What things do men fear?

[traditional_woman]

I was watching the history channel with my other half and there was a piece about a newer version of the pogo stick. This pogo stick goes much higher than the original. The man demonstrating it helped make it. He was jumping really high, and he would jump onto buildings/ledges, then back onto the stick. It was cringeworthy watching, and i turned to hub and asked him why are men drawn to extreme sports/activities, don't they think about getting hurt? He said, only women think about getting hurt, we just do it. He went on to make a broad statement that women live in fear, and men don't. I know that men fear things, they just don't voice it as much.

So IMA make a poll

[natalie addict]

I was watching the history channel with my other half and there was a piece about a newer version of the pogo stick. This pogo stick goes much higher than the original. The man demonstrating it helped make it. He was jumping really high, and he would jump onto buildings/ledges, then back onto the stick. It was cringeworthy watching, and i turned to hub and asked him why are men drawn to extreme sports/activities, don't they think about getting hurt? He said, only women think about getting hurt, we just do it. He went on to make a broad statement that women live in fear, and men don't. I know that men fear things, they just don't voice it as much.

So IMA make a poll

Women that ask too many tom fool questions. More annoyance than fear.

[samurai7]

What do men fear?







Me of course!

:twisted:

[BillBrown]

I was watching the history channel with my other half and there was a piece about a newer version of the pogo stick. This pogo stick goes much higher than the original. The man demonstrating it helped make it. He was jumping really high, and he would jump onto buildings/ledges, then back onto the stick. It was cringeworthy watching, and i turned to hub and asked him why are men drawn to extreme sports/activities, don't they think about getting hurt? He said, only women think about getting hurt, we just do it. He went on to make a broad statement that women live in fear, and men don't. I know that men fear things, they just don't voice it as much.

So IMA make a poll

It depends on the man.
I have a natural fear of snakes and heights. I do not fear physical confrontations or displeasing a boss.

I feared fewer things before I had my family. I tend to think of them now, before I do something crazy.

[traditional_woman]

Women that ask too many tom fool questions. More annoyance than fear.

..and that has what to do with the poll question?

[Celtic Pax]

Men fear this statement the most "Dear, can we talk?"

[Lie Sniper]

I would say that many men fear looking incompetent or helpless.

[LouC]

Men and women fear the same things, with some minor exceptions.

I have listed a few:

Men do not fear, you know, "not feeling fresh"...

Men do fear if their butts "look big in these jeans" but they sure as hell aren't going to ask their spouse, then get all up in her face over the answer.

Men don't worry if they left the curling iron on. (well except girly men, oh and Geraldo)

Men fear the "check oil" light coming on in the car while driving.

Women regard the "check oil" warning light as a mere suggestion so don't fear it.

Yet these same women will fearfully call their kid's Doctor if little Billy has a temp of 99.2.

But these same men, if little Billy were projectile vomiting, wouldn't fear Billy might be feeling poorly.

Women fear having nothing in the house to cook for supper.

Men do not fear that but see it as righteous justification for pizza delivery.

Women fear the ending of a chick flick, men fear the beginning.

I could go on but I think you get the point. :)

[CaptainPike]

I worry about not being able to pay my bills or not being able to provide insurance in case something were to happen to my kids (and I know government run healthcare isn't the answer)

I worry about what kind of crap my daughter is going to learn at school from other kids that have less than adequate parents.

I worry about our good vehicle breaking down. We already have one that's on it's last leg. I don't want both of them getting in that condition.

I worry about my bathroom. I just paid this guy a lot of money to replace the shower and it's already falling apart.

But most of all, I worry about Chuck Norris.

[CaptainPike]

Women fear having nothing in the house to cook for supper.

Men do not fear that but see it as righteous justification for pizza delivery.

Unfortunately, that's 100% true.

I actually got a call a week or so ago from Papa Johns. They were calling to check on their loyal customers or something.

If they weren't so expensive, I would get their pizza more often. We already get it about 3 times a month.

[curtis123]

Interesting thread. When I saw the title, I already knew what the largest response would be. I did a speech on this a while back. Not being able to pay the bills. Basically, failure.

Failure is the greatest fear of men, bar none. Probably has to do with the natural male dominance thing to impress and win the favor of women. It's our natural role to be the provider and protector.

For years, I drove myself nuts in fear of failing in business, and finally learned that success and failure sometimes go hand in hand, and we succeed because of smaller failures. It forges who we are.

Abraham Lincoln is a good failure story:

1816 His family was forced out of their home. He had to work to support
them.
1831 Failed in business.
1832 Ran for state legislature - lost.
1832 Also lost his job - wanted to go to law school but couldn't get in.
1833 Borrowed some money from a friend to begin a business and by the
end of the year he was bankrupt. He spent the next 17 years of his
life paying off this debt.
1835 Was engaged to be married, sweetheart died and his heart was
broken.
1836 Had a total nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months.
1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature - defeated.
1840 Sought to become elector - defeated.
1843 Ran for Congress - lost.
1846 Ran for Congress again - this time he won - went to Washington and
did a good job.
1848 Ran for re-election to Congress - lost.
1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state - rejected.
1854 Ran for Senate of the United States - lost.
1856 Sought the Vice-Presidential nomination at his party's national
convention - got less than 100 votes.
1858 Ran for U.S. Senate again - again he lost.
1860 Elected president of the United States.

[Ninjacorpse]

I fear something happening to my family and friends.

[Seanachie]

I fear waking up 'dead' for all intents or purposes. Being able enough to discuss my funeral plans with my Kids was a trip after this nearly happened just a couple of months shy of three years ago.

[Sinister Rouge]

The poll question is kindof useless.
I worry about a lot of those things, but not all the time. I take precautions to prevent them, and what I can't, I don't worry about.

I do, however, have a morbid fear of losing my teeth. I think that goes back to when I was 6 and fell and knocked a baby tooth out.

[Sinister Rouge]

Abraham Lincoln is a good failure story:

1816 His family was forced out of their home. He had to work to support
them.
1831 Failed in business.
1832 Ran for state legislature - lost.
1832 Also lost his job - wanted to go to law school but couldn't get in.
1833 Borrowed some money from a friend to begin a business and by the
end of the year he was bankrupt. He spent the next 17 years of his
life paying off this debt.
1835 Was engaged to be married, sweetheart died and his heart was
broken.
1836 Had a total nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months.
1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature - defeated.
1840 Sought to become elector - defeated.
1843 Ran for Congress - lost.
1846 Ran for Congress again - this time he won - went to Washington and
did a good job.
1848 Ran for re-election to Congress - lost.
1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state - rejected.
1854 Ran for Senate of the United States - lost.
1856 Sought the Vice-Presidential nomination at his party's national
convention - got less than 100 votes.
1858 Ran for U.S. Senate again - again he lost.
1860 Elected president of the United States.


And people say Obama had no accomplishments...

[penner01]

I was watching the history channel with my other half and there was a piece about a newer version of the pogo stick. This pogo stick goes much higher than the original. The man demonstrating it helped make it. He was jumping really high, and he would jump onto buildings/ledges, then back onto the stick. It was cringeworthy watching, and i turned to hub and asked him why are men drawn to extreme sports/activities, don't they think about getting hurt? He said, only women think about getting hurt, we just do it. He went on to make a broad statement that women live in fear, and men don't. I know that men fear things, they just don't voice it as much.

So IMA make a poll Interesting, and although I like the way Lou handled the question :clap: I'll take it a little more seriously. I don't think men "fear" in the true sense of the word. Things might happen or conditions might exist the make them fear something (losing means of supporting of family - that sort of thing) but rather, they might be more inclined when they find they come up short in the faculty of measuring up to those things they equate with being a man can be a crushing revelation. Men might just tend to pursue things that men do. It's when they find out they can't, or they didn't, or they lost the ability, that might be when a fear arises. Marginalization of manhood maybe.

[wayoverthehill]

This wasn't mentioned but I think some men fear losing their virility or sex drive. Many men equate sexual potency with "manliness".

This may be also why many men freak out when they start to lose their hair.

On a serious note, however, I think men fear not being able to take care of their families, i. e., paying the bills, etc.

Some good responses here.

[LouC]

I think men and women are pretty much the same with fearing the big palpable things.

Losing a job, paying the bills, feeding and clothing the family, losing a house, a failing marriage, their own kids having problems.

Men fear these things when they happen, but women, heck they are already worrying about these things before they ever begin dating... :whistle:

[LouC]

This wasn't mentioned but I think some men fear losing their virility or sex drive.

Not so much if the spouse has already lost hers.

I was not so lucky.

Many men equate sexual potency with "manliness".

Too true.

This may be also why many men freak out when they start to lose their hair.

I would go Yul on top before I would ever go Trump up there.

Luckily not now and hopefully never will that be a problem for me.

On a serious note, however, I think men fear not being able to take care of their families, i. e., paying the bills, etc.

The good men do, they may say they don't fear such things in shows of manly bravado but it is there in their mind.

Some good responses here.

Yeah, but so far I am the only one to pick that we, men and women, fear the same things on the OP Poll.

That surprises me?

[penner01]

I think men and women are pretty much the same with fearing the big palpable things.

Losing a job, paying the bills, feeding and clothing the family, losing a house, a failing marriage, their own kids having problems.

Men fear these things when they happen, but women, heck they are already worrying about these things before they ever begin dating... :whistle: :)) you're hoot, lou, but this was part of my point too. Men don't tend to dwell on something that could be a fear for them unless the prospect is looming. Like, when she starts worrying about those things while dating......he gets fearful that marriage is really really close. :)

[traditional_woman]

I think men and women are pretty much the same with fearing the big palpable things.

Losing a job, paying the bills, feeding and clothing the family, losing a house, a failing marriage, their own kids having problems.

Men fear these things when they happen, but women, heck they are already worrying about these things before they ever begin dating... :whistle:

So true LOU, we tend to worry about things that haven't even happened or probably will never happen. I am working on overcoming this flaw myself. I envy men (most) men in this dpt!

[StoneScratcher]

And people say Obama had no accomplishments...


They do, don't they. Boys don't fear his lack of experience. Men do.

Boys run around looking for Daddy to make the decisions and provide for them, just like the boys they are.

Men fear the outcome of those decisions.

Boys don't have courage because they haven't learned the value of fear (they run from it or remain, regressed as boys).

Men have courage, because in order to have courage, you must overcome your fears to face the challenges ahead.

~~~
As for fear, and men vs women. I think they fear the same things. I'm a woman and I fear the outcome of certain things, but I am not afraid to face my fears, with courage, for something worthy.

But there are girls too, that rely on others and define themselves as that-- "needy". :rolleyes:
~~~

I think the biggest FEAR for men and women is the fear of death. There are no tourist guides for this, so we'll all have to face it alone, and with courage, hopefully.

[penner01]

Luckily not now and hopefully never will that be a problem for me.

The good men do, they may say they don't fear such things in shows of manly bravado but it is there in their mind.
But the OP didn't ask what men think about, it asked what they fear. Certainly the good men do think about it .... many stew over it but unfortunately many don't feel the fear until the downside looms. Like jumping off the bridge and then noticing you didn't hook up to the bungie.

[traditional_woman]

This wasn't mentioned but I think some men fear losing their virility or sex drive. Many men equate sexual potency with "manliness".

This may be also why many men freak out when they start to lose their hair.

On a serious note, however, I think men fear not being able to take care of their families, i. e., paying the bills, etc.

Some good responses here.

I didn't even think of sex issues, good point.

[penner01]

They do, don't they. Boys don't fear his lack of experience. Men do.

Boys run around looking for Daddy to make the decisions and provide for them, just like the boys they are.

Men fear the outcome of those decisions.

Boys don't have courage because they haven't learned the value of fear (they run from it or remain, regressed as boys).

Men have courage, because in order to have courage, you must overcome your fears to face the challenges ahead.

~~~
As for fear, and men vs women. I think they fear the same things. I'm a woman and I fear the outcome of certain things, but I am not afraid to face my fears, with courage, for something worthy.
Very thoughtful post, Stone

[traditional_woman]

I fear waking up 'dead' for all intents or purposes. Being able enough to discuss my funeral plans with my Kids was a trip after this nearly happened just a couple of months shy of three years ago.

I hope all is well now! I hear those experiences are blessings in desguise.

[Sinister Rouge]

Things that I do fear...
My girlfriend has seizures once in a while. Maybe 3-4 times a year or so. She has them in her sleep, and only knows she's had one when she wakes up the next morning and her muscles are sore and her tongue is chewed up.
The most scared I can remember being was the one time I've seen her have one. We had talked about it before, so I knew what to expect, but it's still pretty terrifying to see.
When it happened, I just held onto her and spoke to her quietly and soothingly. She must have bit her tongue pretty hard because she started bleeding out of her mouth--that was pretty scary. The whole thing lasted for less than a minute, and she didn't even wake up. I wiped the blood off her face and held her for the rest of the night. I was almost too scared to go to sleep, but eventually I did.
I was never more relieved as I was when she woke up the next morning.


Like I said earlier, there are things that bother me, and I deal with them. But my girlfriend's seizures are the only thing that really scare me.

[penner01]

I can say in all honesty right now I do have a fear. Realistically looking at what government is doing, I am fearful of what it is going to be like to maintain in coming years. I'm fearful that all those things I thought I was doing to be a good provider are going to melt. And that drives more fears. I'm fearful for whether or not my kids are going to prepared for an America that might be monochrome and whether they will ever realize the economic wherewithall to have good lives or to care for their mother if we don't recover what's been lost in this economy. Yes, I'm fearful.

[Sinister Rouge]

I can say in all honesty right now I do have a fear. Realistically looking at what government is doing, I am fearful of what it is going to be like to maintain in coming years. I'm fearful that all those things I thought I was doing to be a good provider are going to melt. And that drives more fears. I'm fearful for whether or not my kids are going to prepared for an America that might be monochrome and whether they will ever realize the economic wherewithall to have good lives or to care for their mother if we don't recover what's been lost in this economy. Yes, I'm fearful.


I think this is about real fears, not paranoid rhetoric.

[ISYairio]

Roller coasters.

Going blind.

______________. other stuff

That is what this guy fears. >_>

[RickRhetoric]

Actually, the biggest secret fear American Anglo men have (although they don't talk about it), is going bald.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v660/challenged/spainjph.jpg

[penner01]

I think this is about real fears, not paranoid rhetoric. Well, it's about some humor too, but that's ok, I'll be happy to debase you in return first chance I get.

[LouC]

Roller coasters.

Going blind.

______________. other stuff

That is what this guy fears. >_>

I do fear going blind (no not for that reason) and I am hoping that with my next eye exam my left eye cataract will be considered "ripe" enough for removal since I am now probably legally blind in that eye. :cry:

[Samm]

I was watching the history channel with my other half and there was a piece about a newer version of the pogo stick. This pogo stick goes much higher than the original. The man demonstrating it helped make it. He was jumping really high, and he would jump onto buildings/ledges, then back onto the stick. It was cringeworthy watching, and i turned to hub and asked him why are men drawn to extreme sports/activities, don't they think about getting hurt? He said, only women think about getting hurt, we just do it. He went on to make a broad statement that women live in fear, and men don't. I know that men fear things, they just don't voice it as much.

So IMA make a poll

Men (and some women) do those things because they fear them. Fear produces adrenaline; adrenaline produces euphoria; adrenaline is addictive; adrenaline euphoria and addiction trumps fear.


What I fear most is my wife saying "I have been thinking..." ;)

[Seanachie]

Actually, the biggest secret fear American Anglo men have (although they don't talk about it), is going bald.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v660/challenged/spainjph.jpg

Hello Rick-R

On that balding stuff. It is what it is unless you're vain enough to get transplanted corn rows. I handled it this way when I used to Bartend in my Brother's rough and tumble Irish gin-mill joint on weekends:

The girls would always ask to rub my bald head for extra Irish luck. (Why they think Irish folks have such great luck is beyond my comprehension skills) So....finally... I got a wee bit tired of this ritual and used this solution to curtail the practice; "You can rub my bald head only if you smooth KY jelly on it 1st and slide down bare-ass"

Of course I only said this to those females who were really hot and not over weight. A crushed head instills great fear into anyone; especially if it is done by a Coyote Woman.

Now where did I put that darn KY jelly? << Scratching me bald head!

Be well Rick,

Jim

PS: Another great fear that men have and won't admit to is waking up next to that ever intrepid Coyote Woman laying across his arm. This, after picking her up the night before in his/her's or a combination of two drunken stupors. Thankfully, I've never been that drunk.....least I don't remember if I was. I don't think I would've allowed that to happen even when I was skunked outa me skull. Well.....maybe not.... Hmmmm...Nah...I still have my arms...so it can't possibly be so methinks.

PSS: Edited to add the following quote from the Urban Dictionary which describes what 'Coyote Ugly' is and my reference to a 'Coyote Woman' in my own version or descriptions. I deleted the link cause someone might find the website offensive.

"1. (http://coyote-ugly.urbanup.com/276987) coyote ugly 569 up (http://javascript%3Cb%3E%3C/b%3E:void%280%29), 29 down (http://javascript%3Cb%3E%3C/b%3E:void%280%29) http://static3.urbandictionary.com/images/thumbsup.gif?1255157229 (http://javascript%3Cb%3E%3C/b%3E:void%280%29) http://static2.urbandictionary.com/images/thumbsdown.gif?1255157229 (http://javascript%3Cb%3E%3C/b%3E:void%280%29)
A situation encountered after a night of consuming alcohol whereby a person, usually male, wakes the next morning in a strange bed with a sexual partner from the previous evening who is completely physically undesirable (see ugly, nasty, two bagger) and sleeping on the man's arm. The hapless male would rather gnaw off his own arm than wake the woman and have to face the ills of his intoxicated choices the previous evening. Originating from a phenomena whereby a coyote captured in a jaw trap will chew off its own leg to escape certain death.

Also a feature motion picture from producer Jerry Bruckheimer about a number of fairly attractive women who work in a city bar that features ruckus tease-like behavior. Film title is in reference to definition above and vague attempt by filmmakers to be hip".

[AmericanMuscle]

I saw a video of a man on O'Reilly who feared a mouse. He was a tough-guy lifting weights and all but he screamed like a little girly-man when the little fake mouse squeaked by!!!

[JediMindTrick]

I saw a video of a man on O'Reilly who feared a mouse. He was a tough-guy lifting weights and all but he screamed like a little girly-man when the little fake mouse squeaked by!!!

This one?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnxAF_bjYrA

[muhadeeb99]

I think the greatest fear is passing away without accomplishing a life long goal, however one wants to describe the goal. The reach comes short of the grasp.

[F9thRet]

I just don't get fear at all.

I mean really, what is there to be afraid of? Either you will live, or you will die.

My kids are all grown up, so even the thought of them being say Kidnapped or abused is long gone. Even then, It would not have been fear, but rage.

I guess I just don't understand it.

Stephen

[wayoverthehill]

Not so much if the spouse has already lost hers.

I was not so lucky.



Too true.



I would go Yul on top before I would ever go Trump up there.

Luckily not now and hopefully never will that be a problem for me.



The good men do, they may say they don't fear such things in shows of manly bravado but it is there in their mind.



Yeah, but so far I am the only one to pick that we, men and women, fear the same things on the OP Poll.

That surprises me?Yul Brynner exuded sex. I've seen him with hair and without and believe me, he made my heart go pitty-pat either way.

As for men and women fearing the same things - I would add that more women fear being alone. If men fear it, they don't usually say it but of all the women I know, the universal theme is they don't want to be alone and they are all looking for good men (which, apparently, are hard to find).

[wayoverthehill]

I think this is about real fears, not paranoid rhetoric.Here we are having an interesting and insightful discussion, and a fellow poster says what's on his mind, and you have to respond with a snotty comment. And you wonder why we don't like or trust libs.

Nice going.

[wayoverthehill]

I do fear going blind (no not for that reason) and I am hoping that with my next eye exam my left eye cataract will be considered "ripe" enough for removal since I am now probably legally blind in that eye. :cry:Cataract surgery isn't bad at all. And after you have it you'll have a bionic eye from the lens they will put in.

[camarozz]

Im a tower worker...

I fear the sudden stop at the bottom.

[MarkyS]

People, please. Fear and worry are not the same thing. I worry about a number of things at various levels and at various times, but I'm not afraid of them. I face them, and I'll bet you do too. What do you run away from??? That is probably what you are afraid of.

M

[Seanachie]

I hope all is well now! I hear those experiences are blessings in desguise.

Hello T_W,

Thanks for the 'hope'. All is fairly well so to speak. I don't know if the experience was a 'Blessing', disguised or not.....I have no memory of it. But the after-effects are indeed some sort of 'Blessing' as I've gained a whole new brighter outlook of what I value in this existence and my core beliefs of what comes after this existence.

Thanks again and be well,

Jim

[Seanachie]

I just don't get fear at all.

I mean really, what is there to be afraid of? Either you will live, or you will die.

My kids are all grown up, so even the thought of them being say Kidnapped or abused is long gone. Even then, It would not have been fear, but rage.

I guess I just don't understand it.

Stephen

Hello Stephen,

My Grandmother shared your sentiments with the admonishment and the adage she used to quell a kid's fear: "If you're born to be shot....you will never be hung. Don't be rushing things".

It took me many years to 'get' what she meant. I guess it's the 'what will be...will be'...thing.

I think your sentiments hammered the nail right smack on the head on this subject of 'fear'.

Be well,

Jim

[Gabby]

I guess women cannot vote in this pole. And if we don't vote we cannot see the results.

[StoneScratcher]

I think this is about real fears, not paranoid rhetoric.

Do you know what the difference is between being fearless and being brave?

Fearless is some idiot who jumps off a bridge and then celebrates only having a broken leg, and not his neck, after the fall.

Bravery is the guy who catches the idiot who jumps off the bridge, knowing full well he could break his neck doing so.

There will always be idiots. The problem is there are too few good men and women left to cover the asses of all the idiots out there who are also taking the time away from what really matters.

Bravery has been redefined--today, bravery is defined as standing up WITH OTHERS who are guaranteed to stand up with you. No one stands up alone in today's newly defined "brave".

TRUE BRAVERY is ONE person standing up with NO guarantees. From that ONE person standing up, others FOLLOW.

But, today, it's ass-backwards. NO ONE stands up alone for a VIRTUE. They stand up like a bunch of lemmings.

"You lie!" Joe Wilson. Now how cool was that?

In the chicken-world-of-today's-"brave", the "joe wilson" version would have a symbolic unity-emblem, (a button, a title, a shirt, a banner, a something to represent a mass of others). They'd stand up and say: "Yes, we can say you lie!"

[Tulsa]

The reason there aren't more brave people in the world to cover the idiots is the idiots tend to be sue happy and everyone just keeps to themselves with the "I'm not getting involved" attitude.

[curtis123]

I think the greatest fear is passing away without accomplishing a life long goal, however one wants to describe the goal. The reach comes short of the grasp.
Yeah, but it's the reaching for it that counts.

The greatest failure in life is being too afraid to reach. I can go to my grave knowing I gave it a good shot, but I would regret not taking the shot.

[LouC]

Cataract surgery isn't bad at all. And after you have it you'll have a bionic eye from the lens they will put in.

I still worry about macular degeneration, my eye doctors most reassuring words at my last exam were that there was no sign of that, but I still worry about it.

Once the left cataract gets a new lens then it will be the waiting game for the one in the right to get "ripe".

I know factually cataracts aren't the problem they were just 30 or 40 years ago and that there is great prognosis for eyes after the surgery and that the surgery is not that invasive but I still worry some.

I guess that is human.

[F9thRet]

Hello Stephen,

My Grandmother shared your sentiments with the admonishment and the adage she used to quell a kid's fear: "If you're born to be shot....you will never be hung. Don't be rushing things".

It took me many years to 'get' what she meant. I guess it's the 'what will be...will be'...thing.

I think your sentiments hammered the nail right smack on the head on this subject of 'fear'.

Be well,

Jim

Thanks Jim.

I'm going to have to borrow your grandmothers line there, as I love it.


Stephen

[Celtic Pax]

Yul Brynner exuded sex. I've seen him with hair and without and believe me, he made my heart go pitty-pat either way.

As for men and women fearing the same things - I would add that more women fear being alone. If men fear it, they don't usually say it but of all the women I know, the universal theme is they don't want to be alone and they are all looking for good men (which, apparently, are hard to find).Or at least looking for "good men" by their definitions. Some womens definition of a "good man" often reads like a girlfriend in male garb. :rolleyes:

[wayoverthehill]

Or at least looking for "good men" by their definitions. Some womens definition of a "good man" often reads like a girlfriend in male garb. :rolleyes:I think some of them define it as the guy having a steady job.

Anyway, I'm glad I'm not in the market. Too many new rules - LOL.

[wayoverthehill]

I still worry about macular degeneration, my eye doctors most reassuring words at my last exam were that there was no sign of that, but I still worry about it.

Once the left cataract gets a new lens then it will be the waiting game for the one in the right to get "ripe".

I know factually cataracts aren't the problem they were just 30 or 40 years ago and that there is great prognosis for eyes after the surgery and that the surgery is not that invasive but I still worry some.

I guess that is human.I developed a cataract in my left eye after having surgery for a detached retina. I was fortunate not to lose the sight in that eye due to the detachment. I have never developed a cataract in the other eye though.

My late father-in-law had macular degeneration. After he developed that, they couldn't travel at all b/c he couldn't drive the RV and my MIL couldn't either. Actually, she had no business even driving a car let alone a big RV, but I digress. Hopefully progress is being made to combat that very nasty disease.

[PhantomPholly]

I only worry about a government grown so arrogant, large, and corrupt that their oppressive "solutions" create a broken economy where honest men cannot support their families.

Well, it's here so I guess it's too late to bother being afraid...

[Rurudyne]

Possibly the definitive "man fear" was presented by a mural on a bathroom wall.

Over the urinals there life-like were portraits of women ... pointing and being amused (and not in a 'good' way to men's frail egos).

But aside from that I imagine that we have pretty much the same fears.

[Seanachie]

I guess women cannot vote in this pole. And if we don't vote we cannot see the results.

Hello Gabby,

Perhaps the OP can expound upon whether the voting on her poll is only open to men. The wording of the of Op Title doesn't make that at all clear in any event.

It might be very interesting to hear of 'mens' fears' through the eyes and vantage point of a woman; after all, men do at times convey their most intimate feelings to their Wives, Mates or someone of the opposite sex. I would imagine also that men will share those same views 'Mano-a-Mano' with someone they trust or, as in the case of the responses to this OP; anonymously.

Or perhaps: The Op can create another thread dealing with fear from the opposite point of view by men or women. She does well with these threads and I, for one at least, find them very interesting.

Just peanuts without any butter here; but perhaps food for thought no matter the content of the chosen vittles.

Be well Lady and all,

Jim

[stodr]

I fear my wife having to go to the door and seeing the Priest and the wing commander comming up the walk.

[CHUG]

Spiders, they really give me the heebie-jeebies.

[Samm]

Do you know what the difference is between being fearless and being brave?

Fearless is some idiot who jumps off a bridge and then celebrates only having a broken leg, and not his neck, after the fall.

Bravery is the guy who catches the idiot who jumps off the bridge, knowing full well he could break his neck doing so.

There will always be idiots. The problem is there are too few good men and women left to cover the asses of all the idiots out there who are also taking the time away from what really matters.

Bravery has been redefined--today, bravery is defined as standing up WITH OTHERS who are guaranteed to stand up with you. No one stands up alone in today's newly defined "brave".

TRUE BRAVERY is ONE person standing up with NO guarantees. From that ONE person standing up, others FOLLOW.

But, today, it's ass-backwards. NO ONE stands up alone for a VIRTUE. They stand up like a bunch of lemmings.

"You lie!" Joe Wilson. Now how cool was that?

In the chicken-world-of-today's-"brave", the "joe wilson" version would have a symbolic unity-emblem, (a button, a title, a shirt, a banner, a something to represent a mass of others). They'd stand up and say: "Yes, we can say you lie!"

You are correct... bravery is doing the right thing in spite of your fear and own self interests.

[Samm]

Possibly the definitive "man fear" was presented by a mural on a bathroom wall.

Over the urinals there life-like were portraits of women ... pointing and being amused (and not in a 'good' way to men's frail egos).

But aside from that I imagine that we have pretty much the same fears.

Clearly the owner of the establishment was a woman... ;)

[stodr]

Spiders, they really give me the heebie-jeebies.

That was a good line in the movie

[Rurudyne]

Spiders, they really give me the heebie-jeebies.
My brother is the same way.

Me, when it comes to hopping spiders I actually think they are cute.

Mind you, web builders can die a thousand squishes as far as I'm concerned ... but I live near a lake so you can chalk that up to sheer frustration.

[Koushi Shinigami]

A wife with a predatory divorce attorney.

[agent_86]

I feer not fulfilling my responsibilities. I feer not preparing my kids to be productive people. I fear not telling those I love how much I do every day.

[Samm]

A wife with a predatory divorce attorney.

Predatory divorce attorney is redundant.

[Koushi Shinigami]

Predatory divorce attorney is redundant.

Yes. And a highly accurate description.

[Beccaria]

Serious fear: Standing before God on Judgment day and finding out I wasted my life.

Everything else is minor at best.

[Samm]

Serious fear: Standing before God on Judgment day and finding out I wasted my life.

Everything else is minor at best.

Why do you have to stand before God to know that you wasted your life? Seems like that is something you ought to be able to figure out for yourself.

Follow the rules; you have nothing to fear. Isn't that how it is supposed to work? Fear of judgement day if you screw up keeps you in line so that you don't need to fear judgement day?