny.......

Mrs. G......you stay out on vacation as long as possible honey.......you can tell us all about it when you get home.

Howz everyone else doing? OK?
Been a bit of craziness here at my homestead this week....nephew went home yesterday afternoon.....had our little great niece that just turned one stay with us for a few days just prior to leaving with her uncle. Fun and exhausting all at the same time!

I can smell September creeping into our August air.....school will be in session soon. I am not one who will have to go school supply shopping this year. It will be the first time in absolute years that I have not had to do so. Megan is self reliant and doing beautifully. She started her new job this last Monday....the restaurant is very very upper scale dinning. She was sooooooo nervous her first day.....but came home triumphant and standing tall. The caterpillar has burst forth a butterfly. :hug: I am very proud of her.

Well off to get this poor house of mine cleaned up from so much company. Keeping you all in my thoughts....praying that God's blessing rain down upon you and yours....

~Mysty

I can hardly wait for school to start up again -- I get the grandkids after school!

Your Megan is a true gift from the LORD. I'm glad you treasure her.

My Beth called last night: her eldest went off to his first Youth Evangelism Conference and empty nest syndrome hit like Katrina. It is good -- and hard -- at one and the same time to see your children grow into the beautiful, totally independent adults they should be. My Beth is forever and always only 19 1/2" long in my own heart, anyway, yet she's the mother of a teenager -- and I'm so very proud of her and her children, too. sigh

How is your mother doing?

[Gregor]

Hi all...what a summer it has been.

The month in England was intense but also incredible. I absolutely feel as if I've mastered Chaucer, but more so, developed the skills to really delve into difficult literature on a level I never had before.

My family in Italy was beyond warm and gracious. My mother's stories took form and my journey in this life felt completed.

Mr. G. and my kids joined me for a week, and all went very well. As far as he goes, all seems good right now and he is gaining strength. He managed to walk Pompeii and up a mountain to a castle so I'd say he literally and figuratively has come quite a distance in a short amount of time!!!!

I don't have time to go through many past posts, so could you, would you send me updates on how you all are doing. G

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Welcome Home Mrs. G!.....you were missed by all......yet we all were so glad that you were able to have this time away.

Everything is ok here.....last of the nutty schedules and hurrly burrly of the season is done with....August being my quite month; I look forward to respite.

Mom is almost done with chemo. 3 more treatments to go. I haven't heard from her now in a few days....so today I'll call to check up on her.

All my good thoughts and well wishes to you n Mr. G. I want to hear all about dear old Chaucer.....I had a lit teacher back in high school who used to torture us with him.....lol.

~Mysty

[jwil59]

Hi all...what a summer it has been.

The month in England was intense but also incredible. I absolutely feel as if I've mastered Chaucer, but more so, developed the skills to really delve into difficult literature on a level I never had before.

My family in Italy was beyond warm and gracious. My mother's stories took form and my journey in this life felt completed.

Mr. G. and my kids joined me for a week, and all went very well. As far as he goes, all seems good right now and he is gaining strength. He managed to walk Pompeii and up a mountain to a castle so I'd say he literally and figuratively has come quite a distance in a short amount of time!!!!

I don't have time to go through many past posts, so could you, would you send me updates on how you all are doing. G

So great to hear Mr G is doing that well. I continue to pray for you both.

Welcome home

[jwil59]

Welcome Home Mrs. G!.....you were missed by all......yet we all were so glad that you were able to have this time away.

Everything is ok here.....last of the nutty schedules and hurrly burrly of the season is done with....August being my quite month; I look forward to respite.

Mom is almost done with chemo. 3 more treatments to go. I haven't heard from her now in a few days....so today I'll call to check up on her.

All my good thoughts and well wishes to you n Mr. G. I want to hear all about dear old Chaucer.....I had a lit teacher back in high school who used to torture us with him.....lol.

~Mysty

I am praying for your mom friend

[rhet 2]

Hi all...what a summer it has been.

The month in England was intense but also incredible. I absolutely feel as if I've mastered Chaucer, but more so, developed the skills to really delve into difficult literature on a level I never had before.

My family in Italy was beyond warm and gracious. My mother's stories took form and my journey in this life felt completed.

Mr. G. and my kids joined me for a week, and all went very well. As far as he goes, all seems good right now and he is gaining strength. He managed to walk Pompeii and up a mountain to a castle so I'd say he literally and figuratively has come quite a distance in a short amount of time!!!!

I don't have time to go through many past posts, so could you, would you send me updates on how you all are doing. G

I'm thrilled for you. A week with the whole family in Italy is a dream to rejoice over.

I'd love to kibbutz with you about Chaucer. He's one of my absolute favorites of all time. His Parliament of the Fowls has always "rocked my boat"!

And wow! Mr. G. has made some kind of progress!

Praying the progress continues -- and for the upcoming school year.

[rhet 2]

Welcome Home Mrs. G!.....you were missed by all......yet we all were so glad that you were able to have this time away.

Everything is ok here.....last of the nutty schedules and hurrly burrly of the season is done with....August being my quite month; I look forward to respite.

Mom is almost done with chemo. 3 more treatments to go. I haven't heard from her now in a few days....so today I'll call to check up on her.

All my good thoughts and well wishes to you n Mr. G. I want to hear all about dear old Chaucer.....I had a lit teacher back in high school who used to torture us with him.....lol.

~Mysty

Updates?

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Updates?

I've been woefully amiss in my updates of late.....to which I am sorry about that. Isn't it funny how bits of life can just over run your day to day....and then at other times life seems to stand still as if waiting for the grass to grow? I could use some grass growing time....lol.

This week is chemo week for Mom. The pain didn't really leave her this last time....and I know emotionally she was struggling for not getting her one week of respite before her next chemo appointment. I think it is more the Prednisone that is making her feel a post flu ache. It could be due to the last stretch of chemo has finally found it's plateau in her system....and is tearing down the cancer cells at a faster rate along with normal cells. It could be her age and disease working against her.....it could be all three.

So, Friday I'll drive Mom up to rat poison day...and Saturday for her nulasta shot....and pray some comfort will be attained if I can talk her into taking some pain meds. She has decided that her pain meds make her stomach woozie....and so will not take them now even when in active growing pain. she is stubborn to the core once she gets an idea in her mind....and harder then hell to shake loose from that idea once she's latched onto it. God give me the grace and strength to patiently talk her into what is best for her. I've had some pretty tough patients in my time...but when it's your Mom....they take the cake.

On a happier note...Mark and I celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary last night. We spent the whole day together....which was lovely. We went to see the movie Hancock....which I liked....came home and got ready for dinner....and out the door we went again. We went to Bennihanas.....a Japanese type/style restaurant. (Not sure if they are everywhere or just here in the West Coast/Hawaii) It's always a good time...they cook your food right in front of you. A show and dinner as we put it.....lol.

So, now it's back to the ole day to day grind of life. Thankfully no more events or occasions to prepare for .....and truthfully, I'm more then glad for it. Megan begins college the last week in August.....to which I don't have to do anything further in that vein....it's all her's.

I did send off the last thank you note today.....hard to get addresses these days from people....geesh...what an ordeal. Last thing left to do now is drop off the dress that our hostess had graciously offered and allowed me to borrow. I'm dreading it really. Poor woman wrapped herself inside a tiz fit and ran with it the day of the wedding....I've had more people tell me horror stories about her behavior and verbal tyraids then I care to mention. Which, how embarrassing for me to have to hear that!....One last hurdle....and I'm free and clear of anything wedding related......Thank the Lord!!!

Thank you Rhet and Jwil for your well wishes and prayers.....as always they are appreciated!

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers,

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

I've been woefully amiss in my updates of late.....to which I am sorry about that. Isn't it funny how bits of life can just over run your day to day....and then at other times life seems to stand still as if waiting for the grass to grow? I could use some grass growing time....lol.

This week is chemo week for Mom. The pain didn't really leave her this last time....and I know emotionally she was struggling for not getting her one week of respite before her next chemo appointment. I think it is more the Prednisone that is making her feel a post flu ache. It could be due to the last stretch of chemo has finally found it's plateau in her system....and is tearing down the cancer cells at a faster rate along with normal cells. It could be her age and disease working against her.....it could be all three.

So, Friday I'll drive Mom up to rat poison day...and Saturday for her nulasta shot....and pray some comfort will be attained if I can talk her into taking some pain meds. She has decided that her pain meds make her stomach woozie....and so will not take them now even when in active growing pain. she is stubborn to the core once she gets an idea in her mind....and harder then hell to shake loose from that idea once she's latched onto it. God give me the grace and strength to patiently talk her into what is best for her. I've had some pretty tough patients in my time...but when it's your Mom....they take the cake.

On a happier note...Mark and I celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary last night. We spent the whole day together....which was lovely. We went to see the movie Hancock....which I liked....came home and got ready for dinner....and out the door we went again. We went to Bennihanas.....a Japanese type/style restaurant. (Not sure if they are everywhere or just here in the West Coast/Hawaii) It's always a good time...they cook your food right in front of you. A show and dinner as we put it.....lol.

So, now it's back to the ole day to day grind of life. Thankfully no more events or occasions to prepare for .....and truthfully, I'm more then glad for it. Megan begins college the last week in August.....to which I don't have to do anything further in that vein....it's all her's.

I did send off the last thank you note today.....hard to get addresses these days from people....geesh...what an ordeal. Last thing left to do now is drop off the dress that our hostess had graciously offered and allowed me to borrow. I'm dreading it really. Poor woman wrapped herself inside a tiz fit and ran with it the day of the wedding....I've had more people tell me horror stories about her behavior and verbal tyraids then I care to mention. Which, how embarrassing for me to have to hear that!....One last hurdle....and I'm free and clear of anything wedding related......Thank the Lord!!!

Thank you Rhet and Jwil for your well wishes and prayers.....as always they are appreciated!

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers,

~Mysty

Poor luv!

What a mess when a co-hostess cuts up ugly! Then YOU get stuck making amends because everybody dumps on you instead of on her, because they know she won't even try. I pray the meet up to return the dress is SHORT and FAST and NOTHING to worry you dear heart and mind. And that subsequent meetings be the same -- and few and far between. :))

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! Sounds like you had fun. And 24 years is something to be honestly proud of! :clap:

In all honesty, my sympathies are with your mother on the pain meds. Mine make me nauseaus and headachy and all energy-less, too -- so I have to be really desperate before I take them. I'd rather grit it out and avoid the lethargy/sickie feeling they cause just so I can do stuff I want or need done.

But, I still pray she'll see the light and at least take some more help than she has been doing just to keep the pain managable, at least.

She's blessed to have such a daughter as you. May your time together help form strong heart-warming memories that will hold you up for the rest of your own life -- and hold her up for the rest of hers, as well.

[Gregor]

On a happier note...Mark and I celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary last night.
~Mysty

Wait...your anniversary is August 5th? Ours is too: 30 years for us yesterday! CONGRATS.

[Gregor]

I think it is more the Prednisone that is making her feel a post flu ache. It could be due to the last stretch of chemo has finally found it's plateau in her system....and is tearing down the cancer cells at a faster rate along with normal cells. It could be her age and disease working against her.....it could be all three.

So, Friday I'll drive Mom up to rat poison day...and Saturday for her nulasta shot....and pray some comfort will be attained if I can talk her into taking some pain meds.

~Mysty

Prednisone always had really, really bad effects on Mr. G. So did his nulasta shot. We were lucky because our insurance company allowed me to give him the shots so we didn't have to travel back and forth on shot days. Sorry your mom is suffering through this. I know how difficult it can be.

[Gregor]

I'm thrilled for you. A week with the whole family in Italy is a dream to rejoice over.

I'd love to kibbutz with you about Chaucer. He's one of my absolute favorites of all time. His Parliament of the Fowls has always "rocked my boat"!

And wow! Mr. G. has made some kind of progress!

Praying the progress continues -- and for the upcoming school year.

I will send you tons of Chaucer stuff. I just have to get my head around again...especially since I have to submit a paper!

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Poor luv!

What a mess when a co-hostess cuts up ugly! Then YOU get stuck making amends because everybody dumps on you instead of on her, because they know she won't even try. I pray the meet up to return the dress is SHORT and FAST and NOTHING to worry you dear heart and mind. And that subsequent meetings be the same -- and few and far between. :))

You and me both! I'll have to call her soon.....maybe I can get it done this weekend with some other 'house keeping' that I need to do in a few other area's. My term on a PTA board is over....but one wouldn't know it with the way my phone has been ringing off the hook. So....this weekend I'll play Pontius Pilot and wash my hands of it all. :shhh: At least my phone will stop ringing with silly people asking silly things of me.......:rolleyes:

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! Sounds like you had fun. And 24 years is something to be honestly proud of! :clap:

Thank you....and I appreciate your well wishes for us. I swear, it feels as though our own wedding was just the other day.....time is a funny thing.

In all honesty, my sympathies are with your mother on the pain meds. Mine make me nauseaus and headachy and all energy-less, too -- so I have to be really desperate before I take them. I'd rather grit it out and avoid the lethargy/sickie feeling they cause just so I can do stuff I want or need done.

Exactly the sentiments that my Mother states and shares with you. So, here is the question of the day...what would you need to hear from your own daughter to help you help yourself in the pain pill taking department?

But, I still pray she'll see the light and at least take some more help than she has been doing just to keep the pain managable, at least.

You and me both Rhet.....you and me both.

She's blessed to have such a daughter as you. May your time together help form strong heart-warming memories that will hold you up for the rest of your own life -- and hold her up for the rest of hers, as well.

There are times I feel she is as far away as Antarctica; other times open and loving and as close to me as I am to my own three lovely daughters. This is such an odd and new pathway to travel with her....no formed well worn path to follow....I pray that as hard as it is at times to walk along side her; that the effort will be worth the labor I'm putting forth. Lots of outer family type issues are coming out into the open now....none directly connected to me or my life as yet...that I know she is wadding through. In that, I am of little help to her. Oddly enough, I don't feel bad about my indifference or beat myself up over my lack of participation within outer family issues. I have dealt with those issues as they relate to me personally, and let them go. Mom however, is still in the fight so to speak. I am being as patient as I am able to muster.

I remember thinking as a young girl how wonderful it would be once I reached adulthood.....how freeing and able to speak openly on those things that troubled my heart with my family. How little I understood then what my aged self knows now.

What's that saying? That which does not kill us makes us stronger? I want to meet the person who came up with that little gem! ;)

My thoughts and prayers are with you all...
God bless you and yours,

~Mysty

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Wait...your anniversary is August 5th? Ours is too: 30 years for us yesterday! CONGRATS.

August 4th is our anniversary. It will be 25 years next year....which blows my mind to be honest. I think that is the silver anniversary isn't it?

Congratulations on your own celebration Mrs. G.....how wonderful that you've had 30 wonderful years together....a true accomplishment in this day and age!

May the Good Lord love and keep you both in his loving sight....

~Mysty

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Prednisone always had really, really bad effects on Mr. G. So did his nulasta shot. We were lucky because our insurance company allowed me to give him the shots so we didn't have to travel back and forth on shot days. Sorry your mom is suffering through this. I know how difficult it can be.

I wonder if they would allow me to give her the shot? I'll ask them today......that would save some time, money in gas and energy on her part.

Thanks for the idea Mrs. G!
Howz Mr . G doing? Feeling good I hope? did he enjoy his summer vacation? I pray he did. Climbing mountains in Greece/Italy....no better way to enjoy this beautiful world then that in my book. I'm so glad he went with you on part of this journey. So very glad......:hug:

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

You and me both! I'll have to call her soon.....maybe I can get it done this weekend with some other 'house keeping' that I need to do in a few other area's. My term on a PTA board is over....but one wouldn't know it with the way my phone has been ringing off the hook. So....this weekend I'll play Pontius Pilot and wash my hands of it all. :shhh: At least my phone will stop ringing with silly people asking silly things of me.......:rolleyes:



Thank you....and I appreciate your well wishes for us. I swear, it feels as though our own wedding was just the other day.....time is a funny thing.



Exactly the sentiments that my Mother states and shares with you. So, here is the question of the day...what would you need to hear from your own daughter to help you help yourself in the pain pill taking department?



You and me both Rhet.....you and me both.



There are times I feel she is as far away as Antarctica; other times open and loving and as close to me as I am to my own three lovely daughters. This is such an odd and new pathway to travel with her....no formed well worn path to follow....I pray that as hard as it is at times to walk along side her; that the effort will be worth the labor I'm putting forth. Lots of outer family type issues are coming out into the open now....none directly connected to me or my life as yet...that I know she is wadding through. In that, I am of little help to her. Oddly enough, I don't feel bad about my indifference or beat myself up over my lack of participation within outer family issues. I have dealt with those issues as they relate to me personally, and let them go. Mom however, is still in the fight so to speak. I am being as patient as I am able to muster.

I remember thinking as a young girl how wonderful it would be once I reached adulthood.....how freeing and able to speak openly on those things that troubled my heart with my family. How little I understood then what my aged self knows now.

What's that saying? That which does not kill us makes us stronger? I want to meet the person who came up with that little gem! ;)

My thoughts and prayers are with you all...
God bless you and yours,

~Mysty

My girls look at me all weepy eyed sad-sack style and say something like, "Please, Mom? I just can't stand the thought of you hurting like this." I cave in like pudding in the hot noon day sun.

Though Kate, the youngest still at home, has a way of just slamming the pill down in front of me and standing there all silent and stern military drill sergeant style until I swallow it. Which I do, just so she'll stop glaring at me.

Don't know if you could pull off either tactic with your own mother, though.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

My girls look at me all weepy eyed sad-sack style and say something like, "Please, Mom? I just can't stand the thought of you hurting like this." I cave in like pudding in the hot noon day sun.

Though Kate, the youngest still at home, has a way of just slamming the pill down in front of me and standing there all silent and stern military drill sergeant style until I swallow it. Which I do, just so she'll stop glaring at me.

Don't know if you could pull off either tactic with your own mother, though.

Wow....your girls are darn good! Cleaver too! LOL

The first may or may not work...depends on where Mom heart and head are that day.....believe it or not..the drill sarg may work better. How odd is that ?

Katie is your youngest?...and gives you a run for your money too I bet. How old is Katie? She sounds like our Megan. What do you take pain meds for honey? Last few posts on this topic you've mentioned your own need to take pain meds. Guess my brain was on summer break and I didn't even think long on it. Sorry about that.......

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Wow....your girls are darn good! Cleaver too! LOL

The first may or may not work...depends on where Mom heart and head are that day.....believe it or not..the drill sarg may work better. How odd is that ?

Katie is your youngest?...and gives you a run for your money too I bet. How old is Katie? She sounds like our Megan. What do you take pain meds for honey? Last few posts on this topic you've mentioned your own need to take pain meds. Guess my brain was on summer break and I didn't even think long on it. Sorry about that.......

~Mysty

I took a beating from a student who was ****ed off over flunking my course -- severe damage to bones and kidneys with a lot of aches and general weakness -- like a permanently unmovable left elbow -- plus, I've got a brain aneurysm that is inoperable and causes mega headaches.

It's not severe most days. Just sometimes.

Kate's 27, a grad student working on a history doctorate, who has yet to meet a man she can endure for more than a couple of months -- she's WAY too picky, I think -- but it's her life, not mine. Though I worry about what happens to her when her dad and I aren't here anymore.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

I took a beating from a student who was ****ed off over flunking my course -- severe damage to bones and kidneys with a lot of aches and general weakness -- like a permanently unmovable left elbow -- plus, I've got a brain aneurysm that is inoperable and causes mega headaches.

:eek::eek::eek: Holy Moley Rhet!! Dear flying frogs honey......tell me that the student got his too? As in suspended with some long needed therapy and jail time? What is wrong with people today? I end up shaking my head as I hear the horror stories of what people do to one another over silly every day things. I just don't understand it. I am sorry to hear it. Any type of chronic medical condition can seem to heavy to bear some times.

It's not severe most days. Just sometimes.

Thank the Good Lord for his miracles......

Kate's 27, a grad student working on a history doctorate, who has yet to meet a man she can endure for more than a couple of months -- she's WAY too picky, I think -- but it's her life, not mine. Though I worry about what happens to her when her dad and I aren't here anymore.

;) She sounds like our Megan. God has a direct purpose for His children...of this I have no doubt. Her talents and skills will be of use to Him during her life; for a purpose that no one but He can see. God bless the man who is man enough to stand before her and be honest and loving. That will be the man for her. ;)

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

:eek::eek::eek: Holy Moley Rhet!! Dear flying frogs honey......tell me that the student got his too? As in suspended with some long needed therapy and jail time? What is wrong with people today? I end up shaking my head as I hear the horror stories of what people do to one another over silly every day things. I just don't understand it. I am sorry to hear it. Any type of chronic medical condition can seem to heavy to bear some times.



Thank the Good Lord for his miracles......



;) She sounds like our Megan. God has a direct purpose for His children...of this I have no doubt. Her talents and skills will be of use to Him during her life; for a purpose that no one but He can see. God bless the man who is man enough to stand before her and be honest and loving. That will be the man for her. ;)

~Mysty

His dad was a high-powered defense attorney in Houston. No, he didn't go to jail. But he didn't get enrolled in UT ever again, either.

Oh, well.

I pray there is such a man for her. I don't want her to be alone.

How is your mother?

[Gregor]

His dad was a high-powered defense attorney in Houston. No, he didn't go to jail. But he didn't get enrolled in UT ever again, either.


Did you wage a civil suit against him??? Is it too late??????????????

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[rhet 2]

Did you wage a civil suit against him??? Is it too late??????????????

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Way too late.

It's over and done with. I lived. And I thrive. He lives -- but I seriously doubt he has the wherewithal to ever thrive -- only to continue crawling through the world like a worm.

IF the drugs haven't killed him by now. PCP, ecstasy, you name it -- he was doing it -- which is why he missed more than half the classes and never wrote a single essay so he flunked the course in the first place.

All his father did was enable more of the same self-destruction. :wall:

I stopped being angry a long time ago -- once I realized that he really didn't hurt me at all, not in a way that matters -- merely gave me cause to sit up and reassess much of what I had just assumed to be true without ever thinking through. The pain he caused forced me to change, to grow, to see the world through eyes more open than before -- and that's a good thing.

[Gregor]

Way too late.

It's over and done with. I lived. And I thrive. He lives -- but I seriously doubt he has the wherewithal to ever thrive -- only to continue crawling through the world like a worm.

IF the drugs haven't killed him by now. PCP, ecstasy, you name it -- he was doing it -- which is why he missed more than half the classes and never wrote a single essay so he flunked the course in the first place.

All his father did was enable more of the same self-destruction. :wall:

I stopped being angry a long time ago -- once I realized that he really didn't hurt me at all, not in a way that matters -- merely gave me cause to sit up and reassess much of what I had just assumed to be true without ever thinking through. The pain he caused forced me to change, to grow, to see the world through eyes more open than before -- and that's a good thing.

Well I'm glad you could get past it. I can't! I would punch him in the nose.

[rhet 2]

Well I'm glad you could get past it. I can't! I would punch him in the nose.

:))

Now you sound like my husband and my sons-in-law -- they wanted to go hunting. :))

[Gregor]

:))

Now you sound like my husband and my sons-in-law -- they wanted to go hunting. :))

I don't blame that at all....

Anyone want to write a Chaucer paper for me??? Please!:pray::pray::pray:

[rhet 2]

I don't blame that at all....

Anyone want to write a Chaucer paper for me??? Please!:pray::pray::pray:

No, but I'll pray for you -- and, if you need a friendly ear to run ideas past, send me a pm.

Poor luv. I HATE writing essays. :hug:

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

His dad was a high-powered defense attorney in Houston. No, he didn't go to jail. But he didn't get enrolled in UT ever again, either.

Oh, well.

I pray there is such a man for her. I don't want her to be alone.

How is your mother?

Mom has only two chemo treatments left now.....the finish line is within sight! :pray:

This last set of treatments really took it out of her; I can not only see its affects on her body, but I can hear it in her voice and in her actions. I understand it is part of the death and dying process to go through all these emotions......I've helped literally hundreds go through this step.......but it has become so tenuously real in my own personal life.....which bears weight of its own upon my heart; that it is admittedly difficult at times for me to walk through this process with her.

Saturday was her Nulasta shot....so quick day at the doctor office. She bought us Mocha's and was openly loving and soft. Which is a blessing in and of itself within my own personal need and wants; but it too carries its own terrible weight upon my heart. I'm toughed like a leather hide emotionally due to the years of physical abuse, emotional abuse and mental abuse that I endured under the care of my mother. So to have these moments where I have a mother that is soft and loving is enough to throw me.

I embraced her, listened to her, told her I loved her, and of course offered for the umpteenth time to clean for her or help her with anything she may need help with. She never takes me up on it though. I love my Mother...and wish to help where ever I can to make this process as easy as possible for her....even if my own issues scream to the surface.

It's been a long long week for me. Other issues that don't have a family connection are still relevant and floating around me in my day to day. For years I have given service within PTA. Oh...I have met 'those' women...know what they are all about.....and learned to just do my job and stay as far away from them as possible. I believe I mentioned that I just spent my last year helping two girlfriends out at their PTA even though I didn't have a child enrolled at that school. I cleared up their entire financial record and books that had been horrifically kept. Our work met the standard and exceeded it. Well of course it did; I used to be the person who sat on the district seat and teach the units how to keep their books and run a PTA. So anyway...I've got this principal who has her skirt in a bunch...has made a huge mess of things.....called in some of my old cronies from district to help her build a board of her liking; subverting our normal policies and procedures.

Here is the rub....they are doing exactly what they themselves taught me years ago not to do. They are going outside of the lines of our P&P just to keep this principal quite. See, Cal. State board PTA is investigating a possible embezzlement from 10 or so years ago that has a long sitting district person in the middle of it. So....I've got a huge mess......hurt feelings from women who have only served in PTA for a few years....and are mad as hell. Sunday I played Pontius Pilot....and washed my hands of it. Today however, I go and suspend the banking account until such time I feel a actual elected board is in place...and will then take the suspension off.

Stupid drama in an area that really doesn't matter....yet steals my energy and time as though it were much more personal. Thank the Lord Megan is out of public school!!!!

So that's my week in a nutshell.....What about you guys?......

Mrs. G.....what kind of essay on Chaucer do you have to write? Maybe I can help if I knew what you needed or had to write? Let me know what I can do for you.

big hugs to you all,

~Mysty

[Gregor]

No, but I'll pray for you -- and, if you need a friendly ear to run ideas past, send me a pm.

Poor luv. I HATE writing essays. :hug:


Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....here is the problem: I REALLY felt as if I had mastered Chaucer from my month long pilgrimage (pardon the bad pun...and pardon the pardoner's bad pun on top of the original bad pun) to England. Now, though, that I've started the research, I am completely humbled.

To you and Mysty:

This is where I'm at right now:

Part 1: Scholarly Analysis

Chaucer's Canterbury Tales function on many different levels. One of those levels is as an allegory for the writer and his craft. Three tales that best exemplify this metaphor are The Nun's Priest's Tale, The Manciple, and The Canon's Yeoman. Additionally, Chaucer's retraction can be seen as his ultimate statement about the power of the written word and its effect on earth and beyond. It is possible to support that Chaucer recognizes the writer as the Alchemist--one who turns common elements into gold or one who tries to, but whom can never achieve God's success. Through a study of literary style and technique, these particular works, and Chaucer's life and times, one finds in The Canterbury Tales a complicated and sophisticated portrait of the writing craft and its master. In the image of the writer, are created characters and their tales--in essence, lives are given form, that are trumped only by God Himself.

Part 2:Practical Application

My students struggle with what to write and how to incorporate literary techniques into their works. In this regard they are the experts on the writing process, its limitations and its extraordinary power. Using whatever genre they choose: poetry, the short story, or the screenplay or play, they will create a work that is a metaphor for the writer and his craft.

Process:
We will begin by reading The Canterbury Tales Prologue and discussing the techniques employed by Chaucer to create narrators who will tell tales that reflect on them, even if the tales themselves are not theirs. The three tales I have studied along with the retraction will be read by my students and discussed. They will then choose a genre and write a work that is a metaphor for the writer and his craft.

My head is going in so many different directions, it's hard to maintain focus. For instance, are we nothing more than stories in God's book? Is God the ultimate alchemist? Like alchemy, is writing an addiction, an attempt to usurp that which God creates, but one, like alchemy, at which all men must fail by comparison?

You get it...and I think now I get it too. Ow. LOL...wonder if Judge Judy is on yet.

[Gregor]

BTW: Who ever imagined two years ago that I'd say my biggest obstacle to overcome right now is writing a paper! How GLORIOUS is that?

[rhet 2]

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....here is the problem: I REALLY felt as if I had mastered Chaucer from my month long pilgrimage (pardon the bad pun...and pardon the pardoner's bad pun on top of the original bad pun) to England. Now, though, that I've started the research, I am completely humbled.

To you and Mysty:

This is where I'm at right now:

Part 1: Scholarly Analysis

Chaucer's Canterbury Tales function on many different levels. One of those levels is as an allegory for the writer and his craft. Three tales that best exemplify this metaphor are The Nun's Priest's Tale, The Manciple, and The Canon's Yeoman. Additionally, Chaucer's retraction can be seen as his ultimate statement about the power of the written word and its effect on earth and beyond. It is possible to support that Chaucer recognizes the writer as the Alchemist--one who turns common elements into gold or one who tries to, but whom can never achieve God's success. Through a study of literary style and technique, these particular works, and Chaucer's life and times, one finds in The Canterbury Tales a complicated and sophisticated portrait of the writing craft and its master. In the image of the writer, are created characters and their tales--in essence, lives are given form, that are trumped only by God Himself.

Part 2:Practical Application

My students struggle with what to write and how to incorporate literary techniques into their works. In this regard they are the experts on the writing process, its limitations and its extraordinary power. Using whatever genre they choose: poetry, the short story, or the screenplay or play, they will create a work that is a metaphor for the writer and his craft.

Process:
We will begin by reading The Canterbury Tales Prologue and discussing the techniques employed by Chaucer to create narrators who will tell tales that reflect on them, even if the tales themselves are not theirs. The three tales I have studied along with the retraction will be read by my students and discussed. They will then choose a genre and write a work that is a metaphor for the writer and his craft.

My head is going in so many different directions, it's hard to maintain focus. For instance, are we nothing more than stories in God's book? Is God the ultimate alchemist? Like alchemy, is writing an addiction, an attempt to usurp that which God creates, but one, like alchemy, at which all men must fail by comparison?

You get it...and I think now I get it too. Ow. LOL...wonder if Judge Judy is on yet.

:))

Always works that way: try to tell somebody else what the essay is all about and watch the foggy mists evaporate when lightbulbs go on!

BTW: look at the Narrator's own story -- how he starts out with a morally improving tale and the Host ridicules him into changing to a purely "for fun" tale instead.

The Tales are an emboitement structure -- a story within a story -- and WERE, IMO, intended to duplicate the Decameron, but Chaucer died before finishing it. In emboitement structure, the material in the exact geographic center of the work is where the author most clearly and directly develops the theme of the entire piece. And the Narrator's episode is that centre, directly related to the role of the Story Teller (the writer).

If I understood the fullness of Chaucer's work, I'd be the genius instead of him. NOBODY knows Chaucer. Just bits and pieces of Chaucer, sensed and felt so that you spend a lifetime trying to define exactly what it is you sense and feel. Which is why Chaucer -- and Shakespeare, Dryden, Pope -- well, they NEVER bore me.

I should love to read the paper when you finish. I think you will help me grasp some of what I, too, sense but have never had enough time to chase down and define.

[rhet 2]

Mom has only two chemo treatments left now.....the finish line is within sight! :pray:

This last set of treatments really took it out of her; I can not only see its affects on her body, but I can hear it in her voice and in her actions. I understand it is part of the death and dying process to go through all these emotions......I've helped literally hundreds go through this step.......but it has become so tenuously real in my own personal life.....which bears weight of its own upon my heart; that it is admittedly difficult at times for me to walk through this process with her.

Saturday was her Nulasta shot....so quick day at the doctor office. She bought us Mocha's and was openly loving and soft. Which is a blessing in and of itself within my own personal need and wants; but it too carries its own terrible weight upon my heart. I'm toughed like a leather hide emotionally due to the years of physical abuse, emotional abuse and mental abuse that I endured under the care of my mother. So to have these moments where I have a mother that is soft and loving is enough to throw me.

I embraced her, listened to her, told her I loved her, and of course offered for the umpteenth time to clean for her or help her with anything she may need help with. She never takes me up on it though. I love my Mother...and wish to help where ever I can to make this process as easy as possible for her....even if my own issues scream to the surface.

It's been a long long week for me. Other issues that don't have a family connection are still relevant and floating around me in my day to day. For years I have given service within PTA. Oh...I have met 'those' women...know what they are all about.....and learned to just do my job and stay as far away from them as possible. I believe I mentioned that I just spent my last year helping two girlfriends out at their PTA even though I didn't have a child enrolled at that school. I cleared up their entire financial record and books that had been horrifically kept. Our work met the standard and exceeded it. Well of course it did; I used to be the person who sat on the district seat and teach the units how to keep their books and run a PTA. So anyway...I've got this principal who has her skirt in a bunch...has made a huge mess of things.....called in some of my old cronies from district to help her build a board of her liking; subverting our normal policies and procedures.

Here is the rub....they are doing exactly what they themselves taught me years ago not to do. They are going outside of the lines of our P&P just to keep this principal quite. See, Cal. State board PTA is investigating a possible embezzlement from 10 or so years ago that has a long sitting district person in the middle of it. So....I've got a huge mess......hurt feelings from women who have only served in PTA for a few years....and are mad as hell. Sunday I played Pontius Pilot....and washed my hands of it. Today however, I go and suspend the banking account until such time I feel a actual elected board is in place...and will then take the suspension off.

Stupid drama in an area that really doesn't matter....yet steals my energy and time as though it were much more personal. Thank the Lord Megan is out of public school!!!!

So that's my week in a nutshell.....What about you guys?......

Mrs. G.....what kind of essay on Chaucer do you have to write? Maybe I can help if I knew what you needed or had to write? Let me know what I can do for you.

big hugs to you all,

~Mysty

This PTA crap doesn't matter that much to you anymore -- but it DOES matter intensely to others. You are generous to care at all.

I know the feeling with your mother. Just thank God that FINALLY you have the relationship you craved all those years and wallow in the affection while you may. Try not to ponder the whys and wherefores too much -- difficult to do, I know -- just wallow in having this opportunity at last for as long as it lasts in the here and now.

Super hugs.

[Gregor]

:))

Always works that way: try to tell somebody else what the essay is all about and watch the foggy mists evaporate when lightbulbs go on!

BTW: look at the Narrator's own story -- how he starts out with a morally improving tale and the Host ridicules him into changing to a purely "for fun" tale instead.

The Tales are an emboitement structure -- a story within a story -- and WERE, IMO, intended to duplicate the Decameron, but Chaucer died before finishing it. In emboitement structure, the material in the exact geographic center of the work is where the author most clearly and directly develops the theme of the entire piece. And the Narrator's episode is that centre, directly related to the role of the Story Teller (the writer).

If I understood the fullness of Chaucer's work, I'd be the genius instead of him. NOBODY knows Chaucer. Just bits and pieces of Chaucer, sensed and felt so that you spend a lifetime trying to define exactly what it is you sense and feel. Which is why Chaucer -- and Shakespeare, Dryden, Pope -- well, they NEVER bore me.

I should love to read the paper when you finish. I think you will help me grasp some of what I, too, sense but have never had enough time to chase down and define.

He certainly used the Decameron as one of his sources; although he never mentions Boccaccio anywhere, there is little doubt that some of Chaucer's stories exist in the Decameron. He did, though, mention Dante who was another source. The complexity of the narration is beyond incredible, because not only do you have the author as the author, the author as a character, the host as a character who comments on the author as a character, but also each tale has the narrator (most of whom were in the prologue, but not all) as well as the characters within each tale whose perceptions are also skew the stories. Then you have the commentary not just from Harry, but from the other characters as well. Ow. The beauty of Chaucer is we actually know more about him, his works, and his life than Shakespeare, for instance. That's, in part, what is so extraordinary about him. I just feel like each time I find the river I want to travel a thousand tributaries appear! I could spend a lifetime on this one paper alone, and, from what I learned, there are people who do just that. Imagine it!!! Anyway, TY for the feedback; it's nice to have a kindred spirit!

[rhet 2]

He certainly used the Decameron as one of his sources; although he never mentions Boccaccio anywhere, there is little doubt that some of Chaucer's stories exist in the Decameron. He did, though, mention Dante who was another source. The complexity of the narration is beyond incredible, because not only do you have the author as the author, the author as a character, the host as a character who comments on the author as a character, but also each tale has the narrator (most of whom were in the prologue, but not all) as well as the characters within each tale whose perceptions are also skew the stories. Then you have the commentary not just from Harry, but from the other characters as well. Ow. The beauty of Chaucer is we actually know more about him, his works, and his life than Shakespeare, for instance. That's, in part, what is so extraordinary about him. I just feel like each time I find the river I want to travel a thousand tributaries appear! I could spend a lifetime on this one paper alone, and, from what I learned, there are people who do just that. Imagine it!!! Anyway, TY for the feedback; it's nice to have a kindred spirit!

It is nice to share such fascinations with a kindred soul!

Your students are blessed in their teacher! :clap:

How is Mr. G? My prayers for your family continue.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....here is the problem: I REALLY felt as if I had mastered Chaucer from my month long pilgrimage (pardon the bad pun...and pardon the pardoner's bad pun on top of the original bad pun) to England. Now, though, that I've started the research, I am completely humbled.

To you and Mysty:

This is where I'm at right now:

Part 1: Scholarly Analysis

Chaucer's Canterbury Tales function on many different levels. One of those levels is as an allegory for the writer and his craft. Three tales that best exemplify this metaphor are The Nun's Priest's Tale, The Manciple, and The Canon's Yeoman. Additionally, Chaucer's retraction can be seen as his ultimate statement about the power of the written word and its effect on earth and beyond. It is possible to support that Chaucer recognizes the writer as the Alchemist--one who turns common elements into gold or one who tries to, but whom can never achieve God's success. Through a study of literary style and technique, these particular works, and Chaucer's life and times, one finds in The Canterbury Tales a complicated and sophisticated portrait of the writing craft and its master. In the image of the writer, are created characters and their tales--in essence, lives are given form, that are trumped only by God Himself.

Part 2:Practical Application

My students struggle with what to write and how to incorporate literary techniques into their works. In this regard they are the experts on the writing process, its limitations and its extraordinary power. Using whatever genre they choose: poetry, the short story, or the screenplay or play, they will create a work that is a metaphor for the writer and his craft.

Process:
We will begin by reading The Canterbury Tales Prologue and discussing the techniques employed by Chaucer to create narrators who will tell tales that reflect on them, even if the tales themselves are not theirs. The three tales I have studied along with the retraction will be read by my students and discussed. They will then choose a genre and write a work that is a metaphor for the writer and his craft.

My head is going in so many different directions, it's hard to maintain focus. For instance, are we nothing more than stories in God's book? Is God the ultimate alchemist? Like alchemy, is writing an addiction, an attempt to usurp that which God creates, but one, like alchemy, at which all men must fail by comparison?

You get it...and I think now I get it too. Ow. LOL...wonder if Judge Judy is on yet.

LOL...isn't it funny how describing something to someone can clarify that issue? Seems to me as though you have several great attack stances on what Sir Chaucer is all about.

I always found Chaucer to be a bit full of himself; and his over confidence in his ability to write...as well as far to wrapped in the power of the written word itself as a way of feeding his own personal ego/id. Granted, males need that full ego feeding....but imo; Chaucer takes it to a whole new level.

Through his own writtings/tales/stories, Chaucer proves out his own point between the poor(uneducated) and the educated (well to do society types) and how a just God that created everyone made this whole inequality between brothers. It is not until later that Chaucer shows us in his writing that it is man who creates the inequality; not God.

As pitiful as my base summation of Chaucer is....it's all I remember from Mrs. Roblickie....my Jr. year in H.S. Lit. teacher. Loved her class....but hated Chaucer!

Have you seen "A Knight Tale"? One of its characters is Chaucer. Cute story...it has Heath Ledger in it....but more importantly it gives a very real and human face to Chaucer as he interacts with three vagrant wanna be Lords; helping to disguise them by entering into the elite crowds of court. Could be something in there for your kids to learn about in a fun way. Not to mention...the actor who plays Chaucer...has a really cute naked but in the movie.....:redface:


My offer still stands. If I can do some of the boring research stuff....you have my hands willing and able to serve. Just give the word.

How is Mr. G feeling? Still good I hope? Have you recovered yet from your world tour?

~Mysty

[Gregor]

LOL...isn't it funny how describing something to someone can clarify that issue? Seems to me as though you have several great attack stances on what Sir Chaucer is all about.

I always found Chaucer to be a bit full of himself; and his over confidence in his ability to write...as well as far to wrapped in the power of the written word itself as a way of feeding his own personal ego/id. Granted, males need that full ego feeding....but imo; Chaucer takes it to a whole new level. OMG! I always thought the same thing, BUT the research I was doing last night reveals a humility in him that I missed. First of all, he attacks himself in the tales as being fat and unattractive. He also stares at the ground, a sign of humility. Reading some of the reveiws from his time, he had good reason to be haughty, but in truth he was defying many of the class structures that existed and in that regard could be seen as a rebel. His peasants may behave as such, but so do the clerical elite! As for his take on women, given the time in which he wrote, I'd say he was fairly progressive. Women as sexual beings got away with it more often than not, and men who tried to marry out of their age were paid back for it. I NEVER would have seen what I saw if not for the incredible gift I was given of studying under two Chaucerian masters. They are the editors of the Chaucer Review, and OMG Mystic...the doors they opened for me were incredible!!!

Through his own writtings/tales/stories, Chaucer proves out his own point between the poor(uneducated) and the educated (well to do society types) and how a just God that created everyone made this whole inequality between brothers. It is not until later that Chaucer shows us in his writing that it is man who creates the inequality; not God.

As pitiful as my base summation of Chaucer is....it's all I remember from Mrs. Roblickie....my Jr. year in H.S. Lit. teacher. Loved her class....but hated Chaucer! I am going to entirely change my approach to teaching Chaucer (and many other master works) when I start up again. More time allowing students the freedom to delve and more time requiring them to research! Poor kids.

Have you seen "A Knight Tale"? One of its characters is Chaucer. Cute story...it has Heath Ledger in it....but more importantly it gives a very real and human face to Chaucer as he interacts with three vagrant wanna be Lords; helping to disguise them by entering into the elite crowds of court. Could be something in there for your kids to learn about in a fun way. Not to mention...the actor who plays Chaucer...has a really cute naked but in the movie.....:redface: I'm all about naked men..heh...I am going to put this on my netflix RIGHT NOW! TY.


My offer still stands. If I can do some of the boring research stuff....you have my hands willing and able to serve. Just give the word. YOU and Rhet are AMAZING. TY, but I THINK I'm on it. Today I will try to do a thorough draft. If you guys don't mind, when I'm done, I might send it to you?! I know it's not what I could turn out given time, but right now my goal is just to get my ideas down on paper and handed in. I plan to spend much of the fall working on it, so I can enter it for the AWP conference which is in Chicago next year! (I'll get to spend some time with my baby!!!!)

How is Mr. G feeling? Still good I hope? Have you recovered yet from your world tour?

~MystyHe has had a horrible cough since he returned from Italy. He had it before and now after, but it was almost gone there. A million theories (like asthma, which he's had his whole life, aggravated by some natural irritant to the side effects of radiation) but it's been a concern to me only because it disrupts his sleep every night (and mine too)!!! He went for an allergy test yesterday, so hopefully all will turn out fine.

I'm still a bit off kilter, but that's cause I jumped into too many projects while never completing any. I think once the paper is done, I'll feel liberated and can move on!

TY so much for thinking of HIM and US! :-)

[Gregor]

It is nice to share such fascinations with a kindred soul!

Your students are blessed in their teacher! :clap:

How is Mr. G? My prayers for your family continue.

Agreed! And how lovely to be able to turn on my computer and be able to immediately access you and Mys!

[rhet 2]

OMG! I always thought the same thing, BUT the research I was doing last night reveals a humility in him that I missed. First of all, he attacks himself in the tales as being fat and unattractive. He also stares at the ground, a sign of humility. Reading some of the reveiws from his time, he had good reason to be haughty, but in truth he was defying many of the class structures that existed and in that regard could be seen as a rebel. His peasants may behave as such, but so do the clerical elite! As for his take on women, given the time in which he wrote, I'd say he was fairly progressive. Women as sexual beings got away with it more often than not, and men who tried to marry out of their age were paid back for it. I NEVER would have seen what I saw if not for the incredible gift I was given of studying under two Chaucerian masters. They are the editors of the Chaucer Review, and OMG Mystic...the doors they opened for me were incredible!!!
I am going to entirely change my approach to teaching Chaucer (and many other master works) when I start up again. More time allowing students the freedom to delve and more time requiring them to research! Poor kids.
I'm all about naked men..heh...I am going to put this on my netflix RIGHT NOW! TY.
YOU and Rhet are AMAZING. TY, but I THINK I'm on it. Today I will try to do a thorough draft. If you guys don't mind, when I'm done, I might send it to you?! I know it's not what I could turn out given time, but right now my goal is just to get my ideas down on paper and handed in. I plan to spend much of the fall working on it, so I can enter it for the AWP conference which is in Chicago next year! (I'll get to spend some time with my baby!!!!)

He has had a horrible cough since he returned from Italy. He had it before and now after, but it was almost gone there. A million theories (like asthma, which he's had his whole life, aggravated by some natural irritant to the side effects of radiation) but it's been a concern to me only because it disrupts his sleep every night (and mine too)!!! He went for an allergy test yesterday, so hopefully all will turn out fine.

I'm still a bit off kilter, but that's cause I jumped into too many projects while never completing any. I think once the paper is done, I'll feel liberated and can move on!

TY so much for thinking of HIM and US! :-)

Send me the draft by all means! It would be a joy to read.

Have you tried this one on your students? Identify your reaction to X passage -- did it "grab you" or not? Now, why do you think Chaucer's audience LOVED this stuff -- and you don't? What has changed in the world that makes YOU a different sort of audience than the one Chaucer (or whoever) was writing for? How do you know? Cite your sources, because guesswork is good, but INFORMED guesswork is even better.

[Gregor]

Chaucer has a bad attitude.

Not really, but I do...grrrrrrr...still plugging away! :pray::pray::pray:
Please let me get this paper done!

[rhet 2]

Chaucer has a bad attitude.

Not really, but I do...grrrrrrr...still plugging away! :pray::pray::pray:
Please let me get this paper done!

I pray you do.

Worst grade I ever made in my life was in a Chaucer course -- because I was bullheaded and obstinate and kept trying to prove an unprovable claim right up until the very last minute.

Your claim is definitely viable, unlike that abomination of mine had been.

You'll do it, luv. Just hand in there.

And I'll pray for the circulation in the fundamental portions of your anatomy while you SIT and struggle with the rottenly complex beast of a poem, shall I?

:hug:

[Gregor]

My prayers have been answered! I talked to the directors today who essentially said, "What are you? Crazy??" because the project I was undertaking was closer to a dissertation than a "fun" response to the seminar. God bless them! So, instead I'm going to create a series of lesson plans that I will use to have my STUDENTS research Chaucer's biography, research writing technique especially as it applied to the medieval period, identify in Chaucer's Prologue and three stories what techniques he used, and how he used those stories metaphorically to write about the writer and his craft, and then what will be expected of them as a measure of their understanding. Phew. Life just got MUCH better! V

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

OMG! I always thought the same thing, BUT the research I was doing last night reveals a humility in him that I missed. First of all, he attacks himself in the tales as being fat and unattractive. He also stares at the ground, a sign of humility. Reading some of the reveiws from his time, he had good reason to be haughty, but in truth he was defying many of the class structures that existed and in that regard could be seen as a rebel. His peasants may behave as such, but so do the clerical elite! As for his take on women, given the time in which he wrote, I'd say he was fairly progressive. Women as sexual beings got away with it more often than not, and men who tried to marry out of their age were paid back for it. I NEVER would have seen what I saw if not for the incredible gift I was given of studying under two Chaucerian masters. They are the editors of the Chaucer Review, and OMG Mystic...the doors they opened for me were incredible!!!
I am going to entirely change my approach to teaching Chaucer (and many other master works) when I start up again. More time allowing students the freedom to delve and more time requiring them to research! Poor kids.
I'm all about naked men..heh...I am going to put this on my netflix RIGHT NOW! TY.
YOU and Rhet are AMAZING. TY, but I THINK I'm on it. Today I will try to do a thorough draft. If you guys don't mind, when I'm done, I might send it to you?! I know it's not what I could turn out given time, but right now my goal is just to get my ideas down on paper and handed in. I plan to spend much of the fall working on it, so I can enter it for the AWP conference which is in Chicago next year! (I'll get to spend some time with my baby!!!!)

He has had a horrible cough since he returned from Italy. He had it before and now after, but it was almost gone there. A million theories (like asthma, which he's had his whole life, aggravated by some natural irritant to the side effects of radiation) but it's been a concern to me only because it disrupts his sleep every night (and mine too)!!! He went for an allergy test yesterday, so hopefully all will turn out fine.

I'm still a bit off kilter, but that's cause I jumped into too many projects while never completing any. I think once the paper is done, I'll feel liberated and can move on!

TY so much for thinking of HIM and US! :-)

Mrs. G.....Always; your both in my daily thoughts and prayers.

Have you thought to put a humidifier in your room at night? Put Tea Tree oil in the water and just let it steam all night long into your breathing air? It can help with his breathing issue. Also, use a breath right strip....they are truly remarkable in allowing a person to take in a full clean breath of air.

I would love to read your summation of Chaucer. Any means to learn or edify myself is always welcome!

Sending you lovely thoughts and loads of energy to finish your task to your standard....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

My prayers have been answered! I talked to the directors today who essentially said, "What are you? Crazy??" because the project I was undertaking was closer to a dissertation than a "fun" response to the seminar. God bless them! So, instead I'm going to create a series of lesson plans that I will use to have my STUDENTS research Chaucer's biography, research writing technique especially as it applied to the medieval period, identify in Chaucer's Prologue and three stories what techniques he used, and how he used those stories metaphorically to write about the writer and his craft, and then what will be expected of them as a measure of their understanding. Phew. Life just got MUCH better! V

OH YEAH!

Way to go, Gregor == and seminar directors!

Besides which, the lesson plans you will actually USE.

:clap: :dance: :clap:

Praying about this cough, yes, indeedy. :pray:

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

I'm here to brag a bit.......play the wicked witch of the North music from the Wizard of Oz on her broom as you read this in the back of your mind....hehehehe
De-de-de-de-dee De-de-de-de-de-deeee :))

I was so fed up with the non-response I/we were getting within that PTA issue I had previously mentioned....that a meeting with the two big boards above us was called (Council and District). I tell you what...I must be more scary then I look in the mirror! I was treated with respect, was given confirmation that I indeed am as good as I think I am within P&P of NPO's; and was Thanked (for goodness sakes is the world ending?) for not only serving on a unit board; but was thanked for cleaning up that unit board; teaching those unit parents how to run a PTA; and keeping that unit on the straight and narrow. Color me shocked!!!

The meeting was run smooth as pie. Now I can completely walk away with a clean conscience. Oh...that principal with her skirt in knots? she refused to attend this meeting. :))

Update on Mom; this last chemo treatment is really working her. She was almost in tears on the phone yesterday afternoon. Many of the mental side affects of having cancer and the emotional and mental side effects are not discussed with the patient. Feeling numb feet is a physical side effect; feeling really tired/weary from the inside out...mentally/emotionally is a side effect too. Most patients go through it...mostly women.

We both openly and honestly talked about the stuff that no one wants to talk about. I made her look realistically at what she was trying to accomplish after her death. Which in and of itself is kinda silly....I mean; she can't accomplish anything here on earth....she's dead at that point. Her little grandma home up in Pollock Pines....my brothers are not going to continue to pay for it...having her friend/companion Ed living there for free. Heck, they don't even like the guy; much less put up with him.

I begged her to get through these last two chemo's first...and then I promised I would sit down with her and help her finish out her will and trust. She agreed.....thankfully. I'm so not mentally prepared to walk this.....God give me wisdom beyond my years and a gentle heart to deal with this.....

I have not heard from my extended family since the month of the wedding. Tells me volumns about them. So; with no PTA and Mom being the only person outside my day to day life that needs to be managed....I'm free!!! Maybe I'll finish one of my books that I stared to write last year? I have two great story's...one for younger person's...one a more adult novel....both of them pure fiction.

Praying you all are well....keeping you in my heart and daily thoughts. Enjoy your weekend!

~Mysty

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

OH YEAH!

Way to go, Gregor == and seminar directors!

Besides which, the lesson plans you will actually USE.

:clap: :dance: :clap:

Praying about this cough, yes, indeedy. :pray:

I almost completely forgot to ask you and Mrs. G. this. Heather would have had my hide had I not asked!!! Both of you teach....she is in her last semester of her teacher credential.....she wanted to know what a lesson plan would like from well versed and tenured teachers such as yourselves for things like English Lit. I told her it just so happens you both teach with the subject of English.

Would either of you mind sharing? Perhaps I could show her your plan or lesson plans for Chaucer Mrs. G? They would be used for her eyes only and only for her edification. She is starting off in elementary....K-6....so she's not looking for the overtly complex or honors high school english to use on her own class....just what fresh idea's she can use in context to that grade within full lesson plans for a subject such as english.

Thanks!!!

~Mysty


~Mysty

[rhet 2]

I almost completely forgot to ask you and Mrs. G. this. Heather would have had my hide had I not asked!!! Both of you teach....she is in her last semester of her teacher credential.....she wanted to know what a lesson plan would like from well versed and tenured teachers such as yourselves for things like English Lit. I told her it just so happens you both teach with the subject of English.

Would either of you mind sharing? Perhaps I could show her your plan or lesson plans for Chaucer Mrs. G? They would be used for her eyes only and only for her edification. She is starting off in elementary....K-6....so she's not looking for the overtly complex or honors high school english to use on her own class....just what fresh idea's she can use in context to that grade within full lesson plans for a subject such as english.

Thanks!!!

~Mysty


~Mysty

Just so you don't think I'm ignoring you, I'm trying to track down a former student who's now head of her dept. and wrote the most beautiful plans I've ever seen. If she's willing, I'll pm you her email.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Just so you don't think I'm ignoring you, I'm trying to track down a former student who's now head of her dept. and wrote the most beautiful plans I've ever seen. If she's willing, I'll pm you her email.

Thank you , thank you! I know Heather would be most appreciative!!!

Hard week this week on Mom. I'll be driving her all three days this upcoming next week for chemo. Her feet have become numb....and the weariness is beyond anything she has experienced before. I have told her that the last two treatments are the real hard pull....and so we are going to slog through it....hand in hand together. Just two more treatments.....and all this hard pull can stop. It seems to be enough to hold on for now...but I can feel her slipping....not that I blame her. The Pain is wearying; the numbness and dizziness and general feeling of being sick is beyond mind numbing. You just want it to stop....I understand it better then I should due to my own experiance.

So...get through this week......Megan starts her first college class Monday. She is soo darn cute....takes care of all that all by herself....sooo darn cute.....such a big girl big girl! LOL then Mom Wednesday through Friday.....then we wait.

Keeping you all in my day to day thoughts and prayers.

Autumn is creeping into our Sacramento air....I can feel it and smell it.....love that smell!

God Bless you all,
~Mysty

[Gregor]

Absolutely! My goal is to finish it up today. Truth be told, though, I haven't used lesson plans in about 15 years. That said, not only will I send you my finished paper, I'll also send some great links to sites that will assist her. Let her know if she needs any guidance, feel free to ask me. I will gladly help to the best of my ability. That, btw, goes for job apps as well.


I almost completely forgot to ask you and Mrs. G. this. Heather would have had my hide had I not asked!!! Both of you teach....she is in her last semester of her teacher credential.....she wanted to know what a lesson plan would like from well versed and tenured teachers such as yourselves for things like English Lit. I told her it just so happens you both teach with the subject of English.

Would either of you mind sharing? Perhaps I could show her your plan or lesson plans for Chaucer Mrs. G? They would be used for her eyes only and only for her edification. She is starting off in elementary....K-6....so she's not looking for the overtly complex or honors high school english to use on her own class....just what fresh idea's she can use in context to that grade within full lesson plans for a subject such as english.

Thanks!!!

~Mysty


~Mysty

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Absolutely! My goal is to finish it up today. Truth be told, though, I haven't used lesson plans in about 15 years. That said, not only will I send you my finished paper, I'll also send some great links to sites that will assist her. Let her know if she needs any guidance, feel free to ask me. I will gladly help to the best of my ability. That, btw, goes for job apps as well.

Fant-tab-u-lous!!! :mrgreen:
Heathers nerves are already beginning to show as the end of schooling/credentialing and beginning a job as a teacher looms nearer. She is excited but scared all at the same time. She would love to see a tried and true lesson plans. California teacher live and die by them. :rolleyes:

How goes the Chaucer pull? Are you happy with your efforts? How is Mr. G? Mom goes in two weeks for her PET scan.....and one week later has her last chemo treatment. I found that odd. Guess every doctor or system does is a bit different? I will be taking her all three days next week....and of course to her PET scan....home stretch time....I pray it did what it was supposed too...I pray for remission.

Mom and I started on that stupid trust. Do I hate legal papers!!! OMG! Talk about mind numbing!!! Yech......gives me a headache.

Praying you are all well....
sending hugs to you all,
~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Fant-tab-u-lous!!! :mrgreen:
Heathers nerves are already beginning to show as the end of schooling/credentialing and beginning a job as a teacher looms nearer. She is excited but scared all at the same time. She would love to see a tried and true lesson plans. California teacher live and die by them. :rolleyes:

How goes the Chaucer pull? Are you happy with your efforts? How is Mr. G? Mom goes in two weeks for her PET scan.....and one week later has her last chemo treatment. I found that odd. Guess every doctor or system does is a bit different? I will be taking her all three days next week....and of course to her PET scan....home stretch time....I pray it did what it was supposed too...I pray for remission.

Mom and I started on that stupid trust. Do I hate legal papers!!! OMG! Talk about mind numbing!!! Yech......gives me a headache.

Praying you are all well....
sending hugs to you all,
~Mysty

I hate legal paperwork with a total passion.

God be with you during the homestretch.

How is Heather getting on?

My student has still not returned my email. So much for undying devotion and gratitude, huh? :)) I figure she's up over her eyebrows with her own first of term pressures.

How did the Chaucer paper turn out?

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

I hate legal paperwork with a total passion.

God be with you during the homestretch.

How is Heather getting on?

My student has still not returned my email. So much for undying devotion and gratitude, huh? :)) I figure she's up over her eyebrows with her own first of term pressures.

How did the Chaucer paper turn out?

Spoke with Mom last night....confirming our schedule for this week...and she made the oddest statement.....that if her PET scan is clean on Sept. 8th, she won't have to take that last chemo treatment. I didn't want to give her false hope....and will speak to her doctor about it when we see him on the 8th. Her feet are numb....and she is beyond weary. All part and parcel of the effects of chemo....to which I keep reminding her that most of what she has gone through is normal for the process she is going through. Not that it makes it easier knowing that....but it seems to give her solace.

Heather is doing great in her new 4th grade class. They added a advanced reader course to her day. She has an observer...but for all intense and purpose, it is her own little class. I forwarded Mrs. G. paper on Chaucer to her and some of the lesson plans that Mrs. G. had found on the web. I've yet to hear back as yet what she thinks. Knowing Heather she is thrilled to have them! :D She is a natural teacher that one....I'm very proud of her.

Megan is in her third day of college. She says it is no different then her last year of high school....just not as lame....lol. Oh...she also made the observation that the guys are much better looking and nicer then high school boys.......hanging on for dear life as my last child discovers boys.....lol.

Have Mrs. G. send you her Chaucer paper....I've only had time to read the first several pages....but was blown away! I'm actually enjoying it! As I told Mrs. G....my old english lit teacher would be so proud....hehehehe

This has been an odd two weeks. Stumbling along as best as I can...waiting for everyones schedule to fully hit and put some normalcy back in my life. Till then.....just kinda floating day to day.

How are you guys doing?
Sending out big hugs and good thoughts to you all!

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Spoke with Mom last night....confirming our schedule for this week...and she made the oddest statement.....that if her PET scan is clean on Sept. 8th, she won't have to take that last chemo treatment. I didn't want to give her false hope....and will speak to her doctor about it when we see him on the 8th. Her feet are numb....and she is beyond weary. All part and parcel of the effects of chemo....to which I keep reminding her that most of what she has gone through is normal for the process she is going through. Not that it makes it easier knowing that....but it seems to give her solace.

Heather is doing great in her new 4th grade class. They added a advanced reader course to her day. She has an observer...but for all intense and purpose, it is her own little class. I forwarded Mrs. G. paper on Chaucer to her and some of the lesson plans that Mrs. G. had found on the web. I've yet to hear back as yet what she thinks. Knowing Heather she is thrilled to have them! :D She is a natural teacher that one....I'm very proud of her.

Megan is in her third day of college. She says it is no different then her last year of high school....just not as lame....lol. Oh...she also made the observation that the guys are much better looking and nicer then high school boys.......hanging on for dear life as my last child discovers boys.....lol.

Have Mrs. G. send you her Chaucer paper....I've only had time to read the first several pages....but was blown away! I'm actually enjoying it! As I told Mrs. G....my old english lit teacher would be so proud....hehehehe

This has been an odd two weeks. Stumbling along as best as I can...waiting for everyones schedule to fully hit and put some normalcy back in my life. Till then.....just kinda floating day to day.

How are you guys doing?
Sending out big hugs and good thoughts to you all!

~Mysty

I continue to pray for you and for your mother -- and for her doc to be the wisest doc ever in the history of mankind.

Good here -- just busy as thunder with the garden coming into harvest state and the new semester to get organized and rolling. Gotta do better for my students than I did last term -- or the term before -- and the one before that. Perpetual struggle for true excellence never really ends, because there's ALWAYS room to learn and grow and get better than before. sigh

At least my Cuddle Bear's cancer is getting treated and his own energy and get-it-done is improving. For that, I give endless thanks.

[Gregor]

Spoke with Mom last night....confirming our schedule for this week...and she made the oddest statement.....that if her PET scan is clean on Sept. 8th, she won't have to take that last chemo treatment. I didn't want to give her false hope....and will speak to her doctor about it when we see him on the 8th. Her feet are numb....and she is beyond weary. All part and parcel of the effects of chemo....to which I keep reminding her that most of what she has gone through is normal for the process she is going through. Not that it makes it easier knowing that....but it seems to give her solace.

You know, I've had a chest cold this week and I really wonder how Mr. G got through these last two years. I wanted to curl up in a ball and die...a chest cold. The only thing I can say is that Mr. G. got terrible numbness but it did go away; it just takes time.

As for the rest of the news....wonderful!!!! Today was just meetings, Tuesday is the real deal.

Rhet: If you pm me your email I'll send you the paper. Mystic is way too kind, but it's a good start.

[jwil59]

You know, I've had a chest cold this week and I really wonder how Mr. G got through these last two years. I wanted to curl up in a ball and die...a chest cold. The only thing I can say is that Mr. G. got terrible numbness but it did go away; it just takes time.

As for the rest of the news....wonderful!!!! Today was just meetings, Tuesday is the real deal.

Rhet: If you pm me your email I'll send you the paper. Mystic is way too kind, but it's a good start.

I am praying for you guys.

[Gregor]

I am praying for you guys.

You're the best.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

*Update: 7 of 8 treatments are complete! I can see the grey green around Mom's gills....she has been socked hard by this last one. She is up in Polock Pines to enjoy the long weekend. Spoke with her last night...and for all intense and purposes, she sounds good...head in the right place...and praying that the PET scan she takes on Sept. 2nd comes out clean.

I got a hysterical phone call from my Step Mom the evening before last...Dad is in the hospital...for a second time in six weeks...yet yesterday evening was the first I'd been told about it. :rolleyes: The whole scenario felt contrived and 'gamish'. I'm not good at game play....never have been. They proceeded with an Angeoplasty.....with no found 'blockage'; and sent him home. I should hear something by this afternoon from my over wrought step mom.

I don't know what my father was thinking ......no contact with me....bails on a major family wedding....horrific treatment of his relationship with me....denies me my only request of him in literal years (a fishing trip with both my brothers and Dad and I) and wham...outta no where I'm supposed to be crying and fretting over him due to a bad heart? Hmmmm...let me think.....nope...doesn't sound like me even a little. Doesn't he know what he has done? Guess not.....God bless him for I sure as heck can't.

Well' that's my week thus far. How is everyone else doing? Good I pray....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

*Update: 7 of 8 treatments are complete! I can see the grey green around Mom's gills....she has been socked hard by this last one. She is up in Polock Pines to enjoy the long weekend. Spoke with her last night...and for all intense and purposes, she sounds good...head in the right place...and praying that the PET scan she takes on Sept. 2nd comes out clean.

I got a hysterical phone call from my Step Mom the evening before last...Dad is in the hospital...for a second time in six weeks...yet yesterday evening was the first I'd been told about it. :rolleyes: The whole scenario felt contrived and 'gamish'. I'm not good at game play....never have been. They proceeded with an Angeoplasty.....with no found 'blockage'; and sent him home. I should hear something by this afternoon from my over wrought step mom.

I don't know what my father was thinking ......no contact with me....bails on a major family wedding....horrific treatment of his relationship with me....denies me my only request of him in literal years (a fishing trip with both my brothers and Dad and I) and wham...outta no where I'm supposed to be crying and fretting over him due to a bad heart? Hmmmm...let me think.....nope...doesn't sound like me even a little. Doesn't he know what he has done? Guess not.....God bless him for I sure as heck can't.

Well' that's my week thus far. How is everyone else doing? Good I pray....

~Mysty

Sweetness, I wish I knew what to say to bring you comfort over this.

It's his loss -- and you get your independence from it -- but it's your loss, too. You just can't let it eat at you, can't let it get you down and stop you from giving thanks for all the blessings you do have.

But, then, you know that, for you've moved on and made a wonderful life for yourself, your hubby and your own children, despite the man.

I've had him on my prayer list since you posted this. Updates? If you were given any?

And how's your mother, now that the weekend is over?

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Sweetness, I wish I knew what to say to bring you comfort over this.

It's his loss -- and you get your independence from it -- but it's your loss, too. You just can't let it eat at you, can't let it get you down and stop you from giving thanks for all the blessings you do have.

But, then, you know that, for you've moved on and made a wonderful life for yourself, your hubby and your own children, despite the man.

I've had him on my prayer list since you posted this. Updates? If you were given any?

And how's your mother, now that the weekend is over?

Mom's PET is today. We won't know the result of it until September 8th. Seems light years away. She had a rough weekend...but slogged through it in her true grit kind of way. Keeping my thoughts for the best outcome in her remission. As I told her; lets cross this bridge before we look ahead and plan on what to do with the many that still await our crossing.

I've not heard 'peep' one from the family down South as yet; which is puzzling due to the frantic and hysterical phone call I received from my Step Mom a few days ago. I did receive a very brief phone call the following day in which the information was no blockage was found...and the doctors seemed to think it may be an electrical issue. I gave my Step Mom the information then that it meant most likely a pace maker needed to be implanted. No other phone call has been forth coming since that day.

Which, when boiled down, means Dad is most likely fine...or is simply dealing with whatever is the cause of the heart issues these past six or so weeks. Thinking at this point that a simple implant will put him to rights. Either way, the crises is adverted in their eyes. :rolleyes: That is until the next time when he drops like a rock and I get yet another hysterical phone call.

My phone has been deadly quiet.....not even my brothers are stepping up to talk to the big bad 'big sister'. I'm at the point where my heart is cold from it all. Sad to admit...but it's true. Something clicked off inside of me, like a light switch, when the whole wedding fiasco went down. Some small hope of light had obviously been kept alive in the dark recesses of my soul....and were immediatly blown out when the true nature of the men in my family showed themselves. Again, I'm not proud to admit it...but it's true.

My biggest issue isn't with abandonment. That issue has been dealt with in spades. It's knowing where my father is headed in his afterlife. Knowing is the worst part. My prayers are for heavenly father to save him before his last breath is lost to the mortal coil of this earth. I don't think.....no ...strike that...I know I can't handle dealing with both of my parents dying in short distance of time from one another. That is where I know my fear lays. It's a task I pray God won't put me too any time soon. As far as my anger...show me a human being who doesn't have anger...and I'll show you a human being who hasn't learned to grow. So, I'll use my anger as soil...and wait for the great Gardner to come and prune me to perfection.

Praying all of you are well blessed,
sending out prayers and hugs,

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Mom's PET is today. We won't know the result of it until September 8th. Seems light years away. She had a rough weekend...but slogged through it in her true grit kind of way. Keeping my thoughts for the best outcome in her remission. As I told her; lets cross this bridge before we look ahead and plan on what to do with the many that still await our crossing.

I've not heard 'peep' one from the family down South as yet; which is puzzling due to the frantic and hysterical phone call I received from my Step Mom a few days ago. I did receive a very brief phone call the following day in which the information was no blockage was found...and the doctors seemed to think it may be an electrical issue. I gave my Step Mom the information then that it meant most likely a pace maker needed to be implanted. No other phone call has been forth coming since that day.

Which, when boiled down, means Dad is most likely fine...or is simply dealing with whatever is the cause of the heart issues these past six or so weeks. Thinking at this point that a simple implant will put him to rights. Either way, the crises is adverted in their eyes. :rolleyes: That is until the next time when he drops like a rock and I get yet another hysterical phone call.

My phone has been deadly quiet.....not even my brothers are stepping up to talk to the big bad 'big sister'. I'm at the point where my heart is cold from it all. Sad to admit...but it's true. Something clicked off inside of me, like a light switch, when the whole wedding fiasco went down. Some small hope of light had obviously been kept alive in the dark recesses of my soul....and were immediatly blown out when the true nature of the men in my family showed themselves. Again, I'm not proud to admit it...but it's true.

My biggest issue isn't with abandonment. That issue has been dealt with in spades. It's knowing where my father is headed in his afterlife. Knowing is the worst part. My prayers are for heavenly father to save him before his last breath is lost to the mortal coil of this earth. I don't think.....no ...strike that...I know I can't handle dealing with both of my parents dying in short distance of time from one another. That is where I know my fear lays. It's a task I pray God won't put me too any time soon. As far as my anger...show me a human being who doesn't have anger...and I'll show you a human being who hasn't learned to grow. So, I'll use my anger as soil...and wait for the great Gardner to come and prune me to perfection.

Praying all of you are well blessed,
sending out prayers and hugs,

~Mysty

Even Scripture admonishes us, "Be you angry and sin not." And Christ wasn't exactly all sweetness, hugs and kisses with the Pharisees, the Saducees, and those moneylenders in the Temple courtyard, either.

I join you in the prayers for your father -- and for his sons, too. They cost themselves much in such carelessness over the only things that really count in living, loving the LORD and loving each other. It's very sad, always, when I encounter others like them.

And you're only required to "be prepared to give an answer for the hope that is in you" -- answer, as in somebody notices your hope and asks FIRST, how come.

If they ask, tell them. If they don't, ignore them and keep on moving, because you've got a lot more important things to do in this old world than fret about what you can't change, another person's heart.

Major hugs.

[Gregor]

Praying that the PET will show that she is in remission. Thoughts and love are with you and yours.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Even Scripture admonishes us, "Be you angry and sin not." And Christ wasn't exactly all sweetness, hugs and kisses with the Pharisees, the Saducees, and those moneylenders in the Temple courtyard, either.

I join you in the prayers for your father -- and for his sons, too. They cost themselves much in such carelessness over the only things that really count in living, loving the LORD and loving each other. It's very sad, always, when I encounter others like them.

And you're only required to "be prepared to give an answer for the hope that is in you" -- answer, as in somebody notices your hope and asks FIRST, how come.

If they ask, tell them. If they don't, ignore them and keep on moving, because you've got a lot more important things to do in this old world than fret about what you can't change, another person's heart.

Major hugs.

As always Rhet, your words bring comfort and solace.....because they come from a place of truth and 'righteousness'. I thank you for them. :mrgreen:

Life has its ebb and flows....and me trying to keep up with it. I was sorry to read that your own Bear is dealing with cancer. I've been so wrapped up in my own little world that I didn't remember you telling me that. I didn't remember him fighting that battle...which makes me feel pretty darn crudy....what kind of friend am I?

I'll keep my thoughts and prayers coming...every one helps when fighting against a ugly monster such as cancer. My prayers are still continuing for Mr. G...that his remission will stand in front of time fearless and strong. And now I will add your Bear to that growing list.

May God bless you both and keep you close to his heart.

Big Hugs,
~Mysty

[rhet 2]

As always Rhet, your words bring comfort and solace.....because they come from a place of truth and 'righteousness'. I thank you for them. :mrgreen:

Life has its ebb and flows....and me trying to keep up with it. I was sorry to read that your own Bear is dealing with cancer. I've been so wrapped up in my own little world that I didn't remember you telling me that. I didn't remember him fighting that battle...which makes me feel pretty darn crudy....what kind of friend am I?

I'll keep my thoughts and prayers coming...every one helps when fighting against a ugly monster such as cancer. My prayers are still continuing for Mr. G...that his remission will stand in front of time fearless and strong. And now I will add your Bear to that growing list.

May God bless you both and keep you close to his heart.

Big Hugs,
~Mysty

You're a very worthy friend whom I cherish with cause!

And thank you for your support and prayers for my own trials.

I fully join you in the prayers for Mr. G -- and her prayers for your mother's PET scan and that she is in remission and stays there, too.

Along with Mrs. C and Repchick.

Cancer is a very hateful disease, and we have many forum friends suffering either directly and personally or suffering by extension through family and friends.

And lots of other problems, too, affecting too many.

But, by prayer and by love of one another, we shall overcome.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

You're a very worthy friend whom I cherish with cause!

And thank you for your support and prayers for my own trials.

I fully join you in the prayers for Mr. G -- and her prayers for your mother's PET scan and that she is in remission and stays there, too.

Along with Mrs. C and Repchick.

Cancer is a very hateful disease, and we have many forum friends suffering either directly and personally or suffering by extension through family and friends.

And lots of other problems, too, affecting too many.

But, by prayer and by love of one another, we shall overcome.

Just last night I was speaking to Mom on the very subject. She is what I would categorize as terrified in Christ. I'm sure you have met the type. They tend to go too far into the hard of being Christian rather then the joy of being Christian. :wall: Death scares the living hibbie jeebies right out of her....and not for any of the normal reasons people become fearful of death...such as the unknown. For Mom, it is Gods wrath that has her down right nutters over death and dying.

For the young and very small Christian woman that I am....not a warrior by any stretch of the word...I was able to share with her that God has a path all groomed and planned for her. Stressing and painfully putting ones self through terror is not God's way....it's his adversarys way. :whistle: Faith works hand in hand with trust...and so , she must trust that God has her life well in hand. I told her that as humans we have choices....like what we will wear...what to eat....but when it comes to control...we don't own an ounce of it. We control nothing....God controls everything.

This simple thought seemed to give her solace and comfort. I pray that we all relax into the rather large and comforting hand of the Lord....for He truly does have us all tucked into the palm of his great Hands.

Sending out my prayers for all those affected by this disease....that hope still shines in their hearts...and know that God has a purpose even in this disease known as cancer. :pray:

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Just last night I was speaking to Mom on the very subject. She is what I would categorize as terrified in Christ. I'm sure you have met the type. They tend to go too far into the hard of being Christian rather then the joy of being Christian. :wall: Death scares the living hibbie jeebies right out of her....and not for any of the normal reasons people become fearful of death...such as the unknown. For Mom, it is Gods wrath that has her down right nutters over death and dying.

For the young and very small Christian woman that I am....not a warrior by any stretch of the word...I was able to share with her that God has a path all groomed and planned for her. Stressing and painfully putting ones self through terror is not God's way....it's his adversarys way. :whistle: Faith works hand in hand with trust...and so , she must trust that God has her life well in hand. I told her that as humans we have choices....like what we will wear...what to eat....but when it comes to control...we don't own an ounce of it. We control nothing....God controls everything.

This simple thought seemed to give her solace and comfort. I pray that we all relax into the rather large and comforting hand of the Lord....for He truly does have us all tucked into the palm of his great Hands.

Sending out my prayers for all those affected by this disease....that hope still shines in their hearts...and know that God has a purpose even in this disease known as cancer. :pray:

~Mysty

Good job!

I PRAY He brings her comfort and peace of mind.

Suggestion: know why Christ cried out, "My God! My God! Why have You forsaken Me?" Because, at that moment, God poured all His wrath at your mother's betrayal on top of Christ's head instead of hers. No double jeapardy. Christ took the rage directly and personally in her stead. She instead is given his perfect obedience.

On the Day she stands before the Throne of Judgment, Satan will accuse her of multiple sins against the LORD, which is why he is called "the Accuser." Each time, Christ will step forward and say, "No, I already paid the price for that one." Then, He will call forward the angel in charge of the Book of Life and tell the angel to look for her name written in it.

It is there.

Because He gave her his own perfect obedience, tested on the Cross, and gave her his own Resurrection -- and her name is written in the Book of Life from the moment she believes that Christ is indeed "the Lamb of God which takes away the sin of the world" -- your mother's sins and mine and yours, as well.

There is no accusation that can stand against the Perfection of Christ which has surely been given to your mother.

She is SAFE for all eternity -- and cannot EVER lose that security, no matter what she does or doesn't do.

You, too, sweet sister.

All of us.

Our names are written in HIS blood in the Book of Life -- and NOTHING can erase them.

This is the truth I tell you, the truth the Apostles and Christ Himself told us.

Her eternal soul is as safe as that of a newborn lamb in the Arms of the LORD of Lord and KING of Kings, whose will is NEVER balked, who WILLS that she be His lamb, innocent and pure as pure can ever get: "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do" -- applies to you and me as much as it does to the Roman soldiers who slaughtered Him in service to the LORD.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Beautifully put Rhet....truth always holds a brighter sparkle then anything that could be called a gem!

Mom listens to Family Radio....and although I don't always agree with the various pastors who sermonize, I do recognize that she gains comfort from it. So I've ignored it for years.

Now...well it's played right into the deepest and darkest recess of her poor soul. These sermonize-ers have her convinced that no one is saved...not even babes in their Mother's arms unless their name is in that book. Regardless of their belief in Christ...regardless of how you live your life in Christ....just that darn book and whose name is in it. (Which I've asked her...if you don't know if your name is in that book....then what helps people to have faith and do good in their lives? She stumbles here and there to answer this one.)

If your name is in that book....you could be the most horrific person known to man....but your name is there...and so you are saved; or so she believes. You could be a true saint...have perfect faith in the Lord and belief in His Son ...but if your name isn't in that book....you history. Weird but true.

It has to be the most backward and twisted way I've ever heard of! But..it is what she believes. Trying to talk religion with my Mother is a task unto itself. Being the small Christian woman I am....it's hard to give her loving truth in the stead of the harsh lies she is being told. God loves us each and every one....He would no more put us here to suffer and die in agony just to send us off to eternal damnation...just because. Doesn't sound like the God I worship even a little. :pray:

But this is Mom's battle. Always has been. Which religion is right....how to do it right so she can go to heaven. It's almost a manic chase for her; a chase that I have watched her go through most of my adult life.

I'm printing up your last post....and give it to her...and pray it gives her heart a ring of truth....and allow softness and love to touch her heart.....

To which....thank you Rhet....you always just know how to put things. :mrgreen:

How is Bear? Any news?
How is Mr. G? How is he feeling? Still good I pray.....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Beautifully put Rhet....truth always holds a brighter sparkle then anything that could be called a gem!

Mom listens to Family Radio....and although I don't always agree with the various pastors who sermonize, I do recognize that she gains comfort from it. So I've ignored it for years.

Now...well it's played right into the deepest and darkest recess of her poor soul. These sermonize-ers have her convinced that no one is saved...not even babes in their Mother's arms unless their name is in that book. Regardless of their belief in Christ...regardless of how you live your life in Christ....just that darn book and whose name is in it. (Which I've asked her...if you don't know if your name is in that book....then what helps people to have faith and do good in their lives? She stumbles here and there to answer this one.)

If your name is in that book....you could be the most horrific person known to man....but your name is there...and so you are saved; or so she believes. You could be a true saint...have perfect faith in the Lord and belief in His Son ...but if your name isn't in that book....you history. Weird but true.

It has to be the most backward and twisted way I've ever heard of! But..it is what she believes. Trying to talk religion with my Mother is a task unto itself. Being the small Christian woman I am....it's hard to give her loving truth in the stead of the harsh lies she is being told. God loves us each and every one....He would no more put us here to suffer and die in agony just to send us off to eternal damnation...just because. Doesn't sound like the God I worship even a little. :pray:

But this is Mom's battle. Always has been. Which religion is right....how to do it right so she can go to heaven. It's almost a manic chase for her; a chase that I have watched her go through most of my adult life.

I'm printing up your last post....and give it to her...and pray it gives her heart a ring of truth....and allow softness and love to touch her heart.....

To which....thank you Rhet....you always just know how to put things. :mrgreen:

How is Bear? Any news?
How is Mr. G? How is he feeling? Still good I pray.....

~Mysty


Oh, I PRAY the LORD remove the mists of fear and confusion from her mind! This just breaks my heart. If He loves us enough to die for our sins, suffering hellish abuse and torture for our sakes, why would He rush to send us to hell anyway? He could have just wiped out all humanity with Adam and Eve and started over and not had to die at all, if that is His Way. He DIED to set us free from sin and death -- and set us free HE DOES.

Bear's okay -- trying to work a bit just to earn some needed cash -- and prevent the business from collapsing altogether -- but the pre-op is the 10th and the surgery itself on the 21st. We're told it is much more invasive and takes much longer to recover than a caesarian does, so he'll be unable to work for some months to come. But we'll live -- and we can always start the business up again later, even if we have to change the name and completely redesign to access a totally different market in order to do that. And the LORD has provided a bit to tide us over until he's back up and working again, if we're very very very careful.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Oh, I PRAY the LORD remove the mists of fear and confusion from her mind! This just breaks my heart. If He loves us enough to die for our sins, suffering hellish abuse and torture for our sakes, why would He rush to send us to hell anyway? He could have just wiped out all humanity with Adam and Eve and started over and not had to die at all, if that is His Way. He DIED to set us free from sin and death -- and set us free HE DOES.

Bear's okay -- trying to work a bit just to earn some needed cash -- and prevent the business from collapsing altogether -- but the pre-op is the 10th and the surgery itself on the 21st. We're told it is much more invasive and takes much longer to recover than a caesarian does, so he'll be unable to work for some months to come. But we'll live -- and we can always start the business up again later, even if we have to change the name and completely redesign to access a totally different market in order to do that. And the LORD has provided a bit to tide us over until he's back up and working again, if we're very very very careful.

I don't know how long Bear will be down....most likely a few months....so I did want to mention to you that he is qualified to pull on state disability benefits for up to one year....all it takes is a doctors form filled out. It's not much...but it can sure help in tough times. You also will qualify for the energy medical reduce program.....helps to bring down your energy bills while he is down. You can simply call your energy producers and they will fill out the form for you on the phone. Again, every little bit helps.

I pray that he will come through this operation with flying colors. Sure, a little sore....but gaining strength every day...feeling better every day...until he is back on his feet again. :angel: I will put the dates on my calendar so I can remember to think of him and keep him in my thoughts and prayers.

How is the semester going for you? What are you doing to keep your energy gas tank filled during this emotional and draining time Rhet? Remember, as care givers we are only as good as we are to ourselves. Remember to take those few moments to let out a long breath long held in stress.....take in a good deep breath of clean air...full of new possibilities and God's love for his faithful daughter.

Everything in our lives serves a purpose. Even this trail...

Keeping you in my prayers,

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

I don't know how long Bear will be down....most likely a few months....so I did want to mention to you that he is qualified to pull on state disability benefits for up to one year....all it takes is a doctors form filled out. It's not much...but it can sure help in tough times. You also will qualify for the energy medical reduce program.....helps to bring down your energy bills while he is down. You can simply call your energy producers and they will fill out the form for you on the phone. Again, every little bit helps.

I pray that he will come through this operation with flying colors. Sure, a little sore....but gaining strength every day...feeling better every day...until he is back on his feet again. :angel: I will put the dates on my calendar so I can remember to think of him and keep him in my thoughts and prayers.

How is the semester going for you? What are you doing to keep your energy gas tank filled during this emotional and draining time Rhet? Remember, as care givers we are only as good as we are to ourselves. Remember to take those few moments to let out a long breath long held in stress.....take in a good deep breath of clean air...full of new possibilities and God's love for his faithful daughter.

Everything in our lives serves a purpose. Even this trail...

Keeping you in my prayers,

~Mysty

Great suggestions, Misty! I never even thought of applying for disability benefits like this -- and I've never even heard of this energy reduction program. I will surely check on both Monday. Right now, we've hoarded every penny we could get our hands on, setting aside as much as we could against the day of the surgery. I think it will be enough without government help -- and there are so many others much more hurting than we are who need it so much more. If we can manage without the help, I'd like to, just so the others can maybe have a bit more themselves. But, the very thought of such a safety net is a nice one, indeed!

Thank you so much, dear sister.

The semester is going well, despite the personal/professional conflicts. Three in class and one on-line course, with only one of those a "monster class" requiring huge amounts of time and energy.

I do love teaching -- the interaction with students anyway (hate grading with a passion!) -- though I can tell that I'm losing ability because of simple wear and tear and fatigue that seems to grow constantly worse, despite the vitamins and diet and exercise I drive myself to use to delay the onset of crud I simply dread -- like last night, when I couldn't get the word "Inquisition" out of the aging memory and had to ask my daughter -- bless her heart -- to give me a word I've known and used countless times in my life.

Damage to Brocca's Area like that is truly frightening -- or would be, if I permitted fear to stick in my heart and take root.

I knew I'd get old: I just never thought of being disabled in the process. :((

Oh, well, if the LORD needs my vocabulary, He knows how to fix the dumb old brain to keep it available for His use. sigh

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Great suggestions, Misty! I never even thought of applying for disability benefits like this -- and I've never even heard of this energy reduction program. I will surely check on both Monday. Right now, we've hoarded every penny we could get our hands on, setting aside as much as we could against the day of the surgery. I think it will be enough without government help -- and there are so many others much more hurting than we are who need it so much more. If we can manage without the help, I'd like to, just so the others can maybe have a bit more themselves. But, the very thought of such a safety net is a nice one, indeed!

Thank you so much, dear sister.

Don't look at it as a hand out...it's not. You both have paid into it your whole working lives. It's money that you have allowed the government to use....that is until the moment you need to use it yourselves. You have paid into this system....it's your money to help take care of you during times such as these. It does take a few weeks to get on....so sooner is better then later.

Medical energy assistance should be offered by your energy provider. Each state has their own version of this....and as I said before...every little bit helps. :idea:

The semester is going well, despite the personal/professional conflicts. Three in class and one on-line course, with only one of those a "monster class" requiring huge amounts of time and energy.

I do love teaching -- the interaction with students anyway (hate grading with a passion!) -- though I can tell that I'm losing ability because of simple wear and tear and fatigue that seems to grow constantly worse, despite the vitamins and diet and exercise I drive myself to use to delay the onset of crud I simply dread -- like last night, when I couldn't get the word "Inquisition" out of the aging memory and had to ask my daughter -- bless her heart -- to give me a word I've known and used countless times in my life.

Damage to Brocca's Area like that is truly frightening -- or would be, if I permitted fear to stick in my heart and take root.

I knew I'd get old: I just never thought of being disabled in the process. :((

Oh, well, if the LORD needs my vocabulary, He knows how to fix the dumb old brain to keep it available for His use. sigh

Honey....it's not age...well at least it's not only age. Stress and worry can rob us of our intellect. I have first hand knowledge on this one. Pain too can affect our ability to remember and function as we once did. Good news is that it all goes back to normal functioning once the stress and pain is gone.

Sooooo....for now....remember to give yourself a break by writing down those things you need to remember. Carry a 'brain' around with you if need be. (I call a brain one of those planers or organizers where there is enough room to write down all the little appointments and need to do's down...so I don't forget them.) :razz: Take your pain meds!!! If anything they will help you truck along...keep on keeping on so to speak.

Ask for help honey...no shame in that either. Take it all in stride....relaize we have no control over anything...just choices in our lives....and walk forward as best you can. :mrgreen:

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Don't look at it as a hand out...it's not. You both have paid into it your whole working lives. It's money that you have allowed the government to use....that is until the moment you need to use it yourselves. You have paid into this system....it's your money to help take care of you during times such as these. It does take a few weeks to get on....so sooner is better then later.

Medical energy assistance should be offered by your energy provider. Each state has their own version of this....and as I said before...every little bit helps. :idea:



Honey....it's not age...well at least it's not only age. Stress and worry can rob us of our intellect. I have first hand knowledge on this one. Pain too can affect our ability to remember and function as we once did. Good news is that it all goes back to normal functioning once the stress and pain is gone.

Sooooo....for now....remember to give yourself a break by writing down those things you need to remember. Carry a 'brain' around with you if need be. (I call a brain one of those planers or organizers where there is enough room to write down all the little appointments and need to do's down...so I don't forget them.) :razz: Take your pain meds!!! If anything they will help you truck along...keep on keeping on so to speak.

Ask for help honey...no shame in that either. Take it all in stride....relaize we have no control over anything...just choices in our lives....and walk forward as best you can. :mrgreen:

~Mysty

Yours is a voice of sanity in a world of confusion and worry.

Thank you!

I shall fight both the temptation to fear AND the temptation to pride.

But it is difficult for those of us who have always been the strong ones to give help to accept that sometimes we need to reach out and accept help from others. sigh

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

* UPDATE* Mom is 100% disease free!!!! PET is crystal clear...no sign of disease at ALL!! I've never heard of such a thing....there is no such thing as 100% disease free....God's hand is oh so visible in this...I I have been thanking him for it. :pray:

So, now she takes one final chemo treatment for a total of 8....and then for the blood work she will go in once a week....then once a month....for at least three months...to make sure it doesn't come back....then the port can come out....and wah-la...all done!

It was the best news I'd heard in a very long time. I can breath again.....:mrgreen:

How is everyone? Sending all of you big tender hugs.....big smiles....and my prayers ....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

* UPDATE* Mom is 100% disease free!!!! PET is crystal clear...no sign of disease at ALL!! I've never heard of such a thing....there is no such thing as 100% disease free....God's hand is oh so visible in this...I I have been thanking him for it. :pray:

So, now she takes one final chemo treatment for a total of 8....and then for the blood work she will go in once a week....then once a month....for at least three months...to make sure it doesn't come back....then the port can come out....and wah-la...all done!

It was the best news I'd heard in a very long time. I can breath again.....:mrgreen:

How is everyone? Sending all of you big tender hugs.....big smiles....and my prayers ....

~Mysty

OMG!

YES YES YES YES YES!

Tears streaming down my eyes in gratitude and amazement and sheer wonder at the mercies of God our LORD and SAVIOR!

Oh, how I wish we could light of the most glorious fireworks display ever seen and literally dance in the streets, herself and you the guests of honor at a celebration so intense and full of thanksgiving that the entire universe would stand in awe.

Oh, thnak you thank you thank you, Almighty God. How glorious are your feet upon the mountain, how wondrous the love of God which flows from your mountains to lift us up out of misery and loss and despair and sorrow.

Oh, LORD of Lords and KING of Kings, Master of my heart, thank you. Thank you so very much.

[Reeder]

* UPDATE* Mom is 100% disease free!!!! PET is crystal clear...no sign of disease at ALL!! I've never heard of such a thing....there is no such thing as 100% disease free....God's hand is oh so visible in this...I I have been thanking him for it. :pray:

So, now she takes one final chemo treatment for a total of 8....and then for the blood work she will go in once a week....then once a month....for at least three months...to make sure it doesn't come back....then the port can come out....and wah-la...all done!

It was the best news I'd heard in a very long time. I can breath again.....:mrgreen:

How is everyone? Sending all of you big tender hugs.....big smiles....and my prayers ....

~Mysty

That is incredible! What a blessing! Stories like your Mom's inspire me to have hope for my Dad!

Congrats to you, your Mom and your family! And I'll pray that the horrible disease will STAY away for good.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

OMG!

YES YES YES YES YES!

Tears streaming down my eyes in gratitude and amazement and sheer wonder at the mercies of God our LORD and SAVIOR!

Oh, how I wish we could light of the most glorious fireworks display ever seen and literally dance in the streets, herself and you the guests of honor at a celebration so intense and full of thanksgiving that the entire universe would stand in awe.

Oh, thnak you thank you thank you, Almighty God. How glorious are your feet upon the mountain, how wondrous the love of God which flows from your mountains to lift us up out of misery and loss and despair and sorrow.

Oh, LORD of Lords and KING of Kings, Master of my heart, thank you. Thank you so very much.

:hug: Thank you......we are elated! Smiles abound at our homes due to such glorious news. He most certainly has His hand on this...to which we are humbled and Thankful!

Number 8 is next week...but Mom is walking into it with a positive attitude...knowing it is her last one...last hoop to jump through so to speak.

She is making up a list of things to do once she is stronger...her own bucket list so to speak. She wants to see the United States....in bit and pieces...but travel in this wonderful country of ours. I told her that it was a grand idea!

Thank you all for all the prayers and good thoughts you sent our way. :hug:

~Mysty

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

That is incredible! What a blessing! Stories like your Mom's inspire me to have hope for my Dad!

Congrats to you, your Mom and your family! And I'll pray that the horrible disease will STAY away for good.

:hug: Thank you Reeder.
I will send prayers that your Dad pulls through this trail. God is fully in control of this...and once you trust Him and put it fully in his hands....then all you have to sit back and support the loved one going through it.

Prayers and well wishes for your family,

~Mysty

[jwil59]

* UPDATE* Mom is 100% disease free!!!! PET is crystal clear...no sign of disease at ALL!! I've never heard of such a thing....there is no such thing as 100% disease free....God's hand is oh so visible in this...I I have been thanking him for it. :pray:

So, now she takes one final chemo treatment for a total of 8....and then for the blood work she will go in once a week....then once a month....for at least three months...to make sure it doesn't come back....then the port can come out....and wah-la...all done!

It was the best news I'd heard in a very long time. I can breath again.....:mrgreen:

How is everyone? Sending all of you big tender hugs.....big smiles....and my prayers ....

~Mysty

Great news indeed.............

Praise God

[jwil59]

Praying that the PET will show that she is in remission. Thoughts and love are with you and yours.

I just had to quote this post. We now have the PET results.

Praise God

I am still praying for you guys too G

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Great news indeed.............

Praise God

:hug: Thank you Jwil.....every prayer did indeed play a part in this wonderful result! I'm sure of it.

This Thursday, Friday and Saturday is the very last of the chemo treatments. Mom is a bit nervous...as she is really starting to feel good again...and knows how she will be feeling after her final treatment. I'm keeping positive for her...and remind her she only has to do this one more time...then she is done.

Keeping Rhet, Mrs. G, Reeder in my thoughts and prayers.....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

:hug: Thank you Jwil.....every prayer did indeed play a part in this wonderful result! I'm sure of it.

This Thursday, Friday and Saturday is the very last of the chemo treatments. Mom is a bit nervous...as she is really starting to feel good again...and knows how she will be feeling after her final treatment. I'm keeping positive for her...and remind her she only has to do this one more time...then she is done.

Keeping Rhet, Mrs. G, Reeder in my thoughts and prayers.....

~Mysty

And you remain in ours.

Together, with the LORD's blessings, we can Stand and Endure and WIN!

May the LORD minimize the negative side effects and maximize the curative effects of those final treatments, sending the crap into PERMANENT remission to extend both the length and the joy of your mother's life -- and enrich your friendship at one and the same time.

:hug:

[jwil59]

:hug: Thank you Jwil.....every prayer did indeed play a part in this wonderful result! I'm sure of it.

This Thursday, Friday and Saturday is the very last of the chemo treatments. Mom is a bit nervous...as she is really starting to feel good again...and knows how she will be feeling after her final treatment. I'm keeping positive for her...and remind her she only has to do this one more time...then she is done.

Keeping Rhet, Mrs. G, Reeder in my thoughts and prayers.....

~Mysty

I will be praying about those treatments

[rhet 2]

I will be praying about those treatments

Yep.

Today was Thursday, day # 1 of the 3. I'm anxious to know how it went, already hitting the LORD's ears with prayers for tomorrow and Saturday.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Yep.

Today was Thursday, day # 1 of the 3. I'm anxious to know how it went, already hitting the LORD's ears with prayers for tomorrow and Saturday.

Yesterday was a bit more rough then it usually is for Mom....she could taste the meds....and it socked her to green gills points within the first hour yesterday. Usually she doesn't get to that point until all three parts of the treatment are done. I told her it due to the fact that her body has hit a platue with the meds they are using.

Today is the last 'rat poison' day.....:frown: Trying to keep her positive and laughing....

Tomorrow is the last Nulasta shot...and done! Labs are a bit low...but stable....praying her labs are high enough today to finish her chemo...white blood cell count was really low yesterday......so keeping fingers crossed she is higher today.

big hugs to you all......
Prayers and my thoughts are with you and yours...

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Yesterday was a bit more rough then it usually is for Mom....she could taste the meds....and it socked her to green gills points within the first hour yesterday. Usually she doesn't get to that point until all three parts of the treatment are done. I told her it due to the fact that her body has hit a platue with the meds they are using.

Today is the last 'rat poison' day.....:frown: Trying to keep her positive and laughing....

Tomorrow is the last Nulasta shot...and done! Labs are a bit low...but stable....praying her labs are high enough today to finish her chemo...white blood cell count was really low yesterday......so keeping fingers crossed she is higher today.

big hugs to you all......
Prayers and my thoughts are with you and yours...

~Mysty

Okay.

Two nasties down and only one left.

I'm sorry she was hit so hard by yesterday's.

White cell growth surge requested of the ONE Who Balances the Universe. Enough but not too much -- one of His many Talents, I believe. :))

Super hugs.

Prayers for that last nulasta super yuck with remission to last for years and years and years and years -- and you two hugging each other the whole time.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Okay.

Two nasties down and only one left.

I'm sorry she was hit so hard by yesterday's.

White cell growth surge requested of the ONE Who Balances the Universe. Enough but not too much -- one of His many Talents, I believe. :))

Super hugs.

Prayers for that last nulasta super yuck with remission to last for years and years and years and years -- and you two hugging each other the whole time.

And.....We're Done!!!! Yeah! Mom took the last of her chemo treatments and Nulasta shot like a champ! :mrgreen:

She hurts from head to toe...bone pain...and she knows it will get worse/escalate over the next week and a half...but also knows it is the last time she has to go through the after effects of chemo. So good and bad. Her spirits are high....positive attitude...and looking forward to a large family thanksgiving at her home.

I thank God for pulling her through this...it was more then rough...but the emotional growth and physical outcome where well worth the trails and tribulations it wrought. I'm working with her on the spiritual aspects of her faith and beliefs....which I pray the Lord gives me the right words and right heart to give her comfort in the love that her Father above has for her.

All in all, I'm more then grateful it's over. A few more blood workups and flushing of her internal port is all that is left. They will surgically pull the port in late October or early November.

Thank you for all your prayers and good thoughts....

Anyone heard from Mrs. G? How is Rhets Bear doing? How are his treatments going ?

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

And.....We're Done!!!! Yeah! Mom took the last of her chemo treatments and Nulasta shot like a champ! :mrgreen:

She hurts from head to toe...bone pain...and she knows it will get worse/escalate over the next week and a half...but also knows it is the last time she has to go through the after effects of chemo. So good and bad. Her spirits are high....positive attitude...and looking forward to a large family thanksgiving at her home.

I thank God for pulling her through this...it was more then rough...but the emotional growth and physical outcome where well worth the trails and tribulations it wrought. I'm working with her on the spiritual aspects of her faith and beliefs....which I pray the Lord gives me the right words and right heart to give her comfort in the love that her Father above has for her.

All in all, I'm more then grateful it's over. A few more blood workups and flushing of her internal port is all that is left. They will surgically pull the port in late October or early November.

Thank you for all your prayers and good thoughts....

Anyone heard from Mrs. G? How is Rhets Bear doing? How are his treatments going ?

~Mysty

Oh, I am so very glad!

Bear's kidney started bleeding -- came close to a major catastrophe -- but we got to the ER in time on Sunday, and the thrice-damed prostate is now OUT and GONE FOREVER. Major inritation to the lymph nodes and other organs, but no visible evidence of other cancerous growths.

Next step, once he's out of ICU and back on his feet is to discuss how much radiation and how to deliver it and see how much repair the kidneys and the bladder can do naturally with just some oral meds to help.

But, after two days and nights in hospital waiting rooms, I'm home and he's in very good hands.

I may get him back again this coming weekend, too, so my heart is vastly lifted.

The LORD has been so very good to me, beyond all doubt.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Oh, I am so very glad!

Bear's kidney started bleeding -- came close to a major catastrophe -- but we got to the ER in time on Sunday, and the thrice-damed prostate is now OUT and GONE FOREVER. Major inritation to the lymph nodes and other organs, but no visible evidence of other cancerous growths.

Next step, once he's out of ICU and back on his feet is to discuss how much radiation and how to deliver it and see how much repair the kidneys and the bladder can do naturally with just some oral meds to help.

But, after two days and nights in hospital waiting rooms, I'm home and he's in very good hands.

I may get him back again this coming weekend, too, so my heart is vastly lifted.

The LORD has been so very good to me, beyond all doubt.


I'm so glad to hear that the prostrate is finally out! Like any disease process, other organs take a bit of a beating when one of their own becomes diseased. Kidneys and other soft tissue organs are amazingly resilient...and heal well once the offending organ is removed. Some antibiotics and possibly a corticosteroid should do the trick nicely.

I pray your Bear is home with you soon...feeling more himself...able to enjoy his lovely family in his loving home as soon as possible. :pray:

Keep us updated on the radiation schedule......I'll be praying extra long on those days :pray:

I'm dealing with a nasty cold right now...and so have not been on as much. I'm out of town this weekend for a friend in need...but will check in on everyone when I get home next week.

Till then, thinking of all of you....keeping God's ear bent for my good friends here.....sending you gentle hugs of love.....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

I'm so glad to hear that the prostrate is finally out! Like any disease process, other organs take a bit of a beating when one of their own becomes diseased. Kidneys and other soft tissue organs are amazingly resilient...and heal well once the offending organ is removed. Some antibiotics and possibly a corticosteroid should do the trick nicely.

I pray your Bear is home with you soon...feeling more himself...able to enjoy his lovely family in his loving home as soon as possible. :pray:

Keep us updated on the radiation schedule......I'll be praying extra long on those days :pray:

I'm dealing with a nasty cold right now...and so have not been on as much. I'm out of town this weekend for a friend in need...but will check in on everyone when I get home next week.

Till then, thinking of all of you....keeping God's ear bent for my good friends here.....sending you gentle hugs of love.....

~Mysty

Oh, thank you! Hug received with joy ........ and returned in full measure.

God give you travel mercies and success in your ministry to another.

And my Bear is restored to me, sitting in his own chair, even as I type this. Even though he's in a lot of pain -- mostly because he refuses to take the heavy duty pain meds allowed by Dr. Ford -- my heart overflows with gratitude to the LORD.

It's funny how fond I've become of hearing his suddenly adorable snores coming from the other room. :))

He goes back to the VA hospital next week to have the staples removed, and again the week after that for post-op evaluation and decisions about what comes next. Prayerfully, the thrice-damned catheter gets permanently tossed as no longer required sometime during those two weeks.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Oh, thank you! Hug received with joy ........ and returned in full measure.

God give you travel mercies and success in your ministry to another.

And my Bear is restored to me, sitting in his own chair, even as I type this. Even though he's in a lot of pain -- mostly because he refuses to take the heavy duty pain meds allowed by Dr. Ford -- my heart overflows with gratitude to the LORD.

It's funny how fond I've become of hearing his suddenly adorable snores coming from the other room. :))

He goes back to the VA hospital next week to have the staples removed, and again the week after that for post-op evaluation and decisions about what comes next. Prayerfully, the thrice-damned catheter gets permanently tossed as no longer required sometime during those two weeks.

Isn't it amazing how quickly we become accustomed to snoring? I find it darn near impossible to sleep without the constant deep snoring from my own hubby. Lulls me to sleep every time.....lol

I'm so glad that your own Bear is home with you Rhet. Remind him that taking pain meds is part of the healing process. When the body is in pain, it takes longer to heal. When pain is present in the body, and we take pain meds, we don't feel woozie or fuzzy in the head. Many patients worry that they will feel drugged....which when there is pain for the meds to work on rarely makes them feel anything but comfortable and able to go on with their day.

Soooooo.....you tell your Bear from me...Take Your Meds!!! We want him feeling well and healing up as fast as his body will allow. I'm glad to hear the cath is gone too...or at least it should be by now. Hate those darn things. Effective in what they need to do...but darn inconvenient in day to day living. :neutral:

I came home Monday afternoon from my weekend trip. My business appointment went very well....and I got to stay an extra two days to help out a friend in need. Carson City Nevada is beautiful! I wished I could have stayed longer...I would have loved to spend a day fishing or dirt biking or even horse back riding! The business part netted me a nice commission bonus...and visiting with my friend refueled my soul....giving me energy I didn't know I was so low on. All and all, a very wonderful trip. I go back in November for business and a few days of visiting again. I'm looking forward to it. :dance:

Mom is doing well. Coming out of the second week from chemo...and she is starting to feel good again. She is so looking forward to having Thanksgiving at her little grandma home this year. She even has a good portion of hair growing in. I teased her that she will need a hair cut here pretty soon....lol.

Other then that....everything is good in my day to day life. Business for Mark has been a bit slow...but is expected for moving into fall from summer.

Praying everyone is doing well....keeping the Lords ear bent on all fronts...

big hugs,

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Isn't it amazing how quickly we become accustomed to snoring? I find it darn near impossible to sleep without the constant deep snoring from my own hubby. Lulls me to sleep every time.....lol

I'm so glad that your own Bear is home with you Rhet. Remind him that taking pain meds is part of the healing process. When the body is in pain, it takes longer to heal. When pain is present in the body, and we take pain meds, we don't feel woozie or fuzzy in the head. Many patients worry that they will feel drugged....which when there is pain for the meds to work on rarely makes them feel anything but comfortable and able to go on with their day.

Soooooo.....you tell your Bear from me...Take Your Meds!!! We want him feeling well and healing up as fast as his body will allow. I'm glad to hear the cath is gone too...or at least it should be by now. Hate those darn things. Effective in what they need to do...but darn inconvenient in day to day living. :neutral:

I came home Monday afternoon from my weekend trip. My business appointment went very well....and I got to stay an extra two days to help out a friend in need. Carson City Nevada is beautiful! I wished I could have stayed longer...I would have loved to spend a day fishing or dirt biking or even horse back riding! The business part netted me a nice commission bonus...and visiting with my friend refueled my soul....giving me energy I didn't know I was so low on. All and all, a very wonderful trip. I go back in November for business and a few days of visiting again. I'm looking forward to it. :dance:

Mom is doing well. Coming out of the second week from chemo...and she is starting to feel good again. She is so looking forward to having Thanksgiving at her little grandma home this year. She even has a good portion of hair growing in. I teased her that she will need a hair cut here pretty soon....lol.

Other then that....everything is good in my day to day life. Business for Mark has been a bit slow...but is expected for moving into fall from summer.

Praying everyone is doing well....keeping the Lords ear bent on all fronts...

big hugs,

~Mysty

I love that part of the Rockies -- truly beautiful country.

Do me a favor, would you? Pray that the refill on the pain meds arrives today. He was desperate enough last night that he took the last one after 72 hours without anything. The price of government supplied medical care, I suppose -- they can't just write a prescription to fill locally, but had to ship these from Tennessee -- supposedly sent out on Monday, still not here. And he's hurting A LOT, which means he's NOT up and moving more than absolutely necessary -- and that's slowing down the healing process. Bound to be. One, maybe two more weeks with the catheter. It would be a HUGE relief to have that GONE.

I'm so thrilled for your Mom. When is she scheduled for another PET? I'm praying she stays in remission permanently for a good LONG stretch of Thanksgivings at Grandma's House.

Life is good when business is good -- but not so good that you never get those days of hunting and fishing and horsing around with friends and family.

:clap:

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

I love that part of the Rockies -- truly beautiful country.

Do me a favor, would you? Pray that the refill on the pain meds arrives today. He was desperate enough last night that he took the last one after 72 hours without anything. The price of government supplied medical care, I suppose -- they can't just write a prescription to fill locally, but had to ship these from Tennessee -- supposedly sent out on Monday, still not here. And he's hurting A LOT, which means he's NOT up and moving more than absolutely necessary -- and that's slowing down the healing process. Bound to be. One, maybe two more weeks with the catheter. It would be a HUGE relief to have that GONE.

I'm so thrilled for your Mom. When is she scheduled for another PET? I'm praying she stays in remission permanently for a good LONG stretch of Thanksgivings at Grandma's House.

Life is good when business is good -- but not so good that you never get those days of hunting and fishing and horsing around with friends and family.

:clap:

Meds are coming from Tennessee? Dear Flying Frogs honey! If they shipped them Monday....which you should be able to track via Fed Ex or Post Office...call and find out how they shipped them....should be by you no later then yesterday afternoon...This morning at the absolute latest!

I'm so sorry to hear his pain level is rising. It breaks my heart to know he is in pain. If need be...call his local doctor who did the operation...and tell him the pain level your bear is in. They can give him a two to three day supply to hold him over until his meds arrive. I'm sure his doctor will be more then happy to help his patient stay within pain control. Hopefully his meds are already there...but still....having that information about calling his doctor in times such as these is a nice piece of handy information just in case it ever happens again.

Keeping my prayers coming.....know that there is light at the end of this seemingly long tunnel. Everything truly does have a purpose honey.....even if we don't recognize it at first.

Keep your spirits up.....

BTW, anyone heard from Mrs. G? Would love to know how Mr. G is doing.

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Meds are coming from Tennessee? Dear Flying Frogs honey! If they shipped them Monday....which you should be able to track via Fed Ex or Post Office...call and find out how they shipped them....should be by you no later then yesterday afternoon...This morning at the absolute latest!

I'm so sorry to hear his pain level is rising. It breaks my heart to know he is in pain. If need be...call his local doctor who did the operation...and tell him the pain level your bear is in. They can give him a two to three day supply to hold him over until his meds arrive. I'm sure his doctor will be more then happy to help his patient stay within pain control. Hopefully his meds are already there...but still....having that information about calling his doctor in times such as these is a nice piece of handy information just in case it ever happens again.

Keeping my prayers coming.....know that there is light at the end of this seemingly long tunnel. Everything truly does have a purpose honey.....even if we don't recognize it at first.

Keep your spirits up.....

BTW, anyone heard from Mrs. G? Would love to know how Mr. G is doing.

~Mysty

Thank you, dear one. I drove him to the local VA clinic -- took 15 minutes before they had him swallowing two, he was in such agony -- sent him home with 48 more -- and the one ordered by the VA hospital where the surgery was done still haven't arrived. Mr. Obstinate SHOULD have done this on Wednesday at the latest. :wall:

I've seen Mrs. G. posting in threads in other forums -- but not very much. I hope and pray they're all okay.

[jwil59]

My prayer and well wishes for you folks

[Gregor]

Hi guys...I'm sorry and thank you for thinking of me. School has started and I'm in the grading zone again. I just can't seem to get caught up, and in part it's because I've ended back on the political threads on this site! Remind me to just hit myself over the head with a hammer--same effect. In any event, Mr. G. goes to the doc next in two weeks just to get his bloodwork done and to set up an appt. for his PET. He's nervous, but I'm not. I am confident that Doc. M. did the job right!!! So there Cancer!!! Anyway, you are all in my thoughts even as I got sucked into that dark abyss of political posting once again, and as always I truly appreciate your thoughts and good vibes.

[Gregor]

Mom is doing well. Coming out of the second week from chemo...and she is starting to feel good again. She is so looking forward to having Thanksgiving at her little grandma home this year. She even has a good portion of hair growing in. I teased her that she will need a hair cut here pretty soon....lol. SO glad to hear this!!!

[Gregor]

Oh, I am so very glad!

Bear's kidney started bleeding -- came close to a major catastrophe -- but we got to the ER in time on Sunday, and the thrice-damed prostate is now OUT and GONE FOREVER. Major inritation to the lymph nodes and other organs, but no visible evidence of other cancerous growths.

Next step, once he's out of ICU and back on his feet is to discuss how much radiation and how to deliver it and see how much repair the kidneys and the bladder can do naturally with just some oral meds to help.

But, after two days and nights in hospital waiting rooms, I'm home and he's in very good hands.

I may get him back again this coming weekend, too, so my heart is vastly lifted.

The LORD has been so very good to me, beyond all doubt.
Oh dear. I hope the meds have arrived. Bombarding him with healing vibes!!!!

[rhet 2]

Oh dear. I hope the meds have arrived. Bombarding him with healing vibes!!!!


Thank you! He is immensely better, which makes my own life much richer and happier, too.

:hug:

I know EXACTLY what you mean by the grading crunch and getting caught up in this political crisis we face. ICKY.

Will be praying for that doctor visit in two weeks and the next PET.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Rhet.....I'm so glad the VA sent hubby home with meds...If need be...crack open that jar again if the meds from Tennessee still haven't arrived. Pain control is key here....we want him back up and healed as soon as possible!

Mrs. G....I'm sure the PET will be a picture of perfect health for Mr. G. Your in my prayers honey. Don't get to tied up in the politics of the season. Life is so very short....and shouldn't be wasted on those who simply don't get it. :mrgreen:

Thanks Jwil for your ongoing prayers.....Lord knows He has got to be sick of hearing from me by now....lol

Started my own business....I think I mentioned when I was last here. It's been keeping me busy to say the very least. I'm loving it though...great oppertunity to help edify and teach women....

Praying you are all doing well....keeping you in my prayers and thoughts...

God Bless....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Update: staples out, catheter gone -- lots of leakage, but he's home, sound asleep, and, while still on NO LIFTING NADA restrictions, he's walking a whole lot freer and happier.

Next week, new scans. Then a whole new prognosis/recommended followup treatment the first week in November.

Dr. Ford is, reportedly, quite happy with his progress to date. I pray Ford knows what he's talking about.

Oh, and money is getting REALLY squeaky now, with savings going up in smoke, so the sooner he's up and back to work, the better.

[Gregor]

Update: staples out, catheter gone -- lots of leakage, but he's home, sound asleep, and, while still on NO LIFTING NADA restrictions, he's walking a whole lot freer and happier.

Next week, new scans. Then a whole new prognosis/recommended followup treatment the first week in November.

Dr. Ford is, reportedly, quite happy with his progress to date. I pray Ford knows what he's talking about.

Oh, and money is getting REALLY squeaky now, with savings going up in smoke, so the sooner he's up and back to work, the better.

I'm just so sorry you have so much bearing down on you. I'm happy, though, that he is home and improving.

[Gregor]

Rhet.....I'm so glad the VA sent hubby home with meds...If need be...crack open that jar again if the meds from Tennessee still haven't arrived. Pain control is key here....we want him back up and healed as soon as possible!

Mrs. G....I'm sure the PET will be a picture of perfect health for Mr. G. Your in my prayers honey. Don't get to tied up in the politics of the season. Life is so very short....and shouldn't be wasted on those who simply don't get it. :mrgreen:

Thanks Jwil for your ongoing prayers.....Lord knows He has got to be sick of hearing from me by now....lol

Started my own business....I think I mentioned when I was last here. It's been keeping me busy to say the very least. I'm loving it though...great oppertunity to help edify and teach women....

Praying you are all doing well....keeping you in my prayers and thoughts...

God Bless....

~MystyThank you...and, the little green monster aside...I agree! Hah! This is a kinder gentler thread in which to be!

[crystalclear]

Update: staples out, catheter gone -- lots of leakage, but he's home, sound asleep, and, while still on NO LIFTING NADA restrictions, he's walking a whole lot freer and happier.

Next week, new scans. Then a whole new prognosis/recommended followup treatment the first week in November.

Dr. Ford is, reportedly, quite happy with his progress to date. I pray Ford knows what he's talking about.

Oh, and money is getting REALLY squeaky now, with savings going up in smoke, so the sooner he's up and back to work, the better.
Prayers for an extra speedy recovery:pray:

[crystalclear]

Anyone in here taking the Tarceva pill?

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Thank you...and, the little green monster aside...I agree! Hah! This is a kinder gentler thread in which to be!

LOL....Kinder gentler yes.....you crack me up Mrs. G.

Mom went in on Monday for blood work and a check up...week three after 8 full chemo sessions. Her doctor is concerned with a 'blip' on her scan that is near or on her spleen/liver. It would explain some of the other symptoms she is experiencing. She feels weak still...but her voice is becoming stronger and her hair coming in thick and glossy.

My new biz is rowing along....and I'm glad for the oppertunity to be out in the public view again.

Other then that...all is well. I was so glad to read the Rhets Bear is on the mend...so to speak....and am praying for a quick recovery!

....And No Crystal....I've not heard of that specific medication...Trevecar is it? why do you ask? I can look it up and try to break down what it is in laymen terms for you if need be......just let me know.

God bless you all....your in my prayers and thoughts daily.....

~Mysty

[crystalclear]

LOL....Kinder gentler yes.....you crack me up Mrs. G.

Mom went in on Monday for blood work and a check up...week three after 8 full chemo sessions. Her doctor is concerned with a 'blip' on her scan that is near or on her spleen/liver. It would explain some of the other symptoms she is experiencing. She feels weak still...but her voice is becoming stronger and her hair coming in thick and glossy.

My new biz is rowing along....and I'm glad for the oppertunity to be out in the public view again.

Other then that...all is well. I was so glad to read the Rhets Bear is on the mend...so to speak....and am praying for a quick recovery!

....And No Crystal....I've not heard of that specific medication...Trevecar is it? why do you ask? I can look it up and try to break down what it is in laymen terms for you if need be......just let me know.

God bless you all....your in my prayers and thoughts daily.....

~Mysty
Tarceva is a pill one takes after two different chemo treatments did not work. It's an inhibitor. My husband is now taking it, and is doing soooo much better! He can now eat anything he wants and keeps the food down. Chemo really tore him up and put so many limits upon him.

My desire is to compare progress with someone here who is taking Tarceva. And also to post of the benifits of this new pill.

I'm sure you have explained the reason why they are removing her port and i just missed that post ....but I highly recommend you question why they want it removed? My husband has had his now for almost 2 years, and it sure has been a blessing during complications when I had to rush him to the hospital or call 911.
Just a tip.:angel:

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Tarceva is a pill one takes after two different chemo treatments did not work. It's an inhibitor. My husband is now taking it, and is doing soooo much better! He can now eat anything he wants and keeps the food down. Chemo really tore him up and put so many limits upon him.

My desire is to compare progress with someone here who is taking Tarceva. And also to post of the benifits of this new pill.

I'm sure you have explained the reason why they are removing her port and i just missed that post ....but I highly recommend you question why they want it removed? My husband has had his now for almost 2 years, and it sure has been a blessing during complications when I had to rush him to the hospital or call 911.
Just a tip.:angel:

The medication your husband takes sounds wonderful! I'm so glad he has something that helps him to maintain his eating habits. One awful side effect of chemo and radiation is a horrific nausea...:frown: So I'm happy to hear it's working for him.

My Mom had stage 4 non hodgkins lymphomia....b cell type non folicular to be precise. Her internal port was placed several weeks prior to her first chemo appointment...and will be removed now that she is 100% disease free after her full chemo round. This is a normal procedure for those patients who have such successes with their chemo treatments. She is not in remission...she is 100% disease free!!! Yeah!!!

Now had Mom only had ...say a 80 or 90% success rate with her chemo...then they would recommend that the port stay in. In addition, a daily 'chemo therapy' oral drug would have been given to her on a 10 to 12 week trail to see if the boast in drugs would bring her to 100% disease free status. Thankfully, she doesn't have to endure that.

Hope that answers your questions. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your husband .....stay strong and positive....remain fully aware of the all the resources available to help you both...ask questions on everything....and most of all...make every day count!

~Mysty

[jwil59]

My prayers and love for you folks in this thread

[rhet 2]

My prayers and love for you folks in this thread

:hug:

I was just wondering about Mr. G, and Mystic Mom, and Crystal's hubbie.

I pray things are improving for all of them.

[Gregor]

Anyone in here taking the Tarceva pill?

Hi Crystal. I haven't heard of it. My husband was diagnosed w/ stage III non-hodgkins lymphoma. It showed as a large mass above and below his sternum and a little on his spleen--thus the three staging. He had six R-Chop, 4 ICE, 20 days of radiation, and a stem cell transplant. He has been in remission for a year and a half. He goes for a new PET in the next few weeks.

He also has Hep-C...believed to have come from tainted blood in knee surgery before they screened the blood. The Hep-C doctor has determined that there is no reason to treat that now, especially since my husband's levels never came up from the stem cell transplant. There is a lot of new stuff on the horizon that is better than interfuron (used to treat hep c) that also has less side effects.

That's where we're at. Thanks to all who asked....

[Gregor]

:hug:

I was just wondering about Mr. G, and Mystic Mom, and Crystal's hubbie.

I pray things are improving for all of them.

Things seem to be improving...so keep those prayers coming!!!!!:hug::hug::hug:

[Hadassah]

I love reading all this good news.

[Stuball]

Things seem to be improving...so keep those prayers coming!!!!!:hug::hug::hug:
We are
I am glad things are going well
If we ever have another NY Meeetup we want you both there

[crystalclear]

The medication your husband takes sounds wonderful! I'm so glad he has something that helps him to maintain his eating habits. One awful side effect of chemo and radiation is a horrific nausea...:frown: So I'm happy to hear it's working for him.

My Mom had stage 4 non hodgkins lymphomia....b cell type non folicular to be precise. Her internal port was placed several weeks prior to her first chemo appointment...and will be removed now that she is 100% disease free after her full chemo round. This is a normal procedure for those patients who have such successes with their chemo treatments. She is not in remission...she is 100% disease free!!! Yeah!!!

Now had Mom only had ...say a 80 or 90% success rate with her chemo...then they would recommend that the port stay in. In addition, a daily 'chemo therapy' oral drug would have been given to her on a 10 to 12 week trail to see if the boast in drugs would bring her to 100% disease free status. Thankfully, she doesn't have to endure that.

Hope that answers your questions. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your husband .....stay strong and positive....remain fully aware of the all the resources available to help you both...ask questions on everything....and most of all...make every day count!

~Mysty
That is fantastic news Mysty!! I am so happy for you and your Mother. Wow.... to be 100% curred:clap:
God Bless!

[crystalclear]

My prayers and love for you folks in this thread
Right back at cha!

[crystalclear]

:hug:

I was just wondering about Mr. G, and Mystic Mom, and Crystal's hubbie.

I pray things are improving for all of them.

Thank-you for your concern rhet. I hope thing's are getting better for your hubby too. I admire your positive up-beat attitude, and your unending prayers for so many members here.

It's hard to say what's going on with him right now. We just got off the phone with the on call Doctor regarding complications he is experiencing. He advised we discontinue Tarceva for two nights and call our Doctor Monday morning. So we'll see...

We still refuse to hit the panic button. We're going to take this one day at a time, and be gratefull he is still here. But, on the other hand our heads are not in the sand... I am gathering the family and friends around him. Likewise he has everything in order for me...

The love that has come from this monster cancer still holds us in awe.

[crystalclear]

Hi Crystal. I haven't heard of it. My husband was diagnosed w/ stage III non-hodgkins lymphoma. It showed as a large mass above and below his sternum and a little on his spleen--thus the three staging. He had six R-Chop, 4 ICE, 20 days of radiation, and a stem cell transplant. He has been in remission for a year and a half. He goes for a new PET in the next few weeks.

He also has Hep-C...believed to have come from tainted blood in knee surgery before they screened the blood. The Hep-C doctor has determined that there is no reason to treat that now, especially since my husband's levels never came up from the stem cell transplant. There is a lot of new stuff on the horizon that is better than interfuron (used to treat hep c) that also has less side effects.

That's where we're at. Thanks to all who asked....

What a blessing to be in remission for a year and a half! Thats really great! Thanks for sharing your story with me.

My husband has stage 4 NSCLC in his right lung, which was attached to his Aorta and wrapped around his left vena cava. There was nothing to restruct to, so we had to do chemo and radiation.

We went through two study trials, then brain radiation to protect the brain. It Later spread to his abdomen and liver. He never went into remission...but were happy even for the partial remission...and he's still here telling me he loves me. Life is still good.

[Gregor]

What a blessing to be in remission for a year and a half! Thats really great! Thanks for sharing your story with me.

My husband has stage 4 NSCLC in his right lung, which was attached to his Aorta and wrapped around his left vena cava. There was nothing to restruct to, so we had to do chemo and radiation.

We went through two study trials, then brain radiation to protect the brain. It Later spread to his abdomen and liver. He never went into remission...but were happy even for the partial remission...and he's still here telling me he loves me. Life is still good.
It sounds like a rough road for you two, Crystal. My thoughts and healing vibes are with you. Cancer is so predictable and unpredictable at the same time--I know that sounds silly, but you know what I mean. We had a friend visit last weekend who has prostate cancer. He opted for radiation and, unlike the vast majority of cases, he can't be cured. Now, because the radiation fused the prostate, it can't be removed. In the meantime it has moved into his lymph system and they knew eventually it would affect his bones. He was visiting last week and kept complaining of a backache, and sadly the day he returned he found out he had a cancerous mass on his spine. It's been removed and he's getting around, but his spirits have taken a downward turn and his movement will be limited for some time to come. We never know what one PET will say to the next, but we've tried really hard not to start living PET to PET because that is SO easy to do...instead just appreciate today, cause that's all anybody has for sure.

[crystalclear]

It sounds like a rough road for you two, Crystal. My thoughts and healing vibes are with you. Cancer is so predictable and unpredictable at the same time--I know that sounds silly, but you know what I mean. We had a friend visit last weekend who has prostate cancer. He opted for radiation and, unlike the vast majority of cases, he can't be cured. Now, because the radiation fused the prostate, it can't be removed. In the meantime it has moved into his lymph system and they knew eventually it would affect his bones. He was visiting last week and kept complaining of a backache, and sadly the day he returned he found out he had a cancerous mass on his spine. It's been removed and he's getting around, but his spirits have taken a downward turn and his movement will be limited for some time to come. We never know what one PET will say to the next, but we've tried really hard not to start living PET to PET because that is SO easy to do...instead just appreciate today, cause that's all anybody has for sure.
Thank you Gregor.
My heart goes out to your friend. Is he married?

Yes I know the feeling of trying not to live from PET to PET, it's tough.

We just found out a friend of ours has bone marrow cancer. She was teaching and fainted in class, was rushed to the hospital and had her life turned upside down upon the diagnosis. One day you're fine...the next day you're counting your blessing's and holding on for dear life.

[Gregor]

Thank you Gregor.
My heart goes out to your friend. Is he married?

Yes I know the feeling of trying not to live from PET to PET, it's tough.

We just found out a friend of ours has bone marrow cancer. She was teaching and fainted in class, was rushed to the hospital and had her life turned upside down upon the diagnosis. One day you're fine...the next day you're counting your blessing's and holding on for dear life.

He is married...and it's a very sad story in that he and his high school sweetheart had gone on to live different lives. Years after he was divorced and after her husband had left, they reconnected and married. Cancer, as you know, is not just hard on the patient. It's hard on the entire family, and as with all illnesses sometimes a person's worst traits become more dominant and it is very difficult. Because my husband endured his treatment well and he was in good hands almost from the start, we remarkably got through it pretty unscathed, although two times we had left the hospital (almost 2 hours from home) and he didn't bother to tell me he was spiking a fever until we got home, which meant turning around and driving right back. Then there was the month recovery of the stem cell transplant (a bit of misnomer because what it really is, is the destruction through very heavy duty chemo of everything, and then the reintroduction of his own harvested stem cells.) I had just gone back to work and was leaving home at 6, working, driving to the hospital, and then heading home sometimes not leaving the hospital til after 10 (he hated for me to go because he was lonely.) I know this is small potatoes compared to what many go through, and I don't ever take for granted how not horrible it was knowing that it still can always be horrible...but it was stressful none-the-less. Right now our friend is putting his wife through the ringer, and as it was, she already has sacrificed enormously because he has been so focused on his life/death (he was given a very, very general range...something like...it could be a year or ten years)...that she is giving much of herself away.

I told my husband when we get through this I'm going to write a book called: What about me!!! Cancer is a very selfish disease, as you know, and you have to find time for you too. There is no value in collapsing because you have taken on too much. Many, many thoughts and prayers are with you.

[crystalclear]

He is married...and it's a very sad story in that he and his high school sweetheart had gone on to live different lives. Years after he was divorced and after her husband had left, they reconnected and married. Cancer, as you know, is not just hard on the patient. It's hard on the entire family, and as with all illnesses sometimes a person's worst traits become more dominant and it is very difficult. Because my husband endured his treatment well and he was in good hands almost from the start, we remarkably got through it pretty unscathed, although two times we had left the hospital (almost 2 hours from home) and he didn't bother to tell me he was spiking a fever until we got home, which meant turning around and driving right back. Then there was the month recovery of the stem cell transplant (a bit of misnomer because what it really is, is the destruction through very heavy duty chemo of everything, and then the reintroduction of his own harvested stem cells.) I had just gone back to work and was leaving home at 6, working, driving to the hospital, and then heading home sometimes not leaving the hospital til after 10 (he hated for me to go because he was lonely.) I know this is small potatoes compared to what many go through, and I don't ever take for granted how not horrible it was knowing that it still can always be horrible...but it was stressful none-the-less. Right now our friend is putting his wife through the ringer, and as it was, she already has sacrificed enormously because he has been so focused on his life/death (he was given a very, very general range...something like...it could be a year or ten years)...that she is giving much of herself away.

I told my husband when we get through this I'm going to write a book called: What about me!!! Cancer is a very selfish disease, as you know, and you have to find time for you too. There is no value in collapsing because you have taken on too much. Many, many thoughts and prayers are with you.
Well I'm glad he is married...she will help keep him alive. If it weren't for me taking care of him every day and night he would of long been gone. I don't say that arrogantly, I say that because most of the time he was unable to care for himself, not to mention keep his meds straight.

But I can not imagine how hard this must be on you while working full time! Girl how are you doing this? I had to quit my job that I just adored (photoing newborns at the hospital) because it called for too much emotion, as my husbands condition deteriated. At first it was a diversion but after a year and a half I found it difficult to smile all day long.

I like the book idea...about the only thing I do for myself is go for a drive, because that doesn't require anything extra from me like applying make-up or fixing my hair. Oh my gosh I can't believe I typed that..:eek:

[Gregor]

Well I'm glad he is married...she will help keep him alive. If it weren't for me taking care of him every day and night he would of long been gone. I don't say that arrogantly, I say that because most of the time he was unable to care for himself, not to mention keep his meds straight.

But I can not imagine how hard this must be on you while working full time! Girl how are you doing this? I had to quit my job that I just adored (photoing newborns at the hospital) because it called for too much emotion, as my husbands condition deteriated. At first it was a diversion but after a year and a half I found it difficult to smile all day long.

I like the book idea...about the only thing I do for myself is go for a drive, because that doesn't require anything extra from me like applying make-up or fixing my hair. Oh my gosh I can't believe I typed that..:eek:
My situation wasn't that bad because my husband handled the chemo so well and even though the stats suggested his "chances" were 50/50, our doctor was so encouraging that we had every reason to believe he would survive. Of course you're right about your husband needing you. That's why it's so crucial that you take time for you too. He depends on your strength and you owe it to your own sanity. This disease consumes everyone around it...and not just literally, but in terms of families and friends--figuratively as well.

[Gregor]

We are
I am glad things are going well
If we ever have another NY Meeetup we want you both there

What ever happened to those?

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

UPDate: Mom is going to have her port out the end of this month. Yeah...it is beginning to bother her...as it is not being used regularly...so some pulling and tightening of the tissues surrounding it. Her two doctors are not sure whether or not her parathyroid still needs to come out. They are hoping to take out both the port and her parathyroid at the same time. It's an out patient procedure.

Her liver tests came back with some odd number. So, they did some tests, and found her liver enzymes were odd. She blipped high on her ultrasound too. So something is going off in that region of her body. We don't think it has anything to do with the lymphomia she just survived; a separate issue...but still, it can take her down as she is still in the recover period from her full chemo treatments.

Her emotional levels vacillate widely day to day. Anger seems to be the most predominant right now; as is working on long ago past family issues. Tiring to say the least. She trys to pick fights when one is not needed, as a way to get out the awful feelings she has pent up inside her. The presidential race is not helping either...Fire and Brimstone speeches on how the end of the world is upon us....and am I ready to meet my maker in judgment? A bit heavy for a Monday morning coffee talk I must say. :rolleyes:

Anyway...slogging through life. I hate fall...it makes me hurt so darn bad. I get through it though. Business is slow right now for Marks HVAC business; and I am still struggling to maintain my own new business. So much to do and the holidays upon us....a womans stress is never quelled is it?

Keeping Gregor, Rhet and Crystal in my daily prayers. I pray your Fall is going wonderful and you are enjoying one another in this beautiful time of year.

Big Hugs

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

UPDate: Mom is going to have her port out the end of this month. Yeah...it is beginning to bother her...as it is not being used regularly...so some pulling and tightening of the tissues surrounding it. Her two doctors are not sure whether or not her parathyroid still needs to come out. They are hoping to take out both the port and her parathyroid at the same time. It's an out patient procedure.

Her liver tests came back with some odd number. So, they did some tests, and found her liver enzymes were odd. She blipped high on her ultrasound too. So something is going off in that region of her body. We don't think it has anything to do with the lymphomia she just survived; a separate issue...but still, it can take her down as she is still in the recover period from her full chemo treatments.

Her emotional levels vacillate widely day to day. Anger seems to be the most predominant right now; as is working on long ago past family issues. Tiring to say the least. She trys to pick fights when one is not needed, as a way to get out the awful feelings she has pent up inside her. The presidential race is not helping either...Fire and Brimstone speeches on how the end of the world is upon us....and am I ready to meet my maker in judgment? A bit heavy for a Monday morning coffee talk I must say. :rolleyes:

Anyway...slogging through life. I hate fall...it makes me hurt so darn bad. I get through it though. Business is slow right now for Marks HVAC business; and I am still struggling to maintain my own new business. So much to do and the holidays upon us....a womans stress is never quelled is it?

Keeping Gregor, Rhet and Crystal in my daily prayers. I pray your Fall is going wonderful and you are enjoying one another in this beautiful time of year.

Big Hugs

~Mysty

Then I most assuredly am praying about that liver function and the parathyroid -- and the removal of the port.

God has blessed us very much. The Bear is slowly a bit more each day returning to work. Just in the nick of time, too, considering how our savings just got eaten alive.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Then I most assuredly am praying about that liver function and the parathyroid -- and the removal of the port.

God has blessed us very much. The Bear is slowly a bit more each day returning to work. Just in the nick of time, too, considering how our savings just got eaten alive.

Oh Honey; I know how financial stress can really wear us down. Remember what Christ himself said about worrying.....Something along the lines of deal with today in the now, and don't worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will come soon enough with it's own problems. Not to mention, stress will kill you! Literally make you sick.

Money is a funny tool. One never has enough no matter what bracket your in , to do those things we plan and goal to do. I like the saying of "Want what you have":D

I'm am so glad to hear your Bear is doing better. Slow but sure is what wins a race. I'm keeping him in my thoughts.

Sending ya hugs,

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Oh Honey; I know how financial stress can really wear us down. Remember what Christ himself said about worrying.....Something along the lines of deal with today in the now, and don't worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will come soon enough with it's own problems. Not to mention, stress will kill you! Literally make you sick.

Money is a funny tool. One never has enough no matter what bracket your in , to do those things we plan and goal to do. I like the saying of "Want what you have":D

I'm am so glad to hear your Bear is doing better. Slow but sure is what wins a race. I'm keeping him in my thoughts.

Sending ya hugs,

~Mysty


Thanks, doll face. How's Mom this weekend?

:hug: returned with grateful love.

[Gregor]

UPDate: Mom is going to have her port out the end of this month. Yeah...it is beginning to bother her...as it is not being used regularly...so some pulling and tightening of the tissues surrounding it. Her two doctors are not sure whether or not her parathyroid still needs to come out. They are hoping to take out both the port and her parathyroid at the same time. It's an out patient procedure.

Her liver tests came back with some odd number. So, they did some tests, and found her liver enzymes were odd. She blipped high on her ultrasound too. So something is going off in that region of her body. We don't think it has anything to do with the lymphomia she just survived; a separate issue...but still, it can take her down as she is still in the recover period from her full chemo treatments.

Her emotional levels vacillate widely day to day. Anger seems to be the most predominant right now; as is working on long ago past family issues. Tiring to say the least. She trys to pick fights when one is not needed, as a way to get out the awful feelings she has pent up inside her. The presidential race is not helping either...Fire and Brimstone speeches on how the end of the world is upon us....and am I ready to meet my maker in judgment? A bit heavy for a Monday morning coffee talk I must say. :rolleyes:

Anyway...slogging through life. I hate fall...it makes me hurt so darn bad. I get through it though. Business is slow right now for Marks HVAC business; and I am still struggling to maintain my own new business. So much to do and the holidays upon us....a womans stress is never quelled is it?

Keeping Gregor, Rhet and Crystal in my daily prayers. I pray your Fall is going wonderful and you are enjoying one another in this beautiful time of year.

Big Hugs

~MystyThanks hon. Mr. G. goes in for a PET I think next week. The Hep C doctor decided there is NO reason to start him on treatment. The Hep C load is not hurting him at this time and there are MANY treatments on the horizon that have fewer complications and that are more effective. I flash back to the choices that led us to live here, and I am forever thankful that he had sloan to rely on.

Sadly, a dear friend of my husband's has incurable prostate cancer. They just removed a mass from his spine and all went well, but this means the cancer will keep going to the bones. He has just returned home in great pain and depression. Please send your healing thoughts to him and his doting wife.

[rhet 2]

Thanks hon. Mr. G. goes in for a PET I think next week. The Hep C doctor decided there is NO reason to start him on treatment. The Hep C load is not hurting him at this time and there are MANY treatments on the horizon that have fewer complications and that are more effective. I flash back to the choices that led us to live here, and I am forever thankful that he had sloan to rely on.

Sadly, a dear friend of my husband's has incurable prostate cancer. They just removed a mass from his spine and all went well, but this means the cancer will keep going to the bones. He has just returned home in great pain and depression. Please send your healing thoughts to him and his doting wife.

Having just narrowly missed the same catastrophe, your friend and his family and friends have all my prayers.

[Gregor]

Having just narrowly missed the same catastrophe, your friend and his family and friends have all my prayers.

TY...what a hideous disease this is. I'm sorry you went through what you've experienced.

[rhet 2]

TY...what a hideous disease this is. I'm sorry you went through what you've experienced.

TY

So far, so good.

I'm equally sorry for your own trials -- and glad things are looking up for you, too.

I have not before encountered the Cancer Monster -- heart problems and strokes and diabetes -- but he's the first with the cancer ape chewing in a lot of close friends and family.

Now I know just a bit of the horrors that monstrosity causes -- and my heart truly grieves for your friend and others caught in the same nightmare.

I PRAY with all my heart that some of the newer treatments under development that I've read about prove to be the hope they promise.

[Gem]

Hi all,
Just wanted to tell how God has blessed me.

I had skin cancer on my shoulder. didnt know what it was at first, then I went to the Doc he told me it was cancer and wanted to start treatment on me right away.

It was a big spot, almost as big as a quarter.

But I told the doc that I did not want his treatment, ( told him of course in a nice way )

My family is a Christian family. and we have very strong faith in our God the Lord Jesus Christ.

So we have friends to come in our home at least once a week for prayer meetings.

So we was having prayer that night and it was really getting strong in the spirit. God told me to put my sister's hand along with mine on my shoulder.

So she and I did what God said to do , we prayed that God would heal my cancer . It was a strong and powerful prayer meeting. I felt God touch my shoulder that night in prayer. I worshiped and praised and thanked God for touching me .

But after that night of prayer I never thought no more what so ever about my cancer.

And one day about three weeks later my shoulder started to itch.
And i started to scratch my shoulder.

And when I did I felt something in my hand that was on my shoulder. I looked in my had and it was the skin cancer, thank God.

It just crumbled in my hand. I ran to a mirrow and looked at my shoulder and the cancer was gone, not even a scar was there.

I went back to my doc and he checked my shoulder .
In bewilderment he wanted to know what happend to the cancer.

Well that gave me a chance to witness to him and tell him how my God the Lord Jesus heald me from the cancer.He did not know what to say.

And I am still to this day praiseing my god and thanking Him for healing my of cancer.

[Gregor]

Mr. G. got his PET results yesterday. Ready? Better than they anticipated. He is in full remission--the doctor hugged him and told him he'll see him in six months for a CAT; he's not going to even bother with a PET. This is the best news we could have anticipated, and I want to thank you all for your prayers because I really believe they helped. You've stood by us throughout this whole process and that has meant the world to me. I will be praying for you all and wishing the same kind of results for your difficulties. Thank you again.

[rhet 2]

Mr. G. got his PET results yesterday. Ready? Better than they anticipated. He is in full remission--the doctor hugged him and told him he'll see him in six months for a CAT; he's not going to even bother with a PET. This is the best news we could have anticipated, and I want to thank you all for your prayers because I really believe they helped. You've stood by us throughout this whole process and that has meant the world to me. I will be praying for you all and wishing the same kind of results for your difficulties. Thank you again.

NOW I can dance happier.

:pray:

Thank you, LORD of All Mercies. Thank you more than words can express.

[Gregor]

NOW I can dance happier.

:pray:

Thank you, LORD of All Mercies. Thank you more than words can express.

Thank you sooo much. I know you mean it with all your heart, and you know I am sending all my extra strength your way now....much love to you.

[rhet 2]

Thank you sooo much. I know you mean it with all your heart, and you know I am sending all my extra strength your way now....much love to you.

Thank you. I need all the positives I can get.

For a secular humanist, you're okay -- more than okay.

We may differ in our politics and our religious convictions -- but we share a mutual grief and horror over human suffering and a sincere wish to make the hurting stop.

I'm truly grateful that your own worst hurt has ended.

How's the young bride making out? She, too, is in my prayers. It's a marvelous experience full of wonders and yet very tricky transition full of potential pitfalls and nasty traps, the first few years of marriage. And I wish your daughter nothing but success as she moves into full self-actualization as a wife, as well as a separate adult personality in her own right.

[jwil59]

Mr. G. got his PET results yesterday. Ready? Better than they anticipated. He is in full remission--the doctor hugged him and told him he'll see him in six months for a CAT; he's not going to even bother with a PET. This is the best news we could have anticipated, and I want to thank you all for your prayers because I really believe they helped. You've stood by us throughout this whole process and that has meant the world to me. I will be praying for you all and wishing the same kind of results for your difficulties. Thank you again.

Oh my goodness this is a blessing of epic proportion.

Praise God, I am so happy for you guys G

My prayers and love for all those in this thread

[Gregor]

Thank you. I need all the positives I can get.

For a secular humanist, you're okay -- more than okay.

We may differ in our politics and our religious convictions -- but we share a mutual grief and horror over human suffering and a sincere wish to make the hurting stop.

I'm truly grateful that your own worst hurt has ended.

How's the young bride making out? She, too, is in my prayers. It's a marvelous experience full of wonders and yet very tricky transition full of potential pitfalls and nasty traps, the first few years of marriage. And I wish your daughter nothing but success as she moves into full self-actualization as a wife, as well as a separate adult personality in her own right.

Differences is why I chose to remain a citizen of this country! I can't imagine living where everyone thinks the same. I'd never grow!

She's doing well. They were home for Thanksgiving and the two are absolutely nutty. They are our "nerds" and behave as such...which makes for hours of entertainment!!!

[Gregor]

Oh my goodness this is a blessing of epic proportion.

Praise God, I am so happy for you guys G

My prayers and love for all those in this thread

I know you are, and everything you've done has been appreciated. We know this is just one step and that we have years to go before he is "cured," but it's a huge one and we'll take it!

[rhet 2]

Differences is why I chose to remain a citizen of this country! I can't imagine living where everyone thinks the same. I'd never grow!

She's doing well. They were home for Thanksgiving and the two are absolutely nutty. They are our "nerds" and behave as such...which makes for hours of entertainment!!!

I like differences, too.

Everyone needs a niche to fill in society. Enjoy their "nerd" stage till they figure out modifications to fill a different one. :)) There is no joy, IMO, than watching others self-discover who they want to be.

You and your soul mate now have those years -- I pray they be many and many and many.

:hug:

[FoxGranadaChuck]

I don't know if anything to this effect has already been shared, but if one is to fight cancer, they MUST have a positive attitude and a will to live! Without those things, fighting cancer is impossible.

I am finding this out from my own mother right now. She was just diagnosed with a very aggressive form of lung cancer. In her case, it has likely spread to her back vertebrae.

A major issue with which we have had to deal is nausea. My Mom still has quite a bit of difficulty keeping food down right now.

[rhet 2]

I don't know if anything to this effect has already been shared, but if one is to fight cancer, they MUST have a positive attitude and a will to live! Without those things, fighting cancer is impossible.

I am finding this out from my own mother right now. She was just diagnosed with a very aggressive form of lung cancer. In her case, it has likely spread to her back vertebrae.

A major issue with which we have had to deal is nausea. My Mom still has quite a bit of difficulty keeping food down right now.

I do so pray the LORD stop that nausea, give the docs the tools to help her get past this.

And that He restore her will to fight back and live.

Because you are very right: the will to live is central to victory over even the common cold, and the more aggressive and vicious the disease which attacks our bodies, the more critical that will to fight back becomes.

:hug:

[notluzn]

A Prayer to all of you. May they find a cure. God Bless

[Gregor]

Well...here we are my friends...at the end of 2008. I was nearly ready to say that we sure had a good year all things considered...what with the many bumps and bruises along the way...we are all moving on to 2009 relatively in-tact. The new of our beloved Jeff's son, taints that speech, considerably. There is not one of us here who hasn't been the recipient of Jeff's incredibly kind nature and his constant and genuine support, but I'm preaching to the choir--we all know it. In any event, his news that Mitch is at least responsive and that the longer he hangs in there the more hopeful the prognosis becomes is certainly something to hang on to. So, in spite of the awful tragedy that has befallen him so close to the year's close, it is my wish, all of our fervent prayers, that the year will be one in which we said, "Ow. It sure hurt a lot. There were plenty of ups and downs, but ultimately--we made it through."

I wish you all a very happy holiday, and thank you for your friendship through these years. I am so thankful for the doctors at Sloan Kettering who told me from day one that their goal was to cure my husband and who, blessedly, have been true to that word. Yes, I know it's remission, but that's as close to a cure as you can get within the time span of Mr. G's illness, and so we are very, very fortunate. I am thankful for my opportunity to meet my family in Italy and to bring my children and Mr. G. there, so that now we have all been united and in spite of the distance will be there for each other throughout our lives. I am thankful for my wonderful students and the fact that I don't just have a job, but one which I am excited to go to every single day. I have missed my mother more this year than past years, perhaps in large part because there were so many happy moments to share with her, but I know she is at peace, and I am thankful that she is no longer suffering. My girls are healthy, they both have fine men in their lives, and I now have a granddoggy.

I wish for ALL of you, the same kind of peace I have found--and for Jeff, your son, returned to you, healthy, rehabilitated, and your family once again in-tact and complete. We love you so much, and as I said before: if there is such a thing as the miracle of love, your son will be fully healed.

Merry Christmas.

[rhet 2]

Well...here we are my friends...at the end of 2008. I was nearly ready to say that we sure had a good year all things considered...what with the many bumps and bruises along the way...we are all moving on to 2009 relatively in-tact. The new of our beloved Jeff's son, taints that speech, considerably. There is not one of us here who hasn't been the recipient of Jeff's incredibly kind nature and his constant and genuine support, but I'm preaching to the choir--we all know it. In any event, his news that Mitch is at least responsive and that the longer he hangs in there the more hopeful the prognosis becomes is certainly something to hang on to. So, in spite of the awful tragedy that has befallen him so close to the year's close, it is my wish, all of our fervent prayers, that the year will be one in which we said, "Ow. It sure hurt a lot. There were plenty of ups and downs, but ultimately--we made it through."

I wish you all a very happy holiday, and thank you for your friendship through these years. I am so thankful for the doctors at Sloan Kettering who told me from day one that their goal was to cure my husband and who, blessedly, have been true to that word. Yes, I know it's remission, but that's as close to a cure as you can get within the time span of Mr. G's illness, and so we are very, very fortunate. I am thankful for my opportunity to meet my family in Italy and to bring my children and Mr. G. there, so that now we have all been united and in spite of the distance will be there for each other throughout our lives. I am thankful for my wonderful students and the fact that I don't just have a job, but one which I am excited to go to every single day. I have missed my mother more this year than past years, perhaps in large part because there were so many happy moments to share with her, but I know she is at peace, and I am thankful that she is no longer suffering. My girls are healthy, they both have fine men in their lives, and I now have a granddoggy.

I wish for ALL of you, the same kind of peace I have found--and for Jeff, your son, returned to you, healthy, rehabilitated, and your family once again in-tact and complete. We love you so much, and as I said before: if there is such a thing as the miracle of love, your son will be fully healed.

Merry Christmas.

Good wishes from a person of Good Will that I can and do fully share.

:hug:

[Gregor]

Good wishes from a person of Good Will that I can and do fully share.

:hug:

And now look at the miraculous improvements in Mitch!

[rhet 2]

And now look at the miraculous improvements in Mitch!

Totally marvelous, yes?

A greater gift for Christmas I cannot imagine. :hug:

[blazer]

I am praying for you all! :hug:

[Gregor]

I am praying for you all! :hug:

Thank you! Right now we're focused on Rep's mother and Jwil's son. So different in age and problems, but both needing all of our prayers.

[rhet 2]

Thank you! Right now we're focused on Rep's mother and Jwil's son. So different in age and problems, but both needing all of our prayers.

Totally right on!

How's Mr. G, BTW?

Because there are many, including your bond mate, who remain on our list for intervention and big old long distance hugs for healing and strengthening against the trials and tribulations of this old world.

[Gregor]

Totally right on!

How's Mr. G, BTW?

Because there are many, including your bond mate, who remain on our list for intervention and big old long distance hugs for healing and strengthening against the trials and tribulations of this old world.

Well, we celebrated our first New Years in two years when he will start the year completely in remission. Consider that the year before that my mother passed, and somewhere in there the dog died as well...I'd have to say last night was like a new beginning! I even timed out watching Snakes on a Plane so we stopped it right before the ending, watched the ball drop, and then went back to the movie for the happy finale! I thought that was fun.

How about you? How are you doing????

[Miss America]

Too much cancer in my life...way too much...My Mom died of cancer when I was a little girl and she was only 28.....three years ago, My husband had colon cancer and serious complications from the surgery..so that he had two major surgeries.....(he's cancer free now), at the same time his sister had a small Breast Cancer...with successful surgery...and is now cancer free...today...my niece is currently fighting a horrible and extremely fast growing, but inoperable brain tumor...not to mention the many friends lost to various forms of "C"

If there is anything in this world that I truly hate...it is cancer..

[Gregor]

Too much cancer in my life...way too much...My Mom died of cancer when I was a little girl and she was only 28.....three years ago, My husband had colon cancer and serious complications from the surgery..so that he had two major surgeries.....(he's cancer free now), at the same time his sister had a small Breast Cancer...with successful surgery...and is now cancer free...today...my niece is currently fighting a horrible and extremely fast growing, but inoperable brain tumor...not to mention the many friends lost to various forms of "C"

If there is anything in this world that I truly hate...it is cancer..

I'm so sorry that cancer has affected the people you love in so many different ways. The number of survivors you've known, though, gives us such great hope. Their stories are as important as those who have been lost to the disease. My husband was diagnosed with stage III lymphoma over two years ago. Less than a decade ago, it probably would have been a death sentence, but thanks to advances, the amazing doctors at Sloan Kettering, and the many prayers of friends and family (including my "friends" here), he is in full remission. We know that our optimism has to be contained, but certainly this is news, at one point, we never thought we'd receive. As one poster pointed out yesterday, we also didn't know if he'd be able to walk our daughter down the aisle, and thanks to a compassionate doctor who knew the importance of moments like that in his patients' lives, he got to Chicago and did just that. Thank you for sharing your story.

[crystalclear]

Too much cancer in my life...way too much...My Mom died of cancer when I was a little girl and she was only 28.....three years ago, My husband had colon cancer and serious complications from the surgery..so that he had two major surgeries.....(he's cancer free now), at the same time his sister had a small Breast Cancer...with successful surgery...and is now cancer free...today...my niece is currently fighting a horrible and extremely fast growing, but inoperable brain tumor...not to mention the many friends lost to various forms of "C"

If there is anything in this world that I truly hate...it is cancer..Bless your heart I can't imagine the despair of loosing your Mother as a little girl! How old were you? And as a young girl, how did you get through her dying?

My heart goes out to you...

[rhet 2]

Too much cancer in my life...way too much...My Mom died of cancer when I was a little girl and she was only 28.....three years ago, My husband had colon cancer and serious complications from the surgery..so that he had two major surgeries.....(he's cancer free now), at the same time his sister had a small Breast Cancer...with successful surgery...and is now cancer free...today...my niece is currently fighting a horrible and extremely fast growing, but inoperable brain tumor...not to mention the many friends lost to various forms of "C"

If there is anything in this world that I truly hate...it is cancer..

My most heartfelt sympathies, dear one.

My Cuddle Bear's stepfather died of colon cancer.

And what my Bear just survived could have spelled the end of our time together, too.

But Gregor's right. Medical technology has made HUGE strides forward in combating so many different forms of it, so that we can surely thank the LORD for every victory we get, one sufferer at a time.

The best news I think I've ever heard was an article in one of the vet mags while I was waiting for my bear: one of the VA docs, a cardiologist, lost his wife to breast cancer. He'd been working with a naturally occurring enzyme found in the human heart that helps dissolve arterial adhesions and had already found it could be cultured into a pill form for heart patients. So, he started experimenting with cancer in lab rats. The same enzyme, in the form of a daily pill, eliminated entire tumors in just three days. They're now testing on vet volunteers to see what effects it has on human cancers.

Wouldn't that be wonderful? A little pill once a day for three days and boom! tumor's gone, because of a naturally occurring enzyme? No chemo, no radiation burns, no surgery.

I soooooooooooo pray that particular team of researchers has "hit the target" finally.

[Miss America]

My most heartfelt sympathies, dear one.

My Cuddle Bear's stepfather died of colon cancer.

And what my Bear just survived could have spelled the end of our time together, too.

But Gregor's right. Medical technology has made HUGE strides forward in combating so many different forms of it, so that we can surely thank the LORD for every victory we get, one sufferer at a time.

The best news I think I've ever heard was an article in one of the vet mags while I was waiting for my bear: one of the VA docs, a cardiologist, lost his wife to breast cancer. He'd been working with a naturally occurring enzyme found in the human heart that helps dissolve arterial adhesions and had already found it could be cultured into a pill form for heart patients. So, he started experimenting with cancer in lab rats. The same enzyme, in the form of a daily pill, eliminated entire tumors in just three days. They're now testing on vet volunteers to see what effects it has on human cancers.

Wouldn't that be wonderful? A little pill once a day for three days and boom! tumor's gone, because of a naturally occurring enzyme? No chemo, no radiation burns, no surgery.

I soooooooooooo pray that particular team of researchers has "hit the target" finally.

Oh...that would be wonderful, just imagine ...a cure like that..it might be one of the most magnificant medical discoveries in 100 years...we can only hope that the answer is that simple..

[Gregor]

It is with a heavy heart that I have to let you know I won't be posting here anymore. You have all been so wonderful and supportive that I felt a comfort sharing some of my family's most personal problems and victories with you. Recently someone took something I wrote in OO to use against me in a discussion in another thread. It was okay because what she said really wasn't anything I hadn't thought through on my own (it was about my choice to remove my mother from her ventilator when she was down to 65 lbs, and was experiencing sepsis, due to an advanced lung disease she had for years--the doctors said they were going to have to trach her and put in a feeding tube, something my mother vehemently opposed and something her doctor and several nurses told me they had seen done in other situations and would not want for their own mothers if they had my mother's condition.) I understand the poster was angry because I had expressed opinions she felt I shouldn't express and she was trying to make a point, but when something said here can be taken out of here as a weapon in debate, I think it's best not to express myself here again.

I hope you all will give me updates in private messages. I will do the same thing with you, if that's okay. You have been too kind to me for me to forget about what we went through. I know some of you still struggle with your cancer or the illness of loved ones, and I want you to know that with Mr. Gregor in remission, I have tons of strength I'll be happy to share with you. Ditto for prayers.

Rhet, Rep, Jeff...I've turned to you when I was sick with fear and didn't want to inflict it on "real life" friends and family. You helped get me through it, and I believe you helped my husband on his path into remission.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. A thousand times over. I'm always just a PM away for you. And I will keep you up on Mr. G's progress, because I know you genuinely care. Much love.

[blazer]

:hug: sorry: :hug:

[rhet 2]

It is with a heavy heart that I have to let you know I won't be posting here anymore. You have all been so wonderful and supportive that I felt a comfort sharing some of my family's most personal problems and victories with you. Recently someone took something I wrote in OO to use against me in a discussion in another thread. It was okay because what she said really wasn't anything I hadn't thought through on my own (it was about my choice to remove my mother from her ventilator when she was down to 65 lbs, and was experiencing sepsis, due to an advanced lung disease she had for years--the doctors said they were going to have to trach her and put in a feeding tube, something my mother vehemently opposed and something her doctor and several nurses told me they had seen done in other situations and would not want for their own mothers if they had my mother's condition.) I understand the poster was angry because I had expressed opinions she felt I shouldn't express and she was trying to make a point, but when something said here can be taken out of here as a weapon in debate, I think it's best not to express myself here again.

I hope you all will give me updates in private messages. I will do the same thing with you, if that's okay. You have been too kind to me for me to forget about what we went through. I know some of you still struggle with your cancer or the illness of loved ones, and I want you to know that with Mr. Gregor in remission, I have tons of strength I'll be happy to share with you. Ditto for prayers.

Rhet, Rep, Jeff...I've turned to you when I was sick with fear and didn't want to inflict it on "real life" friends and family. You helped get me through it, and I believe you helped my husband on his path into remission.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. A thousand times over. I'm always just a PM away for you. And I will keep you up on Mr. G's progress, because I know you genuinely care. Much love.

Oh, dearest friend! How AWFUL for you. That's just plain wrong to do to anyone.

But do not let cruel and spiteful words hurt you. You DID honor your mother and do everything humanly possible to ease her last days on this earth. And, had the LORD not been ready for her, nothing you did or didn't do could have changed His Will for anything.

The fact that so many Westerners hate to think about is that sooner or later, by one means or another, we must all leave this world behind, no matter what we want or try to do to delay the inevitable. And those who cannot face up to that sad fact of reality find themselves unable to truly treasure the moments we are given while we can because they're too wrapped up in trying to delay and subvert and deny what is, in reality, only Nature itself. And that refusal to confront and deal with reality is also very sad.

I shall miss you terribly in these threads, but most assuredly want updates by pm, at the very least.

For you and yours shall always remain in my prayers for your are embedded in my heart.

And you have given me as much or more than I have you, that's for dead certain sure!

[itsrea]

If I ever get up the energy to get back to the regular boards I'll miss you Gregor.. I'm sorry that you won't be there to disagree with me, but I will continue to keep you and yours in my prayers..

[repchick]

It is with a heavy heart that I have to let you know I won't be posting here anymore. You have all been so wonderful and supportive that I felt a comfort sharing some of my family's most personal problems and victories with you. Recently someone took something I wrote in OO to use against me in a discussion in another thread. It was okay because what she said really wasn't anything I hadn't thought through on my own (it was about my choice to remove my mother from her ventilator when she was down to 65 lbs, and was experiencing sepsis, due to an advanced lung disease she had for years--the doctors said they were going to have to trach her and put in a feeding tube, something my mother vehemently opposed and something her doctor and several nurses told me they had seen done in other situations and would not want for their own mothers if they had my mother's condition.) I understand the poster was angry because I had expressed opinions she felt I shouldn't express and she was trying to make a point, but when something said here can be taken out of here as a weapon in debate, I think it's best not to express myself here again.

I hope you all will give me updates in private messages. I will do the same thing with you, if that's okay. You have been too kind to me for me to forget about what we went through. I know some of you still struggle with your cancer or the illness of loved ones, and I want you to know that with Mr. Gregor in remission, I have tons of strength I'll be happy to share with you. Ditto for prayers.

Rhet, Rep, Jeff...I've turned to you when I was sick with fear and didn't want to inflict it on "real life" friends and family. You helped get me through it, and I believe you helped my husband on his path into remission.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. A thousand times over. I'm always just a PM away for you. And I will keep you up on Mr. G's progress, because I know you genuinely care. Much love.

This is not right. That person shoud be ashamed. I just lived being put in almost the same position as you.

I wish you would change your mind. Take some time and think about it. :hug::hug:

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Just did some quick catching up....after a long absence...to which I apologize. Life went hay wire on me...with little time to really post. Mom is fine...goes in for last blood test in March....so should be outta the woods. Last surgery went well...Port is out, and so is the 900 microgram tumor on her thyroid! (The whole thyroid is about 30 micrograms...so fairly large tumor) Hopefully she will be feeling back to her old cantankerous self soon. :mrgreen:

Hubbys Dad is next in line. Not much information as yet...but sounds to me as though he got double dipped. Cancer in the colon and Leukemia. Hubby talks to his fathers doctor next week to find out the whole scoop. Information has been limited at best. It's as though his father wants to just ignore his current health issues...which as we all know is a semi normal response. In that mind set however, information that the doctor gives him goes in one ear and right out the other....and then not relaying any of said info to the family. I swear, our parents turn into adult children in their later years. :shifty:

My prayers have never stopped....I keep those who suffer with the affliction of cancer near and dear to my heart.

God Bless you all....
Gregor...I'll be sending you a PM soon!
Rhet, so glad your bear is doing better!
Rep...hang in there honey...
Istue....all though we may not see it now, or in our life times...I can promise you that everything has a purpose...even something as evil and nasty as cancer. God bless you and your family honey...hang in there!

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Just did some quick catching up....after a long absence...to which I apologize. Life went hay wire on me...with little time to really post. Mom is fine...goes in for last blood test in March....so should be outta the woods. Last surgery went well...Port is out, and so is the 900 microgram tumor on her thyroid! (The whole thyroid is about 30 micrograms...so fairly large tumor) Hopefully she will be feeling back to her old cantankerous self soon. :mrgreen:

Hubbys Dad is next in line. Not much information as yet...but sounds to me as though he got double dipped. Cancer in the colon and Leukemia. Hubby talks to his fathers doctor next week to find out the whole scoop. Information has been limited at best. It's as though his father wants to just ignore his current health issues...which as we all know is a semi normal response. In that mind set however, information that the doctor gives him goes in one ear and right out the other....and then not relaying any of said info to the family. I swear, our parents turn into adult children in their later years. :shifty:

My prayers have never stopped....I keep those who suffer with the affliction of cancer near and dear to my heart.

God Bless you all....
Gregor...I'll be sending you a PM soon!
Rhet, so glad your bear is doing better!
Rep...hang in there honey...
Istue....all though we may not see it now, or in our life times...I can promise you that everything has a purpose...even something as evil and nasty as cancer. God bless you and your family honey...hang in there!

~Mysty

You hang in there yourself, darling friend. Sounds to me like the LORD has been VERY busy polishing your soul with Testing Time out the ears.

For the restoration of peace and tranquility and gentle easy to handle balance in your life I pray with all my heart! :hug:

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

You hang in there yourself, darling friend. Sounds to me like the LORD has been VERY busy polishing your soul with Testing Time out the ears.

For the restoration of peace and tranquility and gentle easy to handle balance in your life I pray with all my heart! :hug:

:redface: Baptism by fire....ahhh...my favorite past time of late. lol. I thank you for your prayers...I truly believe every prayer is carried to Gods ears on flight of wing. Angles such as yourself are a testament to Gods love.

Hows your Bear? I pray he is able to do more physical based activities now....although remind him, it takes months to recover fully. ;)

Oh, and Mr. Frog Prince is in his box...labeled and ready to go to his new home....Ashamedly , I've not had two seconds to go drop him off. he's on my list of 'Too Do's" next week.

Hoping all is well with you.....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

:redface: Baptism by fire....ahhh...my favorite past time of late. lol. I thank you for your prayers...I truly believe every prayer is carried to Gods ears on flight of wing. Angles such as yourself are a testament to Gods love.

Hows your Bear? I pray he is able to do more physical based activities now....although remind him, it takes months to recover fully. ;)

Oh, and Mr. Frog Prince is in his box...labeled and ready to go to his new home....Ashamedly , I've not had two seconds to go drop him off. he's on my list of 'Too Do's" next week.

Hoping all is well with you.....

~Mysty

The Bear gradually recovers and has returned to work part time. So far, the bills get paid -- barely. But we're not cold or hungry.

Please put my daughter on your prayer list though. Tomorrow morning, she checks into the cancer center for every test imaginable -- lump in one of her breasts. I'm gritting my jaw and refusing to "wig out" -- whatever that bit of youth slang means.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

The Bear gradually recovers and has returned to work part time. So far, the bills get paid -- barely. But we're not cold or hungry.

Please put my daughter on your prayer list though. Tomorrow morning, she checks into the cancer center for every test imaginable -- lump in one of her breasts. I'm gritting my jaw and refusing to "wig out" -- whatever that bit of youth slang means.

I will pray that your daughter has the very 'common' diagnostic of an encapsulated cyst on her breast tissue. :pray:These cysts are commonly non malignant, and can be removed easily without threat of recurrent cysts down the road. ;) My niece just went though this about a year ago....and happily I can report no such recurrence thus far. ;)

I'm so happy to hear the Bear is up and working part time again. I know the money part gets sticky...but it is recoverable if all goes well. ;)

Keep us updated....
Sending hugs and prayers...

~Mysty

[Gregor]

The Bear gradually recovers and has returned to work part time. So far, the bills get paid -- barely. But we're not cold or hungry.

Please put my daughter on your prayer list though. Tomorrow morning, she checks into the cancer center for every test imaginable -- lump in one of her breasts. I'm gritting my jaw and refusing to "wig out" -- whatever that bit of youth slang means.

Oh dear God. Wig out works. Breathe, breathe, and breathe some more...air exchange, it makes a difference. Do not grit! Keeps all the poison in.

Soooooooo much love coming your way...along with prayers and good vibes. I realize I broke my vow not to come back...but you know what? I started this thread for a reason and it wasn't just to share my story, but to enable us ALL to share our stories in a forum that is supportive and comfortable. The importance of being here for each other far outweighs any real damage she could ever do to me by dragging out my obstacles into the main boards. So screw it. I'm HERE for you (and for me too!)

:hug::hug::hug:

[rhet 2]

Oh dear God. Wig out works. Breathe, breathe, and breathe some more...air exchange, it makes a difference. Do not grit! Keeps all the poison in.

Soooooooo much love coming your way...along with prayers and good vibes. I realize I broke my vow not to come back...but you know what? I started this thread for a reason and it wasn't just to share my story, but to enable us ALL to share our stories in a forum that is supportive and comfortable. The importance of being here for each other far outweighs any real damage she could ever do to me by dragging out my obstacles into the main boards. So screw it. I'm HERE for you (and for me too!)

:hug::hug::hug:

Well, the love and the prayers got me a HUGE yes! from the LORD. According to the Breast Cancer Center, it's NOT cancer, but an infection caused by hormone imbalances -- or hormone imbalances caused by a long term infection -- treatment recommendation awaits further test results for a precise diagnosis.

THANK YOU! :hug:

She's only 32, mother of 3. And her husband fights newly diagnosed diabetes plus a war disability -- he lost the left forearm in A-stan. Not that either stops him any -- but those kids NEED their mama.

[Gregor]

Well, the love and the prayers got me a HUGE yes! from the LORD. According to the Breast Cancer Center, it's NOT cancer, but an infection caused by hormone imbalances -- or hormone imbalances caused by a long term infection -- treatment recommendation awaits further test results for a precise diagnosis.

THANK YOU! :hug:

She's only 32, mother of 3. And her husband fights newly diagnosed diabetes plus a war disability -- he lost the left forearm in A-stan. Not that either stops him any -- but those kids NEED their mama.
:clap::clap::clap:Well thank God for that!!!! AND much love to you and yours.

[repchick]

Well, the love and the prayers got me a HUGE yes! from the LORD. According to the Breast Cancer Center, it's NOT cancer, but an infection caused by hormone imbalances -- or hormone imbalances caused by a long term infection -- treatment recommendation awaits further test results for a precise diagnosis.

THANK YOU! :hug:

She's only 32, mother of 3. And her husband fights newly diagnosed diabetes plus a war disability -- he lost the left forearm in A-stan. Not that either stops him any -- but those kids NEED their mama.

Praise the lord and pass the wiskey for a wee dram to celabrate.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Well, the love and the prayers got me a HUGE yes! from the LORD. According to the Breast Cancer Center, it's NOT cancer, but an infection caused by hormone imbalances -- or hormone imbalances caused by a long term infection -- treatment recommendation awaits further test results for a precise diagnosis.

THANK YOU! :hug:

She's only 32, mother of 3. And her husband fights newly diagnosed diabetes plus a war disability -- he lost the left forearm in A-stan. Not that either stops him any -- but those kids NEED their mama.

Thank You God! Talk about swinging it away! Got a huge burst of relief reading this post! I prayed and prayed that it would not be a cancerous tumor! Antibiotics to heal up an infection...no problem...can deal with that....hormones out of whack...you tell her from me mine are always outta whack...she's in good company! lol;)

Sending big hugs....
~Mysty

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Oh dear God. Wig out works. Breathe, breathe, and breathe some more...air exchange, it makes a difference. Do not grit! Keeps all the poison in.

Soooooooo much love coming your way...along with prayers and good vibes. I realize I broke my vow not to come back...but you know what? I started this thread for a reason and it wasn't just to share my story, but to enable us ALL to share our stories in a forum that is supportive and comfortable. The importance of being here for each other far outweighs any real damage she could ever do to me by dragging out my obstacles into the main boards. So screw it. I'm HERE for you (and for me too!)

:hug::hug::hug:

yes yes...breath....breathing is good....just remember lamaze...lol.

So great to have you back....in my head I said to myself..."That's the Gregor I know and love!" ;)

And yes Rep...a wee dram would do nicely. ;)

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Thank You God! Talk about swinging it away! Got a huge burst of relief reading this post! I prayed and prayed that it would not be a cancerous tumor! Antibiotics to heal up an infection...no problem...can deal with that....hormones out of whack...you tell her from me mine are always outta whack...she's in good company! lol;)

Sending big hugs....
~Mysty

:))

As long as never again does she say to me, "Mom, I'm defective!" I didn't know whether to hit her up beside the head or sit in the floor and bawl. She meant it, too. So, she got Mama Lecture Number Infinity about God not ever ever ever creating garbage -- especially human garbage.

[jwil59]

My love for all those in the cancer thread. I am praying for you guys

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Awful quiet in here this week. I am praying that it means all is well with everyone. :pray:

Rhet...Mr. Toad is on his way to you. Should be to you by this weekend or by Tuesday at the latest. Hope you like him. :D How is your daughter feeling? Better? How are you doing? Sending you prayers and good thoughts!

Gregor...How are you doing? How is Mr. Gregor? I pray life is getting back to some semblance of order for you and yours. :pray:

Hang in there everyone....when life throws ya lemons...make lemon meringue pie! :D

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Awful quiet in here this week. I am praying that it means all is well with everyone. :pray:

Rhet...Mr. Toad is on his way to you. Should be to you by this weekend or by Tuesday at the latest. Hope you like him. :D How is your daughter feeling? Better? How are you doing? Sending you prayers and good thoughts!

Gregor...How are you doing? How is Mr. Gregor? I pray life is getting back to some semblance of order for you and yours. :pray:

Hang in there everyone....when life throws ya lemons...make lemon meringue pie! :D

~Mysty

Oh, wow! I PROMISE to cherish him. We shall hold an official semi-formal christening party: Tommy the Toad shall be his name.

Repchick sent me a Norfolk pine for Christmas. Her name is Victoria, and I cherish her, too.

Daughter #1 is OFFICIALLY cancer free -- so now they find the cause of the lump, whether infection or hormone imbalance. She's feeling PER-ky since the phone call yesterday.

Daughter #2 is experiencing the extreme fatigue of the first trimester, but the bleeding and cramping have ended, so the doc is letting her get out of bed some. Thank God for church family which has helped them out a lot the last few days -- now to get little JP or Leah Ruth here all in full functional order, foreknown, predestined, called and sealed unto the Day of Redemption to be one with the Family of Christ.

So, boy, am I thankful to the LORD for the SWEEEEEEEEEET lemon pie He's made out of the lemons the world tried to throw at me!

:)) :hug:

How's your mother doing?

[Gregor]

Hi there! We are still struggling with flus, but otherwise I'm okay! Mr. G. has been having serious cramping. He was tested for ALS but (very thankfully!) the doctor thinks it's benign festiculation syndrome. The upside is it's not life threatening and is so much better than what it could be. The down side is there is no cure. All of a sudden he just cramps. It happened last night at dinner and he couldn't cut his food. For crying out loud, the guy deserves a break! Anyway, for awhile he thought it might be his asthma med. so he stopped it and developed a horrible cough. Now he can't shake that either. In short, I'd love to say he's getting a break, but truthfully while we thank GOD he is in full remission, these other things still compromise his quality of life. Thank you for asking!!! How are you?

Awful quiet in here this week. I am praying that it means all is well with everyone. :pray:

Rhet...Mr. Toad is on his way to you. Should be to you by this weekend or by Tuesday at the latest. Hope you like him. :D How is your daughter feeling? Better? How are you doing? Sending you prayers and good thoughts!

Gregor...How are you doing? How is Mr. Gregor? I pray life is getting back to some semblance of order for you and yours. :pray:

Hang in there everyone....when life throws ya lemons...make lemon meringue pie! :D

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Hi there! We are still struggling with flus, but otherwise I'm okay! Mr. G. has been having serious cramping. He was tested for ALS but (very thankfully!) the doctor thinks it's benign festiculation syndrome. The upside is it's not life threatening and is so much better than what it could be. The down side is there is no cure. All of a sudden he just cramps. It happened last night at dinner and he couldn't cut his food. For crying out loud, the guy deserves a break! Anyway, for awhile he thought it might be his asthma med. so he stopped it and developed a horrible cough. Now he can't shake that either. In short, I'd love to say he's getting a break, but truthfully while we thank GOD he is in full remission, these other things still compromise his quality of life. Thank you for asking!!! How are you?

http://www.righthealth.com/topic/Fasciculation_Syndrome/overview/wiki_detailed?modp=Benign_fasciculation_syndrome

OUCH!

He has my prayers for this one, too. He's been under so much stress, it's a wonder this is just now showing up.

Perhaps, as the weather warms, he can begin to get more exercise -- gentle exercise -- in the fresh air. I find that working in the garden helps me more that any single other factor. Maybe just because it helps me sleep better at night.

Regardless, I pray the LORD make this one disappear, too. You and your lifemate have been through so much.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Oh, wow! I PROMISE to cherish him. We shall hold an official semi-formal christening party: Tommy the Toad shall be his name.

Repchick sent me a Norfolk pine for Christmas. Her name is Victoria, and I cherish her, too.

I like that...Tommy the Toad. :D You'll know when you see him why I called him Mr. Toad....

How lovely...a Norfolk pine....love the name too! Must be the english side in me...lol

Daughter #1 is OFFICIALLY cancer free -- so now they find the cause of the lump, whether infection or hormone imbalance. She's feeling PER-ky since the phone call yesterday.

YEEEAAAHHHH! WooooHoooo! That makes my heart sing! So very glad to hear it!

Daughter #2 is experiencing the extreme fatigue of the first trimester, but the bleeding and cramping have ended, so the doc is letting her get out of bed some. Thank God for church family which has helped them out a lot the last few days -- now to get little JP or Leah Ruth here all in full functional order, foreknown, predestined, called and sealed unto the Day of Redemption to be one with the Family of Christ.

A new soul into this world is always a cause for celebration. Oh, I remember the days of being young and very pregnant. I'm usually around 110-115 lbs. and am 5'2. At birth weight, I'm a whopping 200+ pounds...and have 8 almost 9 pound babies! My bear is a big boy...makes big babies. :D You tell your daughter to put it all in the Good Lords hands. From now until birth, she is cradled in his hands of love and support...for none better could she have at this time in her life.:pray: You tell her to envision that sweet soul in her mind...let the body do what it needs too, and let the mind think on the glory of what is about to happen...takes the stress down big time. ;)

So, boy, am I thankful to the LORD for the SWEEEEEEEEEET lemon pie He's made out of the lemons the world tried to throw at me!

:)) :hug:

How's your mother doing?

Mom is doing ok. Everyday she is feeling a bit more like herself...a bit stronger...and trying to choose if she will retire in a year or two years.

some days, mom is soft and open...as a mother should be...other days...even Satan himself would be remiss to look cross eyed at her. lol.

Marks' father is very sick. Between the short term memory dysfunction, possible cancer of the prostate/colon and leukemia....he's a mess. :frown: Mark will accompany his father to the doctors this week to find out exactly what is wrong with dad and what can be done to help him. It doesn't look good....at least not from where I'm sitting.

Marks parents are....how do I put this....umm...cold. For lack of a better term...they are cold. Non emotional, judgmentally cold people. They are hard to know...and I've been married to their son for almost 25 years now. They hate me....couldn't really tell ya why other then I am not like them. I am too verbal, to extroverted...and not Mormon. Gee...kinda like their son...lol.

They are my in-laws...regardless what I may or may not feel for these people...a respect needs to be shown and support given where I can give it. God has us all well in hand...so I leave it there.

big hugs to you and yours...can't wait for your box to come...Mr. Toad rides again!!! :D

~Mysty

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Hi there! We are still struggling with flus, but otherwise I'm okay! Mr. G. has been having serious cramping. He was tested for ALS but (very thankfully!) the doctor thinks it's benign festiculation syndrome. The upside is it's not life threatening and is so much better than what it could be. The down side is there is no cure. All of a sudden he just cramps. It happened last night at dinner and he couldn't cut his food. For crying out loud, the guy deserves a break! Anyway, for awhile he thought it might be his asthma med. so he stopped it and developed a horrible cough. Now he can't shake that either. In short, I'd love to say he's getting a break, but truthfully while we thank GOD he is in full remission, these other things still compromise his quality of life. Thank you for asking!!! How are you?

Oh...ouch is right! Poor guy. Please tell him to get back on his asthma med asap! Coughing can lead to stress on the organs of the stomach...ie bowel!!!

Off the top of my head I can't think of any holistic treatments that would help...other then a 2 liter bottle filled with hot water...wrap in a towel..and have him lay it on his stomach when the attacks come. I believe, but not certain, that the diet for Chrones disease will also alleviate the discomfort of his tissues that are cramping. You can Google it and find lots and lots of recipes! Low Potassium and Magnesium can also be a cause for tissues to cramp up. Have those checked and put him on suppliments asap if he is low. Mom dealt with this right after chemo too...put her on both..and wha la...gone.

How are you doing? How is work/school? How did your paper come out? Where you happy with the result? Are you taking a few minutes for yourself? Knowing you...most likely not...darn energizer bunny...that's what you are. ;)

Keeping you and yours in my thoughts darlin....Hang in there....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

I like that...Tommy the Toad. :D You'll know when you see him why I called him Mr. Toad....

How lovely...a Norfolk pine....love the name too! Must be the english side in me...lol



YEEEAAAHHHH! WooooHoooo! That makes my heart sing! So very glad to hear it!



A new soul into this world is always a cause for celebration. Oh, I remember the days of being young and very pregnant. I'm usually around 110-115 lbs. and am 5'2. At birth weight, I'm a whopping 200+ pounds...and have 8 almost 9 pound babies! My bear is a big boy...makes big babies. :D You tell your daughter to put it all in the Good Lords hands. From now until birth, she is cradled in his hands of love and support...for none better could she have at this time in her life.:pray: You tell her to envision that sweet soul in her mind...let the body do what it needs too, and let the mind think on the glory of what is about to happen...takes the stress down big time. ;)



Mom is doing ok. Everyday she is feeling a bit more like herself...a bit stronger...and trying to choose if she will retire in a year or two years.

some days, mom is soft and open...as a mother should be...other days...even Satan himself would be remiss to look cross eyed at her. lol.

Marks' father is very sick. Between the short term memory dysfunction, possible cancer of the prostate/colon and leukemia....he's a mess. :frown: Mark will accompany his father to the doctors this week to find out exactly what is wrong with dad and what can be done to help him. It doesn't look good....at least not from where I'm sitting.

Marks parents are....how do I put this....umm...cold. For lack of a better term...they are cold. Non emotional, judgmentally cold people. They are hard to know...and I've been married to their son for almost 25 years now. They hate me....couldn't really tell ya why other then I am not like them. I am too verbal, to extroverted...and not Mormon. Gee...kinda like their son...lol.

They are my in-laws...regardless what I may or may not feel for these people...a respect needs to be shown and support given where I can give it. God has us all well in hand...so I leave it there.

big hugs to you and yours...can't wait for your box to come...Mr. Toad rides again!!! :D

~Mysty

I can hardly wait for the birth of Tommy the Toad myself. May the mail man hasten his delivery!

Your in-laws sound like my MIL. Right after we announced the engagement, she took me to lunch and spent two hours explaining -- in detail -- how I "was not the kind of girl I ever wanted my boy to marry." Since it was the first time we'd met, I didn't take her too seriously, of course -- but it was a bit of a shocker. She never changed that opinion, either. But you are right: respect you gotta pay. They produced your love. They raised your love. Might be the only decent and worthwhile thing they ever did. But that one thing earned them respect and concern for their well-being. Because that's the kind of woman he married. :hug:

I'm glad your mother is better -- and well enough to upon occasion but the Smite of Mom on people. Just wish the people she smote deserved it -- which you don't.

I'm praying my heart out for your FIL and your Life Bond Buddy Mark. NOT a fun happy-happy part of being a loving, loyal son -- or DIL -- that's for dad blamed sure!

:hug:

[tomahawk]

For all those who need a little encouragement. This June marks my 4th year of survival of Pancreatic Cancer. I just had a CT scan and I am still clear. Pray for Patric Swayzee (spell?)
Tomahawk

[rhet 2]

For all those who need a little encouragement. This June marks my 4th year of survival of Pancreatic Cancer. I just had a CT scan and I am still clear. Pray for Patric Swayzee (spell?)
Tomahawk

Bless the LORD of All Grace and Mercy!

And bless you with still more continuing health!

I shall, indeed, pray for Swayzee. The LORD doesn't need me to spell the name for Him, either. He KNOWS.

:hug: and :dance: for all who fight the battle with cancer!

[repchick]

For all those who need a little encouragement. This June marks my 4th year of survival of Pancreatic Cancer. I just had a CT scan and I am still clear. Pray for Patric Swayzee (spell?)
TomahawkBeen praying. This is a tough one . So glad your doing so well.

[tomahawk]

Bless the LORD of All Grace and Mercy!

And bless you with still more continuing health!

I shall, indeed, pray for Swayzee. The LORD doesn't need me to spell the name for Him, either. He KNOWS.

:hug: and :dance: for all who fight the battle with cancer!
Thank you Rhet 2 and Repchick. Your prayers mean so much.
God bless you
Tomahawk

[jwil59]

My prayers and love for all you guys. God bless you

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Rhet...did Mr. Tommy Toad show up yet? Hoping he got to you in one piece.....:pray:

Marks Dad update: They are going to take him to surgery to remove a large section of lower bowel sometime in March. His doctors are remiss about calling a spade a spade...and instead are focusing on a very large polyp in the lower bowel. His platelet count is sky high....along with white and red blood cell counts....yet that is not raising eyebrows by his doctors. Instead...of calling it what it is...leukemia...they have pre diagnosed him with poly-uremia....which I find odd to say the least. Oral medications are all they are giving him for right now.

At least he feels alright for now. No pain or side affects as yet...but I and Mark know what is down the road...and it's not pretty.

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers....

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Rhet...did Mr. Tommy Toad show up yet? Hoping he got to you in one piece.....:pray:

Marks Dad update: They are going to take him to surgery to remove a large section of lower bowel sometime in March. His doctors are remiss about calling a spade a spade...and instead are focusing on a very large polyp in the lower bowel. His platelet count is sky high....along with white and red blood cell counts....yet that is not raising eyebrows by his doctors. Instead...of calling it what it is...leukemia...they have pre diagnosed him with poly-uremia....which I find odd to say the least. Oral medications are all they are giving him for right now.

At least he feels alright for now. No pain or side affects as yet...but I and Mark know what is down the road...and it's not pretty.

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers....

~Mysty

Tommy arrived late yesterday afternoon AND HE IS DELIGHTFUL!

His grandma needs only to identify the Martha Stewart location for his new bedroom. I'm debating putting his front feet up on the wall of the raised bed in front of the sage bushes in the back where I'll see him all the time, looking like he's just about to hop out and run play -- or with his little toad darling self about to jump over the broken stone edging in front of the hydrangeas so the neighbors can see him all the time. Though he may prefer sleeping near the shasta daisies.

As soon as I can get the daughter to do it for her techno-klutz mom, I'll send you a pic.

I'm praying for your FIL.

Me, I'd rather the docs were blunt, direct, and upfront, too. But it's hard for them, too, to face the hard truths, I guess. Much less having to dump hard truths on family members.

But this I do know: "with God, all things are possible" and NOTHING happens that He cannot and will not control to turn evil into good for those who seek His Mercy. I don't know about your FIL, but you sure do qualify -- and so He WILL make this work out for you and your darling Mark.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Oh thank goodness...I was beginning to wonder if Mr. Tommy went on some sight seeing tour around the world...I wouldn't put it past him.

A little history with Mr. Tommy Toad. He was born in upstate New York; thus the half grin he always wears on that stony face. He then traveled to Northern California by way of transport truck...stopping at every truck stop between New York and Sacramento....went to Carson City Nevada by accident in the trunk of a friends car....came back via Reno...and has been a resident of California ever since. :hug:

Poor Tommy...his garden left about two years ago...and has been sitting atop a lonely little patio. I'm sure he thought he would never spend his retirement years in such a beautiful garden again...and yet..there he is at your home. I'd say Tommy is well traveled for a stone toad! LOL

Glad he is with you. :hug: I thank you for the words of encouragement and prayer for Marks father.

Praying all is well for you and yours...

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Oh thank goodness...I was beginning to wonder if Mr. Tommy went on some sight seeing tour around the world...I wouldn't put it past him.

A little history with Mr. Tommy Toad. He was born in upstate New York; thus the half grin he always wears on that stony face. He then traveled to Northern California by way of transport truck...stopping at every truck stop between New York and Sacramento....went to Carson City Nevada by accident in the trunk of a friends car....came back via Reno...and has been a resident of California ever since. :hug:

Poor Tommy...his garden left about two years ago...and has been sitting atop a lonely little patio. I'm sure he thought he would never spend his retirement years in such a beautiful garden again...and yet..there he is at your home. I'd say Tommy is well traveled for a stone toad! LOL

Glad he is with you. :hug: I thank you for the words of encouragement and prayer for Marks father.

Praying all is well for you and yours...

~Mysty

Ah ha! A well-traveled and therefore sophisticated toad! I shall feed him only the caviar of flies, with an occasional sip of Riesling. None of that hillbilly redneck gunk for our Tommy.

Hang tough, dearest. Like I just told Rhea: stick your chin out and defy the world. Blow raspberries at the icky crap and focus on the butterflies.

:hug:

[Gregor]

For all those who need a little encouragement. This June marks my 4th year of survival of Pancreatic Cancer. I just had a CT scan and I am still clear. Pray for Patric Swayzee (spell?)
Tomahawk

WONDERFUL NEWS!!!!! Congrats!

[Gregor]

Hi all...You've been in my thoughts and prayers...just been VERY busy w/ work and also took a trip to Chicago to see my daughter. Had a WONDERFUL time. I'm on vacation next week. Will stop in then!

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Hi all...You've been in my thoughts and prayers...just been VERY busy w/ work and also took a trip to Chicago to see my daughter. Had a WONDERFUL time. I'm on vacation next week. Will stop in then!

How wonderful! Praying your visit is memorable and special. :hug:

Glad to hear your taking some time in a rather busy life...we all need to refill the gas tank once in a while.;)

~Mysty

[jwil59]

My love and prayers for you all

[Gregor]

Hi all...
I still check in from time to time to see if there are any updates in your lives. I think that "thing" that happened awhile ago in here was enough to reduce my time spent in the forum, but please know that you are always in my heart and prayers. I do want all the news...much love.

[rhet 2]

Hi all...
I still check in from time to time to see if there are any updates in your lives. I think that "thing" that happened awhile ago in here was enough to reduce my time spent in the forum, but please know that you are always in my heart and prayers. I do want all the news...much love.

Sweetie, you have to follow your own lead. When you can, I love hearing from you, but I love you enough to back off and let you do the driving, since it's your car and none of us is a better driver than the other.

I hope and pray all is well and that you did enjoy the break with your daughter.

[Gregor]

Sweetie, you have to follow your own lead. When you can, I love hearing from you, but I love you enough to back off and let you do the driving, since it's your car and none of us is a better driver than the other.

I hope and pray all is well and that you did enjoy the break with your daughter.

Nicely said...but I'm always happy to hear from you! Vacation officially ends today (well really last Friday!), so I'm just trying to get some work stuff done. I'm applying for a grant to study in Italy this summer, but they're not supposed to pick people from last year unless they need people. I doubt that will happen, but you never know! I sure could use a prayer or two for that, if you don't think it's frivilous! Much love...me

[rhet 2]

Nicely said...but I'm always happy to hear from you! Vacation officially ends today (well really last Friday!), so I'm just trying to get some work stuff done. I'm applying for a grant to study in Italy this summer, but they're not supposed to pick people from last year unless they need people. I doubt that will happen, but you never know! I sure could use a prayer or two for that, if you don't think it's frivilous! Much love...me

Not frivolous in the least.

As a prof who adores the Italian Renaissance, especially Boccaccio, I fully approve.

I just hope whoever has the "luck of the draw" has the same dedication you exhibit.

And, since you've already exhibited the dedication, I'd rather you were among the Chosen Few.

So, my prayers are herewith offered for that most welcome development.

Vacations are never long enough to get enough done, are they? :))

:hug:

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Not frivolous in the least.

As a prof who adores the Italian Renaissance, especially Boccaccio, I fully approve.

I just hope whoever has the "luck of the draw" has the same dedication you exhibit.

And, since you've already exhibited the dedication, I'd rather you were among the Chosen Few.

So, my prayers are herewith offered for that most welcome development.

Vacations are never long enough to get enough done, are they? :))

:hug:

Oh, I'll second that prayer! Another working/study vacation in Italy...Just what the doctor ordered!

I'm glad you had a nice visit with your daughter. :cool: Nothing like taking some time with your own precious loved one's.

~Mysty

[jwil59]

My prayers for you guys.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Is it Spring yet? :eh: My poor body can't take anymore of this rain..and I've too much to do and not a body to do it in! eeerrrgggghhhh.

Marks father goes in for his surgery this Friday. He will be in patient for at least 3 to 4 days post op. We are holding our fingers together for a clean biopsy...but we also know what the reality of the situation is. At least the family and marks father don't seem to phased by the situation...denial...it can be a nice escape...but reality needs to come through the door sometime.

My Mom goes in for her last blood work to ensure she is still cancer free. She has a myriad of small side illness that we are trying to gain a handle on. I've suggested she see my own doctor...I pray he can help her and get her though this next phase of aging...would doing that gracefully be too much to ask? lol

Other then that...not much going on in my part of the world...except the darn rain....gads it makes me hurt! I am praying Spring hits sooner then later....I'm solar powered and need my sun!

How is everyone else? Praying your all doing well...

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Is it Spring yet? :eh: My poor body can't take anymore of this rain..and I've too much to do and not a body to do it in! eeerrrgggghhhh.

Marks father goes in for his surgery this Friday. He will be in patient for at least 3 to 4 days post op. We are holding our fingers together for a clean biopsy...but we also know what the reality of the situation is. At least the family and marks father don't seem to phased by the situation...denial...it can be a nice escape...but reality needs to come through the door sometime.

My Mom goes in for her last blood work to ensure she is still cancer free. She has a myriad of small side illness that we are trying to gain a handle on. I've suggested she see my own doctor...I pray he can help her and get her though this next phase of aging...would doing that gracefully be too much to ask? lol

Other then that...not much going on in my part of the world...except the darn rain....gads it makes me hurt! I am praying Spring hits sooner then later....I'm solar powered and need my sun!

How is everyone else? Praying your all doing well...

~Mysty

I'd kill for some of that rain! Major fire zone, everything is so terribly dry from Ok City to San Antone. And, yeah, it's spring -- dirty wind blowing like fury just to mess up my fun outside.

I'll be praying on Friday -- and begging the LORD for a biopsy with promise instead of doom and gloom. AND praying for Mark and his father and the rest of the family to accept the fact that dying becomes just part of living, something we all have to do, sooner or later. That's a really hard part of loving to accept -- takes a world of grace to get through that realization -- and I pray they all can come to understand that dying is not the end of life -- merely the transition into a new version without all the hassles and pains of this one.

And praying for your mother. Old age sneaks up on us -- at least mine has -- and I never ever thought about the aches and pains and bone-weary tiredness that seems to be sneaking in the backdoor long before I'm ready to sit down and rest. I've still got lots of dreams to fill -- no time to "take it easy" -- even if the bones HURT like fury and the old heart races and the stomach churns and the old brain forgets where it laid the whatjamacallit I desperately need for this next task.

Yeah, I AM on your mother's side in this one: who wants to stop and be sick? Didn't sweat my whole life just so I can be too sick and tired to have FUN -- or finish up all those tasks not yet done.

So, I do pray a doc -- if not yours, then some other -- can minimize the discomfort and maximize the go-go-juice so she CAN have fun for a change. Especially so she can rediscover the fun of a daughter to laugh and "hang out with" for years and years yet.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

I'd kill for some of that rain! Major fire zone, everything is so terribly dry from Ok City to San Antone. And, yeah, it's spring -- dirty wind blowing like fury just to mess up my fun outside.

Oh yuck...honey...hang in there! I'll send some prayers for our rain to come your way.

I'll be praying on Friday -- and begging the LORD for a biopsy with promise instead of doom and gloom. AND praying for Mark and his father and the rest of the family to accept the fact that dying becomes just part of living, something we all have to do, sooner or later. That's a really hard part of loving to accept -- takes a world of grace to get through that realization -- and I pray they all can come to understand that dying is not the end of life -- merely the transition into a new version without all the hassles and pains of this one.

Surgery went fine yesterday with Mark's father. The after care however is problematic at best. His pain is at a maximum..his stats falling...and they are moving him to ICU. This man has not had to deal with anything worse then the common cold in his entire life...so having a major portion of his ascending bowel removed, his appy taken out... all in one sitting...is more then he has ever had to tolerate. He's afraid and in a situation that is beyond his understanding. Mark is gonna need all the patients he can muster in order to help his Father through this. Prayers please for Mark...for strength..he will need it to carry this rather ominous time on those huge shoulders of his.

And praying for your mother. Old age sneaks up on us -- at least mine has -- and I never ever thought about the aches and pains and bone-weary tiredness that seems to be sneaking in the backdoor long before I'm ready to sit down and rest. I've still got lots of dreams to fill -- no time to "take it easy" -- even if the bones HURT like fury and the old heart races and the stomach churns and the old brain forgets where it laid the whatjamacallit I desperately need for this next task.

Yeah, I AM on your mother's side in this one: who wants to stop and be sick? Didn't sweat my whole life just so I can be too sick and tired to have FUN -- or finish up all those tasks not yet done.

So, I do pray a doc -- if not yours, then some other -- can minimize the discomfort and maximize the go-go-juice so she CAN have fun for a change. Especially so she can rediscover the fun of a daughter to laugh and "hang out with" for years and years yet.

Oh...what can I say about Mom except ...well she's my Mom? lol. She has the pain tolerance of a gnat...is a tad bit hypochondriac...heck who am I kidding..she is a hypochondriac...lol...and is in a position of realizing that just because the cancer is now irradiated does not mean she won't have other 'aging' issues to deal with. :eh: My poor mom...God love her...so many wants crammed into one lifetime... :neutral:

I take it all in stride anymore. Never mind what I've experienced medically or what I know about the field..until it actually happens to them (our parents) personally, they simply don't understand....so patients and love is all I can offer for now.

How are you feeling Rhet? How are things in your own backyard?

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Oh yuck...honey...hang in there! I'll send some prayers for our rain to come your way.



Surgery went fine yesterday with Mark's father. The after care however is problematic at best. His pain is at a maximum..his stats falling...and they are moving him to ICU. This man has not had to deal with anything worse then the common cold in his entire life...so having a major portion of his ascending bowel removed, his appy taken out... all in one sitting...is more then he has ever had to tolerate. He's afraid and in a situation that is beyond his understanding. Mark is gonna need all the patients he can muster in order to help his Father through this. Prayers please for Mark...for strength..he will need it to carry this rather ominous time on those huge shoulders of his.



Oh...what can I say about Mom except ...well she's my Mom? lol. She has the pain tolerance of a gnat...is a tad bit hypochondriac...heck who am I kidding..she is a hypochondriac...lol...and is in a position of realizing that just because the cancer is now irradiated does not mean she won't have other 'aging' issues to deal with. :eh: My poor mom...God love her...so many wants crammed into one lifetime... :neutral:

I take it all in stride anymore. Never mind what I've experienced medically or what I know about the field..until it actually happens to them (our parents) personally, they simply don't understand....so patients and love is all I can offer for now.

How are you feeling Rhet? How are things in your own backyard?

~Mysty

We're okay -- just watched our entire eke-out-social security savings evaporate into thin air -- which leaves us in a world of money hurt -- but other than that, we're chugging along, finding rainbows where we could see weeds.

I'm praying for Mark and his father. And for your mother. And your own patience. This is Tough Stuff, indeed -- makes my own grousy-griping look petty to the hilt.

But what else can you do, except "take it in stride"? And hope there's not some hidden obstacle you're about to fall all over when you try to stride on past it. I sure do hope there aren't anymore of the dad-blamed things in your own path.

Tommy the Toad is VERY happy, by the way. I've got him sitting up tall right on the edge of this 2 foot diameter bronzish colored pot on the edge of the front porch, just out of the rain, so he looks like he's just about to hop out and go zap some bugs. The mail lady was all oohs and aahs over him the other day. I can hardly wait for the peace lily I want to plant in the same pot to get big enough so he looks like he's peeking out to see who's walking past.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

We're okay -- just watched our entire eke-out-social security savings evaporate into thin air -- which leaves us in a world of money hurt -- but other than that, we're chugging along, finding rainbows where we could see weeds.

:eek: evaporate? poof..and gone social security?...or Bear used up his few quarters and now has to go back to work? If it's too personal don't share it here..I understand. PM me if you want.

As far as weeds verses rainbows...well, God created the weeds so we wouldn't forget what physical labor was in our covenant with our first parents..Adam and Eve..and rainbows to appreciate that He is always with us. ;) We have to appreciate the weeds as much as the rainbows darlin...both remind us of the bigger picture right?

I'm praying for Mark and his father. And for your mother. And your own patience. This is Tough Stuff, indeed -- makes my own grousy-griping look petty to the hilt.

To grouse or not to grouse...that does become the question doesn't it...lol. There is always someone out in this huge world going through something harder then what you or I may be experiencing. The thought does make me stop and take stock..and be grateful that it's not worse. Thank you for the prayers...the situation with Mark's father is already improving....as they have him under better pain control now..and his vitals are coming back up slow..but sure.

But what else can you do, except "take it in stride"? And hope there's not some hidden obstacle you're about to fall all over when you try to stride on past it. I sure do hope there aren't anymore of the dad-blamed things in your own path.

I'd like a break for a bit..but wouldn't we all? I can't waiver in my belief that God has this all well in hand..has a plan...and knows what is best for my growth and my life. At least it stopped raining..and the bright yellow sun has come out..birds singing outside my window...and it's rather pretty outside for a young spring day. Think I'll take Prin down to the river for a walk today..would be good for us both. :D

Tommy the Toad is VERY happy, by the way. I've got him sitting up tall right on the edge of this 2 foot diameter bronzish colored pot on the edge of the front porch, just out of the rain, so he looks like he's just about to hop out and go zap some bugs. The mail lady was all oohs and aahs over him the other day. I can hardly wait for the peace lily I want to plant in the same pot to get big enough so he looks like he's peeking out to see who's walking past.

Reading this last part put a huge smile on my face. I can see him in my minds eye...and it makes me glad.

I can't wait to have a garden again...it will be another year or so before that happens. I love Peace Lillie's...great foliage and beautiful flowers...Tommy will love it!

Hang in there dear...rough waters aren't forever...faith is. :pray: Thank you for your prayers...keeping you and yours in mine as well...

~Mysty

[Gregor]

Hi there. I'm sorry you guys are going through those struggles. You're always in my thoughts. Things here are busy, but good. Mr. G. still has that cough that keeps me on edge, but the doctor didn't seem too concerned. He also has that cramping. Ah well. I would LOVE for him to have at least a small respite, but just have life is sufficient and his quality isn't really that compromised. Lotsa love to you both.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Hi there. I'm sorry you guys are going through those struggles. You're always in my thoughts. Things here are busy, but good. Mr. G. still has that cough that keeps me on edge, but the doctor didn't seem too concerned. He also has that cramping. Ah well. I would LOVE for him to have at least a small respite, but just have life is sufficient and his quality isn't really that compromised. Lotsa love to you both.

Sorry to hear about Mr. G's cough...does nothing help? Perhaps one of those nettle pots...nasal flushes would help ease that cough? Poor guy...hope that eases up soon.

Glad to hear your happily busy..and am hoping for that some day soon myself in my own life. A bit hectic here...Mark's father is not doing well...and it's a day to day challenge to say the least. We are all praying it comes to a good end. They had to intuebate him and put him on breathing machine....the family is scared to death for what 'might' happen next...not that I blame them.

Hang in there...summer is right around the corner..and with it hopefully a repreive.

Sending hugs to you all...

~Mysty

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

It's been a long and weird week here at our home. :frown:

Marks father is still on that damn vent machine...but they are supposed to begin weening him off today. We hope he will be off of it very soon. He's had heart issues as well...out of no where, and without explanation of 'why'. They have had to do a pulmonary flush three times now as well..as his lungs keep filling up with fluid. Don't know where that is coming from either.

This is a man who has never drank alcohol, smoked anything or taking even over the counter drugs in his whole life! He bikes quiet often..up to 20 miles at a time...and for all intense and purposes, other then his age, is in fit health.

Yesterday we got the news that the polyp they removed is cancerous. yet, no form of chemo or radiation is being recommended. His surgeon is convinced that they 'got it all' :rolleyes:; yet his white blood count and red blood count are off the charts!!!

I hate knowing what is going on...and only having the ability to share my concern and information with my husband. The rest of the family isn't interested...and only want to hear good news. To me, it seems as if the three doctors carrying for Marks father don't know what in the heck they are doing. To many chiefs imo.

so...it's wait and see..and hope and pray for the best.

How is everyone else doing? Well I hope?

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

It's been a long and weird week here at our home. :frown:

Marks father is still on that damn vent machine...but they are supposed to begin weening him off today. We hope he will be off of it very soon. He's had heart issues as well...out of no where, and without explanation of 'why'. They have had to do a pulmonary flush three times now as well..as his lungs keep filling up with fluid. Don't know where that is coming from either.

This is a man who has never drank alcohol, smoked anything or taking even over the counter drugs in his whole life! He bikes quiet often..up to 20 miles at a time...and for all intense and purposes, other then his age, is in fit health.

Yesterday we got the news that the polyp they removed is cancerous. yet, no form of chemo or radiation is being recommended. His surgeon is convinced that they 'got it all' :rolleyes:; yet his white blood count and red blood count are off the charts!!!

I hate knowing what is going on...and only having the ability to share my concern and information with my husband. The rest of the family isn't interested...and only want to hear good news. To me, it seems as if the three doctors carrying for Marks father don't know what in the heck they are doing. To many chiefs imo.

so...it's wait and see..and hope and pray for the best.

How is everyone else doing? Well I hope?

~Mysty

My Bear's first "medical" team would have seen him dead by now. Thank the LORD of All Mercies for the VA, who literally saved his life, doing the tests the others didn't think necessary.

Too much careless disregard for humanity; too much "bottom line" profiteering going on in our "medical industry" these days.

Will continue praying for Mark and his father. And you. It's a tough situation to be in.

We're fine, though I'm enduring some minor garbage I wish the Good LORD would take care of.

[itsrea]

It's been a long and weird week here at our home. :frown:

Marks father is still on that damn vent machine...but they are supposed to begin weening him off today. We hope he will be off of it very soon. He's had heart issues as well...out of no where, and without explanation of 'why'. They have had to do a pulmonary flush three times now as well..as his lungs keep filling up with fluid. Don't know where that is coming from either.

This is a man who has never drank alcohol, smoked anything or taking even over the counter drugs in his whole life! He bikes quiet often..up to 20 miles at a time...and for all intense and purposes, other then his age, is in fit health.

Yesterday we got the news that the polyp they removed is cancerous. yet, no form of chemo or radiation is being recommended. His surgeon is convinced that they 'got it all' :rolleyes:; yet his white blood count and red blood count are off the charts!!!

I hate knowing what is going on...and only having the ability to share my concern and information with my husband. The rest of the family isn't interested...and only want to hear good news. To me, it seems as if the three doctors carrying for Marks father don't know what in the heck they are doing. To many chiefs imo.

so...it's wait and see..and hope and pray for the best.

How is everyone else doing? Well I hope?

~Mystyaww Mysty... it sure has been a long hard road for you - please know you and yours are in my prayers.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

My Bear's first "medical" team would have seen him dead by now. Thank the LORD of All Mercies for the VA, who literally saved his life, doing the tests the others didn't think necessary.

Too much careless disregard for humanity; too much "bottom line" profiteering going on in our "medical industry" these days.

Will continue praying for Mark and his father. And you. It's a tough situation to be in.

We're fine, though I'm enduring some minor garbage I wish the Good LORD would take care of.

Praying your 'garbage' clears up and cleans up soon dearest. Is there anything I can do for you? Anything at all? You let me know ok?

Marks father, after 5 total pulmonary flushes of his vented lungs..seems to be slowly coming around. Mark felt much better after seeing his father yesterday..in a better condition then he previously was. There is hope. For the first time in many years, Marks father touched his heart..telling Mark how much he loved his son. It was touching and beautiful for the moment between son and father.

Now..the main goal is keep Marks father's 'new' cardiac issue from causing further issues...treating his post anesthesia phenomena, which they are not calling phenomena, under control..and pray the cancer doesn't take hold within his blood stream.

We are all hanging in there...praying our knee's off...but knowing to that God has his timing and plan.

Praying that all of you are doing well. I know we are not the only ones going through a trying time right now...and my heart and spirit goes out to those who are.

~Mysty

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

aww Mysty... it sure has been a long hard road for you - please know you and yours are in my prayers.

Thank you....the prayers...each and every one do help. :hug:

As for long roads...well, ya know, I've got a theory about them. God sets up only those things that will teach us, edify us, help us grow, help us to become strong and good. I supposed the more rocky roads and hills I climb, the stronger and closer I become to my Lord....which ultimately..is a good thing...at least I hope it is..lol.

Praying all is well with you and yours...

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Thank you....the prayers...each and every one do help. :hug:

As for long roads...well, ya know, I've got a theory about them. God sets up only those things that will teach us, edify us, help us grow, help us to become strong and good. I supposed the more rocky roads and hills I climb, the stronger and closer I become to my Lord....which ultimately..is a good thing...at least I hope it is..lol.

Praying all is well with you and yours...

~Mysty

Truth.

Updates on Mark's father and family? And your own mother? Prayers continue.

[tocsinia]

I HATE cancer!
My dear daddy and the parents of a few friends have it and I've seen children die of it. And, I HATE it!!
You're all in my prayers and thoughts.
And, whole brain radiation is a devil in cure clothes!
There's my passion summed up in few words. God Bless!

[rhet 2]

I HATE cancer!
My dear daddy and the parents of a few friends have it and I've seen children die of it. And, I HATE it!!
You're all in my prayers and thoughts.
And, whole brain radiation is a devil in cure clothes!
There's my passion summed up in few words. God Bless!

A passion a lot of us fully share.

Want a bit of good positive maybe-please God fervently to be hoped for?

There may be a med possible.

An article in one of the VA pubs I read while waiting for the Bear who was getting his own treatment for prostate cancer talked about it extensively.

Seems a cardiologist working for the VA had identified a naturally occuring chem produced in the heart that helps destroy blood platelets and keep the arteries in the heart clean. So he processed this chem into a synthetic pill and watched it work from outside the heart to achieve much the same -- it dissolves foreign bodies BIG TIME.

Then his wife died of breast cancer. He wondered if the same natural compound would dissolve cancer tumors in rats.

It does. A pill in the morning and within 36 hours, the rats were cancer free, the tumor dissolved and flushed away. Including some tumors up to now almost impossible to treat at all.

Now, it's being tested in humans -- some very brave vets are his human guinea pigs, research funded by the VA.

I have no idea what the test results so far look like -- but would that not be one of God's greatest gifts to human kind? A pill that dissolves tumors and eats cancer cells.

A dream I pray for with all my heart.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Truth.

Updates on Mark's father and family? And your own mother? Prayers continue.

Update: Well...we had a bright spot of sunshine for a 24 hour period of time about two days ago. They weened Larry (Marks father's name) off the damnable vent machine..and was sitting up, drinking juice, talking brightly with family, and reminiscing about salvation. We seemed to be on the other side of the hill, and we all anticipated his recovery and eventually going home. We all took a collective sigh of relief...it was over..and things/life would go back to normal.

Then..the following day...we got a call from the hospital...Larry wasn't breathing well on his own...so back on the damned vent machine. Thankfully he's knocked out and fairly unaware of his surroundings. A set back to be sure.

They found a 'fistula' from a previous cardiac cath procedure from his first surgery. Now that fistula is reeking havoc on his system. So back into surgery he goes tomorrow to correct the fistula. The biopsy of the tumor they pulled in the first surgery did come back cancerous...but they are not going to commit to any chemo or radiation. EEERRRGGGHHH...makes me nuts!

Add to the mix a nice atrial valve issue..and this man's health issues are like a bad set up of domino's. One goes down..and all the rest fall. :wall: I don't care for the medical treatment he is receiving...but I have to trust that these doctors are doing what is best. Call me a snob...but I know damn well what needs to be done..and it isn't getting done. It's frustrating for me to say the least. All I can do is explain to my husband what is going on..and what to expect..and what is normal procedure to correct any given situation as it pertains to the health care side of things.

Mark...what can I say but he is a trooper. Calm, strong, balanced and level headed for his Mother and sisters. Imo, and I am biased of course, he is a blessing to his family right now. They turn to him more and more ...to lean on..as it looks grim and dark right now. We will continue to pray for the best, and be thankful for whatever God has in store for us.

Now...Mom...oh...I sigh every time I think about her own trails and tribulations with health. She doesn't want to go in next week and have the blood tests done to ensure she is still cancer free. I hear more and more from her about just leaving it in God's hands...and if she is sick again, then she will do nothing about it. I understand it, but also understand she must be proactive in her own health care as well. God gave us brains, and with those brains an ability to help heal ourselves through medicine. Frustrating but understandable...seems to be my day to day life anymore. :confused: She calls less and less as the day for the blood tests approaches....which means I'll have to check in with her soon. :whistle:

Spring is most certainly here, and I am longing for a respite to enjoy friends and nature. However, with Larry in such a state, I am remiss about leaving my husband home alone. Such are the things of the lives of adults.

Praying Bear is tolerating his treatments....I keep him in my thoughts daily. Hang in there Rhet....remember the weeds and rainbows...they both have a beautiful and simple task in each of our lives. Weeds to remind us of our humanity as we work in pulling them up,....and rainbows to remind us of the divine who placed them there. ;)

Gods love and blessings upon you all who read this thread. Everything has a purpose....there is always a reason even if we never understand what that reason is. Have faith....it's what will pull you through.

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Update: Well...we had a bright spot of sunshine for a 24 hour period of time about two days ago. They weened Larry (Marks father's name) off the damnable vent machine..and was sitting up, drinking juice, talking brightly with family, and reminiscing about salvation. We seemed to be on the other side of the hill, and we all anticipated his recovery and eventually going home. We all took a collective sigh of relief...it was over..and things/life would go back to normal.

Then..the following day...we got a call from the hospital...Larry wasn't breathing well on his own...so back on the damned vent machine. Thankfully he's knocked out and fairly unaware of his surroundings. A set back to be sure.

They found a 'fistula' from a previous cardiac cath procedure from his first surgery. Now that fistula is reeking havoc on his system. So back into surgery he goes tomorrow to correct the fistula. The biopsy of the tumor they pulled in the first surgery did come back cancerous...but they are not going to commit to any chemo or radiation. EEERRRGGGHHH...makes me nuts!

Add to the mix a nice atrial valve issue..and this man's health issues are like a bad set up of domino's. One goes down..and all the rest fall. :wall: I don't care for the medical treatment he is receiving...but I have to trust that these doctors are doing what is best. Call me a snob...but I know damn well what needs to be done..and it isn't getting done. It's frustrating for me to say the least. All I can do is explain to my husband what is going on..and what to expect..and what is normal procedure to correct any given situation as it pertains to the health care side of things.

Mark...what can I say but he is a trooper. Calm, strong, balanced and level headed for his Mother and sisters. Imo, and I am biased of course, he is a blessing to his family right now. They turn to him more and more ...to lean on..as it looks grim and dark right now. We will continue to pray for the best, and be thankful for whatever God has in store for us.

Now...Mom...oh...I sigh every time I think about her own trails and tribulations with health. She doesn't want to go in next week and have the blood tests done to ensure she is still cancer free. I hear more and more from her about just leaving it in God's hands...and if she is sick again, then she will do nothing about it. I understand it, but also understand she must be proactive in her own health care as well. God gave us brains, and with those brains an ability to help heal ourselves through medicine. Frustrating but understandable...seems to be my day to day life anymore. :confused: She calls less and less as the day for the blood tests approaches....which means I'll have to check in with her soon. :whistle:

Spring is most certainly here, and I am longing for a respite to enjoy friends and nature. However, with Larry in such a state, I am remiss about leaving my husband home alone. Such are the things of the lives of adults.

Praying Bear is tolerating his treatments....I keep him in my thoughts daily. Hang in there Rhet....remember the weeds and rainbows...they both have a beautiful and simple task in each of our lives. Weeds to remind us of our humanity as we work in pulling them up,....and rainbows to remind us of the divine who placed them there. ;)

Gods love and blessings upon you all who read this thread. Everything has a purpose....there is always a reason even if we never understand what that reason is. Have faith....it's what will pull you through.

~Mysty

Prayers for Larry's surgery tomorrow, then. That fistula needs to GO asap. I'm very sorry for the trials and tribulations beginning to accumulate -- they do start piling up one on top of another as we age, and that's a sad debilitating fact that messes up our last years -- so I pray the LORD disassemble that stack of dominoes for you all.

You would be married to less than a trooper? Can't picture you with a wimppie type, no, not at all. But even troopers get weary, though they do their best to hide the fact from those who rely on them to be troopers. So, he gets prayers too, especially with the weight of his mother and sisters landing on his shoulders, too.

And you're right about your own mother. She's not a child to be forced to eat her veggies and take her meds like a good little girl -- not for a long time yet to come, not until just before the end, prayfully. Wise or not, she's got to make her own decisions about the tests and future treatments, if she's to remain an independent adult and not become a child.

Bear's doing just fine. Some three months till further tests are required. Slowly slowly slowly, he's getting his strength back to peak -- though the docs swear he'll never again be 100% before the cancer hit him, he should make 80 or 90% back. Of course, I'm praying for the miracle, even though he's good with less than 100%, because I want him to thrive and prosper long after I've boarded the Ship for Home.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Prayers for Larry's surgery tomorrow, then. That fistula needs to GO asap. I'm very sorry for the trials and tribulations beginning to accumulate -- they do start piling up one on top of another as we age, and that's a sad debilitating fact that messes up our last years -- so I pray the LORD disassemble that stack of dominoes for you all.

Thank you for the prayers..Gods gonna be sick of hearing from me. lol. I've bent his ear for over a year now...He's gotta be sick of hearing from me by now right? I feel like a young child, pulling at the edge of His robes to get His attention. I know He's busy...a whole world to look after and take care of.....so I have to trust He has things well in hand and be patient.
Larry goes in for the fistula surgery in an hour or so. Waiting to hear from his surgeon, who promised he would call just before going in. They are trying to stabilize Larry's vitals enough to tolerate the procedure...which makes me very nervous to tell ya the truth.

You would be married to less than a trooper? Can't picture you with a wimppie type, no, not at all. But even troopers get weary, though they do their best to hide the fact from those who rely on them to be troopers. So, he gets prayers too, especially with the weight of his mother and sisters landing on his shoulders, too.

Mark has been really great through this whole experiance. He's impressed even me. I can see the toll of his sisters and Mom have had on him. Patience is wearing thin. When it comes to his sisters and Mom, well lets just say they have never had life smack them around like this before. Worst they have survived is...well... nothing at all.

Mark and I have been through the nightmares of sever illness...which his family was disaffected by. In fact, Larry used to preach to me all the time that I was sick due to not living righteously, or that God felt it necessary to teach me a lesson and bring me to heel. :rolleyes: I don't hold that line of thinking against Larry or his family. Mormon theology can get convoluted at best. I can't imagine trying to explain the unexplainable. Mark however, does/did have issue with their treatment of us...and has had to learn, grow and work through it. A blessing in disguise you might say.
I can't imagine what this must be like for any of them emotionally to deal with. I feel empathy for the terror they are going through. I would take it from them if I could...but it's not mine to take.

Mark received the beautiful gift of being able to have one last truthful and loving conversation with his father. I had told him it does no good to talk to a grave stone. He took my advise to heart, and had that conversation with his father before his set back. He, Mark, now feels at peace and can deal with the realities of his father's health issues.

And you're right about your own mother. She's not a child to be forced to eat her veggies and take her meds like a good little girl -- not for a long time yet to come, not until just before the end, prayfully. Wise or not, she's got to make her own decisions about the tests and future treatments, if she's to remain an independent adult and not become a child.

I would no more treat her as a child now, as I would in her hopefully elder years. I respect her more then to do that to her, or treat her in that manner. Ya know, between my parents and Marks parents, I've taken to a mantra of 'whatever happens happens, whatever doesn't doesn't. As long as I continue to be true, honest and love and respect my elders...I'm ok.

Bear's doing just fine. Some three months till further tests are required. Slowly slowly slowly, he's getting his strength back to peak -- though the docs swear he'll never again be 100% before the cancer hit him, he should make 80 or 90% back. Of course, I'm praying for the miracle, even though he's good with less than 100%, because I want him to thrive and prosper long after I've boarded the Ship for Home.

Doctors...mere humans trying to fix or heal something made by divine hands. You keep praying for full health and recovery of your beautiful mate...as will I. Doctors don't know God's will or what He will do, or has planed for you. Lord knows I should be dead five times over...and no doctor can explain to me why I"m still here...much less able to walk again, drive again and live again a moderately active life. Miracles do happen Rhet...I'm a walking talking posting example of one; and so will, God willing, your Bear. :pray:

Hang in there darlin...it's a long time yet before you or I are called home. Way to much sewing of seeds to be done...Way to much work yet to be done...and He needs all the help he can get right now....

Sending big hugs,
~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Thank you for the prayers..Gods gonna be sick of hearing from me. lol. I've bent his ear for over a year now...He's gotta be sick of hearing from me by now right? I feel like a young child, pulling at the edge of His robes to get His attention. I know He's busy...a whole world to look after and take care of.....so I have to trust He has things well in hand and be patient.
Larry goes in for the fistula surgery in an hour or so. Waiting to hear from his surgeon, who promised he would call just before going in. They are trying to stabilize Larry's vitals enough to tolerate the procedure...which makes me very nervous to tell ya the truth.



Mark has been really great through this whole experiance. He's impressed even me. I can see the toll of his sisters and Mom have had on him. Patience is wearing thin. When it comes to his sisters and Mom, well lets just say they have never had life smack them around like this before. Worst they have survived is...well... nothing at all.

Mark and I have been through the nightmares of sever illness...which his family was disaffected by. In fact, Larry used to preach to me all the time that I was sick due to not living righteously, or that God felt it necessary to teach me a lesson and bring me to heel. :rolleyes: I don't hold that line of thinking against Larry or his family. Mormon theology can get convoluted at best. I can't imagine trying to explain the unexplainable. Mark however, does/did have issue with their treatment of us...and has had to learn, grow and work through it. A blessing in disguise you might say.
I can't imagine what this must be like for any of them emotionally to deal with. I feel empathy for the terror they are going through. I would take it from them if I could...but it's not mine to take.

Mark received the beautiful gift of being able to have one last truthful and loving conversation with his father. I had told him it does no good to talk to a grave stone. He took my advise to heart, and had that conversation with his father before his set back. He, Mark, now feels at peace and can deal with the realities of his father's health issues.



I would no more treat her as a child now, as I would in her hopefully elder years. I respect her more then to do that to her, or treat her in that manner. Ya know, between my parents and Marks parents, I've taken to a mantra of 'whatever happens happens, whatever doesn't doesn't. As long as I continue to be true, honest and love and respect my elders...I'm ok.



Doctors...mere humans trying to fix or heal something made by divine hands. You keep praying for full health and recovery of your beautiful mate...as will I. Doctors don't know God's will or what He will do, or has planed for you. Lord knows I should be dead five times over...and no doctor can explain to me why I"m still here...much less able to walk again, drive again and live again a moderately active life. Miracles do happen Rhet...I'm a walking talking posting example of one; and so will, God willing, your Bear. :pray:

Hang in there darlin...it's a long time yet before you or I are called home. Way to much sewing of seeds to be done...Way to much work yet to be done...and He needs all the help he can get right now....

Sending big hugs,
~Mysty

Aw, the sweet breath of wisdom from a friend's mind to my own! :clap:

Just one thing: God adores little kids -- and the more one of us tugs at His coattails to get His attention, the better. Being Infinite, He CAN AND DOES give each of His children 100% of His Attention 100% of the time -- and never runs out of Patience.

Which, in my case, is a great good thing! :))

[itsrea]

I know we are pretty must strangers, but I feel compelled to respond to you tonight, so I hope you will take what I'm posting in the spirit it is given :)
Thank you for the prayers..Gods gonna be sick of hearing from me. lol. I've bent his ear for over a year now...He's gotta be sick of hearing from me by now right? I feel like a young child, pulling at the edge of His robes to get His attention. I know He's busy...a whole world to look after and take care of.....so I have to trust He has things well in hand and be patient. It didn't bother Jesus that the woman came to him as a last resort. to him it mattered only that she came. Mysty, everything I've read, everything I've heard.. everything I've learned says God made us because He loves our company... doesn't matter why we come, how we come, when we come, it just matters that we come.

Larry goes in for the fistula surgery in an hour or so. Waiting to hear from his surgeon, who promised he would call just before going in. They are trying to stabilize Larry's vitals enough to tolerate the procedure...which makes me very nervous to tell ya the truth. I've been there, I know how hard this is, I wish I could just grab you and hug you and tell you face to face: hold on. Hold on to yourself. Hold on to each other. Hold on to your faith. Hold on to your God. Holding on will hold you together.

Mark has been really great through this whole experiance. He's impressed even me. I can see the toll of his sisters and Mom have had on him. Patience is wearing thin. When it comes to his sisters and Mom, well lets just say they have never had life smack them around like this before. Worst they have survived is...well... nothing at all.

Mark and I have been through the nightmares of sever illness...which his family was disaffected by. In fact, Larry used to preach to me all the time that I was sick due to not living righteously, or that God felt it necessary to teach me a lesson and bring me to heel. :rolleyes: I don't hold that line of thinking against Larry or his family. Mormon theology can get convoluted at best. I can't imagine trying to explain the unexplainable. Mark however, does/did have issue with their treatment of us...and has had to learn, grow and work through it. A blessing in disguise you might say. Anybody's faith can get convoluted.. look at Jim Jones.. David Koresh. My first reaction to reading that last paragraph was anger, and I was ready to type a lashing for Larry and then I realized that believing like he does is actually tame compared to the two men I just mentioned.. and we are all of us still learning - we can pray that the Lord will teach Larry the truth too... anyway, this quote seems to fit: God knows that with some of us it takes a lot of reality to snap us to our senses, so He doesn't keep a time clock. Those who scramble in at quitting time get the same wage as those who beat the morning whistle.. I guess that's what makes grace grace

I can't imagine what this must be like for any of them emotionally to deal with. I feel empathy for the terror they are going through. I would take it from them if I could...but it's not mine to take. Our problem is not so much that God doesn't give us what we hope for as it is that we don't know the right thing for which to hope.

Only in seeing his Maker does a man truly become a man. For in seeing his Creator man catches a glimpse of what he was intended to be. So you are right.. you can't take this from them because you can't stand in and see God for them.

Mark received the beautiful gift of being able to have one last truthful and loving conversation with his father. I had told him it does no good to talk to a grave stone. He took my advise to heart, and had that conversation with his father before his set back. He, Mark, now feels at peace and can deal with the realities of his father's health issues.

I would no more treat her as a child now, as I would in her hopefully elder years. I respect her more then to do that to her, or treat her in that manner. Ya know, between my parents and Marks parents, I've taken to a mantra of 'whatever happens happens, whatever doesn't doesn't. As long as I continue to be true, honest and love and respect my elders...I'm ok.
I don't know what faith you are so don't know if this is ok to quote, but I think it makes sense, so will pray it does not offend.Christianity, in its purest form, is nothing more then seeing Jesus. Christian service, in its purest form, is nothing more them imitating Him who we see. To see his Majesty and to imitate Him, that is the sum of Christianity. You sound to me like you have seen Jesus and are imitating him in your very loving thoughts and actions Mysty. I hope that encourages you.

Doctors...mere humans trying to fix or heal something made by divine hands. You keep praying for full health and recovery of your beautiful mate...as will I. Doctors don't know God's will or what He will do, or has planed for you. Lord knows I should be dead five times over...and no doctor can explain to me why I"m still here...much less able to walk again, drive again and live again a moderately active life. Miracles do happen Rhet...I'm a walking talking posting example of one; and so will, God willing, your Bear. :pray:

Hang in there darlin...it's a long time yet before you or I are called home. Way to much sewing of seeds to be done...Way to much work yet to be done...and He needs all the help he can get right now....

Sending big hugs,
~MystyRhet knows the story of prayer and surgeons when my oldest was having the surgeries for correcting his birth defect.. if you'd like I can repeat it for you.. if not then you can try to take heart in that my son is witness to what God will do through a surgeon if the surgeon will listen.

The quotes are taken from "God Came Near" by Max Lucado, a preacher, write and radio broadcaster. I haven't read the book, the quotes where in handout we get every week at church.. they just seemed to fit what you were saying and I hope they encourage you and offer you some rest and peace.

You and yours remain in my prayers.

Hugs,
Rea

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Aw, the sweet breath of wisdom from a friend's mind to my own! :clap:

Just one thing: God adores little kids -- and the more one of us tugs at His coattails to get His attention, the better. Being Infinite, He CAN AND DOES give each of His children 100% of His Attention 100% of the time -- and never runs out of Patience.

Which, in my case, is a great good thing! :))

Oh I like that image...all of us back in a time of full understanding of the mysteries that only children understand...tugging lovingly at the hem of our Lords robes. I'd like to think a great warm smile would greet that soft gentle tug..to have a Father who truly loves me..his child look at me in full understanding and love. That day my friend..is one I've waited for all my life.

You give me such great imagery Rhet...ones that better explain things then any mere words can relate. :hug:

Thank you....

~Mysty

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

I know we are pretty must strangers, but I feel compelled to respond to you tonight, so I hope you will take what I'm posting in the spirit it is given :)
Mysty, everything I've read, everything I've heard.. everything I've learned says God made us because He loves our company... doesn't matter why we come, how we come, when we come, it just matters that we come.

Absolutely...the journey itself is the adventure. :hug:

I've been there, I know how hard this is, I wish I could just grab you and hug you and tell you face to face: hold on. Hold on to yourself. Hold on to each other. Hold on to your faith. Hold on to your God. Holding on will hold you together.

And I'm very blessed to have a husband who will hold on with me, together, in a storm, in the comfort of one another harbor. I could not go through what I have without my God at my side. God, and the love of my husband, are my 'rod' to walk this life by. I thank you for your kind and well felt words. I felt that hug all the way over here! :hug:

Anybody's faith can get convoluted.. look at Jim Jones.. David Koresh. My first reaction to reading that last paragraph was anger, and I was ready to type a lashing for Larry and then I realized that believing like he does is actually tame compared to the two men I just mentioned.. and we are all of us still learning - we can pray that the Lord will teach Larry the truth too... anyway, this quote seems to fit:

Honestly, it has taken me many years to understand what you so simply put into words. Your right of course...but it came to me slowly and by much prayer for understanding. My own illness has been devastating upon my family. I'm blessed that God choose me as the bearer of this disease, ; as it not only edified me, but edified those around me who I love. A blessing indeed. I know there is no way I or my husband would be who we are today without that experiance. ;) I hold no malice or pain towards Mark's family. If anything, I now feel the pain of how horrifying this is for them. Being a nurse, empathy is not a new sensation...but these experiances have brought a deeper understanding of that emotion. Again, God's blessings rain down on me.

So you are right.. you can't take this from them because you can't stand in and see God for them.

There are a set of old proverbs (not sure their origin...Asian I believe) that state: You can never be poor enough to make another wealthy/rich. You can never be sick enough to make another healthy. You can never feel pain enough so another can feel joy. As true today as when the words were first written.

I pray....pray some more...help where I can and where it is needed...and leave the rest in God's capable hands. Seems I'm asking more for patients these days and a softer heart to keep anger from creeping in when I can't fix things. But again, down deep I know it's not mine to fix. Just me being human...and female...lol.

I don't know what faith you are so don't know if this is ok to quote, but I think it makes sense, so will pray it does not offend. You sound to me like you have seen Jesus and are imitating him in your very loving thoughts and actions Mysty. I hope that encourages you.

Any who believe in Christ is a christian in my book. Mark and I don't attend a church...haven't for years. But we read our bibles and try to save the Lords day for Him. Whole other long painful story...anyway, Mark was raised Mormon...and I married him and into the church. Can't say we are Mormon anymore though....so just Christian fits us just fine. And your sweet quotes were salve to my heart...I thank you for them. (actually, teared up a few times as I read and re read your entire posts...what a great spirit you have...what a blessing you are to your family and your precious son.)

Rhet knows the story of prayer and surgeons when my oldest was having the surgeries for correcting his birth defect.. if you'd like I can repeat it for you.. if not then you can try to take heart in that my son is witness to what God will do through a surgeon if the surgeon will listen.

The quotes are taken from "God Came Near" by Max Lucado, a preacher, write and radio broadcaster. I haven't read the book, the quotes where in handout we get every week at church.. they just seemed to fit what you were saying and I hope they encourage you and offer you some rest and peace.

You and yours remain in my prayers.

Hugs,
Rea

I'll look up Max Lucado...he sounds wise beyond human years. ;) As far as medical care/surgeons; There are those who work with God with angles at their backs...and there are those who attack the human body as if it were a car. :rolleyes: I pray those who are blessed care for Larry now. Being a nurse and knowing so much about health care, my gander gets raised when something foolish is done, or when damage is created out of ignorance or laziness. Larry's care for the most part has been the latter. Makes me nuts...but I have to remember, I'm not his nurse...I'm his daughter in law.

Rea ....Thank you so much for such a wonderful filled post. In so many ways, you've spoken to my heart...my spirit..and I am thankful for it.

God Bless

~Mysty

[Gregor]

Just so you know Mystic...while I don't come here often, you are ALWAYS in my prayers.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Just so you know Mystic...while I don't come here often, you are ALWAYS in my prayers.

As you and yours are in mine. How are you btw? Any news about going back to Italy/Europe for this years literary conference? did you get the grant? I remember you posting that you most likely wouldn't get it two years running...but hey...you never know right? :mrgreen: It could happen.

:hug:

~Mysty

[Gregor]

As you and yours are in mine. How are you btw? Any news about going back to Italy/Europe for this years literary conference? did you get the grant? I remember you posting that you most likely wouldn't get it two years running...but hey...you never know right? :mrgreen: It could happen.

:hug:

~Mysty

How are you? Been thinking about you. Should get word on the conference soon. If you have an extra prayer, I'd appreciate it! It would be an incredibly experience and I'd share every little detail (unless that'd make you pray against it!) Much love.

[rhet 2]

How are you? Been thinking about you. Should get word on the conference soon. If you have an extra prayer, I'd appreciate it! It would be an incredibly experience and I'd share every little detail (unless that'd make you pray against it!) Much love.

Oh, every little detail makes me pray even harder that you DO get to go!

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Oh, every little detail makes me pray even harder that you DO get to go!

That's two of us Rhet! Heather's made such great use of that material...such a blessing! This summer she is going to take a temp summer teaching job on literature...she's all a flush with joy as she has some great idea's from what Gregor has already so graciously sent her.

And that's never boring Gregor...never..I love the stuff...I'm a true junkie... if you will. So 'detail' away my dear...detail away!

~Mysty

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Update: My poor father in law...this whole experiance was to be a simple surgery (bowel resection) and it's turned into a fight for his life. :confused:

Let's see...the family agreed that a tracheotomy would be best and the next step in Larry's health plan to get well. He has to be kept on a medication called Verced when orally intubated...which he isn't doing well with. I believe it represses him down into almost a coma like state, and his body is reacting to it badly...like an alergic reaction of sorts.

So the choice was made to place a trach yesterday morning. Everything went perfect...they did it right by his bedside..and was coming off the Versed slowly. I got home by 2pm from the hospital and laid down for a nice nap. I was pooped. I've been acting communicator for the entire family for the med staff. Took more out of me then I thought it would.

6pm rolled around and I get a message from my sister in law. They had to pull the trach..as the new wound went from a slow ooze....which is expected...to a constant low flow of blood from the wound. They pressure bandaged the area after pulling the trach..and re-intubated him orally..and back on that damn Verced. The doctor finally makes the statment that Larry has some sort of blood born disease that prevents him from clotting. They gave him a new medication that is normally given to those who have no clotting factor..and that seemed to stop the bleed. During all this..Larry's lower left lobe (we have five lobes total in our lungs) decided to collapse. So, they placed a tube to release the pressure, re-inflate the lung..and now it can heal.

He's stable for the moment..but still critical. The doctor is now at least looking at the blood born disorder list in an attempt to save this man's life. Time is not on our side at this point...and these doctors have about a thousand and one different possible blood disorder's to look at in order to diagnose Larry properly.

It's not all bad though...other then Larry's inability to clot..and unable to breath on his own and needing a vent machine to do the work for him...all his other organs are marching right along and working fine. I tried to keep the focus last night as I gave the update calls to the rest of the family that positive point. I pray I"m not boosting their hopes..and am trying to give a full perspective on their fathers' situation.

Sooo...prayers please for Mark and I to be loving and strong in order to continue to help the family cope and deal with this new dilemma. Prayers for Larry that God will heal his body and allow him to become well enough to go home to his wife. Prayers that above all else, God's love and plan for this family is taken in by all and accepted...no matter the outcome.

God Bless you all...
Sending my prayers out for those of us supporting and struggling with these situations.

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

Update: My poor father in law...this whole experiance was to be a simple surgery (bowel resection) and it's turned into a fight for his life. :confused:

Let's see...the family agreed that a tracheotomy would be best and the next step in Larry's health plan to get well. He has to be kept on a medication called Verced when orally intubated...which he isn't doing well with. I believe it represses him down into almost a coma like state, and his body is reacting to it badly...like an alergic reaction of sorts.

So the choice was made to place a trach yesterday morning. Everything went perfect...they did it right by his bedside..and was coming off the Versed slowly. I got home by 2pm from the hospital and laid down for a nice nap. I was pooped. I've been acting communicator for the entire family for the med staff. Took more out of me then I thought it would.

6pm rolled around and I get a message from my sister in law. They had to pull the trach..as the new wound went from a slow ooze....which is expected...to a constant low flow of blood from the wound. They pressure bandaged the area after pulling the trach..and re-intubated him orally..and back on that damn Verced. The doctor finally makes the statment that Larry has some sort of blood born disease that prevents him from clotting. They gave him a new medication that is normally given to those who have no clotting factor..and that seemed to stop the bleed. During all this..Larry's lower left lobe (we have five lobes total in our lungs) decided to collapse. So, they placed a tube to release the pressure, re-inflate the lung..and now it can heal.

He's stable for the moment..but still critical. The doctor is now at least looking at the blood born disorder list in an attempt to save this man's life. Time is not on our side at this point...and these doctors have about a thousand and one different possible blood disorder's to look at in order to diagnose Larry properly.

It's not all bad though...other then Larry's inability to clot..and unable to breath on his own and needing a vent machine to do the work for him...all his other organs are marching right along and working fine. I tried to keep the focus last night as I gave the update calls to the rest of the family that positive point. I pray I"m not boosting their hopes..and am trying to give a full perspective on their fathers' situation.

Sooo...prayers please for Mark and I to be loving and strong in order to continue to help the family cope and deal with this new dilemma. Prayers for Larry that God will heal his body and allow him to become well enough to go home to his wife. Prayers that above all else, God's love and plan for this family is taken in by all and accepted...no matter the outcome.

God Bless you all...
Sending my prayers out for those of us supporting and struggling with these situations.

~Mysty

My prayers you most surely have got!

Poor darling loves.

Life is sometimes too beastly rough for words to alleviate the pain.

But you've got all my loving compassion and sympathy

-- and prayers for the LORD to form a hedge all around your family to lighten and relieve the burdens that surely oppress you all.

:hug: and SUPER :hug: and :pray: with all my heart.

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

My prayers you most surely have got!

Poor darling loves.

Life is sometimes too beastly rough for words to alleviate the pain.

But you've got all my loving compassion and sympathy

-- and prayers for the LORD to form a hedge all around your family to lighten and relieve the burdens that surely oppress you all.

:hug: and SUPER :hug: and :pray: with all my heart.

:hug: Thank you Rhet....every bit helps.

I'm having a tough time making the final decision to go away for the weekend. It's my best gal's birthday tomorrow..and I was scheduled to go up there (3 hours away from Sac town), and hang out with her an another of our friends for the weekend. In light of what's going on with Larry...I would feel horrible if I weren't here for Mark if something were to turn to the worse for Larry. At the same time, I know I need some time to rejuvenate myself so I can be of support and help to my hubby and his family.

Gads...darned if I do...darned if I don't...:confused:

~Mysty

[rhet 2]

:hug: Thank you Rhet....every bit helps.

I'm having a tough time making the final decision to go away for the weekend. It's my best gal's birthday tomorrow..and I was scheduled to go up there (3 hours away from Sac town), and hang out with her an another of our friends for the weekend. In light of what's going on with Larry...I would feel horrible if I weren't here for Mark if something were to turn to the worse for Larry. At the same time, I know I need some time to rejuvenate myself so I can be of support and help to my hubby and his family.

Gads...darned if I do...darned if I don't...:confused:

~Mysty

If you were God, you could know the future and such decisions would be a snap.

If you could know the future and such decisions were a snap, you would be God.

NO GUILT, either way, luv. You're human and doing your level human best to be the best human you can be.

Go or stay, the LORD KNOWS and is with you all.

How is Mark's father?