I'm a dumbass

[Remus Lupin]

Why I call myself that? Here is why:

The friend I was telling you about that were dating and later decided to remain best friends.
Well last night, me and her as well as her two friends decided to go to a bar in the arena district and me since I don't drink, be the one to drive them home afterwords
The other guy had his ID expired and so he couldn't get in most of the bars. We were able to get into one bar where my friends were getting drunk and me getting a caffiene high from drinking 10-15 glasses of Pepsi.
We decided to leave and go somewhere else. We went to this bar and of course the barman wouldn't allow the guy in since his ID wasn't up to date. The two girls including my so-called friend told us they needed to use the restroom and I decided to stay out so the other guy wouldn't be by himself. We stayed outside for 25 minutes wondering what was going on. I went in to see what was up, only to see the two woman hanging out with the guys flirting with a few other guys.
I was needless to say ****ed off. I even told both of them what I thought about that when they finaly left. My best friend even had the galls to say this: "This is why I shouldn't of invited you along because this is how we act when we are drunk". I ask her if being a drunk is an excuse for lying to us? She told me yes.
Even the guy with the expired ID was pretty upset about it.
We were planning on becoming roommates but after this and the fact that she also hide the fact she was still in love with her her ex-bfriend now her current bfriend when we were currently dating, that will proberly never happen.
What happen was she never mentioned him. She said the reason why she hid it is the fact she was still in love with him. Maybe it is none of my bussiness, but I felt if she still had feelings for her ex, at least be honest about it and not try to hide it. I would of been completely understanding of it if she'd told me.
I'm a dumbass for either making too much of a big deal or the fact I actually trusted her as my best friend.

[The Girl from Ipanema]

Wait. She did all of that and YOU'RE the dumbass? For what? For taking someone at face value?

I don't think you're the dumbass here.

[Remus Lupin]

Wait. She did all of that and YOU'RE the dumbass? For what? For taking someone at face value?

I don't think you're the dumbass here.

For trusting her and thinking we would be best friends and roommates after
the first time she decieved me, the name "dumbass" fits well for me.
I don't give a damn about the fact she flirts with different men even though she
already has a bfriend. That's none of my bussiness.
But how can someone be a good friend if he/she is going to be this decietful.
If she and her friend would of came out and told me and the no ID guy, they wanted to stay and ask if me and him could do something else, I would of been cool about it.
Being drunk isn't an excuse.

[The Bos'un]

Remus,

Chalk it up as a learning experience in the degradation of America. Think we should get back to the basics, AND, pick better friends. I would say Sayonara and bid adieu to some not worth the friendship.

Just look at The Breck Girl Edwards. He is one snake in the grass. Lucky we caught on to his poor morals, values, and ethics early in the 2008 campaign....

[The Bos'un]

we need to maintain high standards not try to make excuses for those who do not meet ours. I have much respect for you Remus. ;)

[StoneScratcher]

My suggestion:

Go to the grocery store and buy some food for the week. Take time, read the labels on ALL foods to see if hydrogenated oils or fats (even partially) is listed, or the word "shortening" is used.

Buy only FOODS that do NOT have those ingredients listed.

Go home, read all the food labels in your cupboards, in your fridge, pantry, and toss out ALL foods with the words "hydrogenated", "partially hydrogenated", "shortening" listed in the ingredients.

EAT only GOOD foods with GOOD fats in them. (Your brain needs good fats to run properly). Eat fruits, veggies, nuts, good stuff--as little or no PROCESSED foods as possible. Eat NOTHING with those ingredients listed (above).

In about two weeks, you won't think you're a dumb ass anymore.

You'll have clarity. (This nation "sees" and "thinks" through clogged up brain tissue, as well as sludged up heart tissue.)

[Remus Lupin]

Remus,

Chalk it up as a learning experience in the degradation of America. Think we should get back to the basics, AND, pick better friends. I would say Sayonara and bid adieu to some not worth the friendship.

Just look at The Breck Girl Edwards. He is one snake in the grass. Lucky we caught on to his poor morals, values, and ethics early in the 2008 campaign....

Exactly!

[Stardust]

Practically everyone told you, you were moving way too fast with this girl, particularly asking her to live with you only after you dated her 2-3 times. And I knew there was something amiss with her to accept moving in also.

I would say move on. DON’T move in with her. (You will have more of the same you experienced at this bar.)

Chalk this one up to experience. When the right girl comes along you will know it. I believe, pain, many times, is God's way of telling us "to get out of a situation". You experienced a few days of pain with this girl, it could have been a lifetime.

[Apatriot]

I'm a dumbass for either making too much of a big deal or the fact I actually trusted her as my best friend.

You live and learn. Don't obsess too much over it. It's probably for the best that this happened fairly early on. Not all women are like that.

[Remus Lupin]

Practically everyone told you, you were moving way too fast with this girl, particularly asking her to live with you only after you dated her 2-3 times. And I knew there was something amiss with her to accept moving in also.

I would say move on. DON’T move in with her. (You will have more of the same you experienced at this bar.)

Chalk this one up to experience.

We decided to REMAIN best friends. Right now, I have move out of my old place in Oct
due to my current roommate moving back to help her parents.
Me and my friend were just going to be roommates, since we know know each other a bit and better than sharing a place with a stranger.
But I do not think she know what honesty really is.

[Stardust]

We decided to REMAIN best friends. Right now, I have move out of my old place in Oct
due to my current roommate moving back to help her parents.
Me and my friend were just going to be roommates, since we know know each other a bit and better than sharing a place with a stranger.
But I do not think she know what honesty really is.

Wow, I am glad I don't have a "best friend" who lied to me and hurt my feelings. It occurred to me also this girl may just be using you to get back at her boyfriend. I can just hear your thoughts "Oh, no, she wouldn't do that".

It sounds to me you are unwilling to let this situation go. When you have had enough pain you will though.

[StoneScratcher]

We decided to REMAIN best friends. Right now, I have move out of my old place in Oct
due to my current roommate moving back to help her parents.
Me and my friend were just going to be roommates, since we know know each other a bit and better than sharing a place with a stranger.
But I do not think she know what honesty really is.

:rolleyes:

See you on Jerry Springer. Grow up and walk away. And there is no such thing as "best" when it comes to friends, imo.

Some of the advice I've seen written to you would cause me to say you have more good people here than you have listed in your soon-to-be-signed lease.

And, of course, your "best" friend won't be on that lease, will she? I mean, how could you (gasp) ask a "best friend" to put their name on a lease? You want to PROVE how "good" a friend you are (the "best" even) to this "best friend", so why ask her for her name to be listed? She might think you're not her "best friend". :rolleyes:

[notluzn]

Move on... Friends come and go.

[RTchoke]

The only thing that makes you a dumbass IMHO, is the fact you still count this person as a friend. My friends don't treat me that way. I don't treat my friends that way. You are enabling her behavior by continuing to keep her around. You're letting her know it's OK to treat you like crap because hey, you like having her around do there is no accountability for her. :eh:

You are her puppet. You are around to take care of things, such as driving her and her friends around so they can party and ignore you all night and have no qualms about it because guess what? She doesn't care if she treats you this way.

[Remus Lupin]

The only thing that makes you a dumbass IMHO, is the fact you still count this person as a friend. My friends don't treat me that way. I don't treat my friends that way. You are enabling her behavior by continuing to keep her around. You're letting her know it's OK to treat you like crap because hey, you like having her around do there is no accountability for her. :eh:

You are her puppet. You are around to take care of things, such as driving her and her friends around so they can party and ignore you all night and have no qualms about it because guess what? She doesn't care if she treats you this way.

I forgot to say this part:
As far me being friends and respecting her: NOT NO MORE!

[The Bos'un]

Jerry Springer Show has good examples of dysfunctional relationships with all the drama.

[DLaw911]

[quote=Remus Lupin;59356991]For trusting her and thinking we would be best friends and roommates after the first time she decieved me, the name "dumbass" fits well for me...[snipped][quote]I'm confident the same thing has happened to everyone here. That's one of the downsides of dating. You tend to meet the "right person" by luck and then you can laugh about all the jerks you met along the way.

My best friend once fell head over heals for a girl he barely knew. She lived 40 miles from his home. They arranged for a date to see a movie. He drove down to pick her up. He knocked on the door and she opened it, clearly not dressed to go out. And she said, "Oh, you're here." He said, "What about the movie?" and her response was, "I only date jocks, you're not one, and I was just testing my resistance." And she slammed the door. Glad my friend did not have a cell phone back then!

[Stardust]

My best friend once fell head over heals for a girl he barely knew. She lived 40 miles from his home. They arranged for a date to see a movie. He drove down to pick her up. He knocked on the door and she opened it, clearly not dressed to go out. And she said, "Oh, you're here." He said, "What about the movie?" and her response was, "I only date jocks, you're not one, and I was just testing my resistance." And she slammed the door. Glad my friend did not have a cell phone back then!

I don't get the "just testing my resistance"? Huh? What is that supposed to mean? Obviously she was off the wall to begin with.

Men are just as hurtful. I know a lady I work with who set up a blind date with a guy. He came up to her door to take her out, took one look at her, said "you're fat", slammed the door, and walked away.

[VCaddy05]

Look man, the roommate idea is not the best! especially when you hope for it to turn into something else. You cant expect for a girl to continue to be a good friend like that when shes out looking for a relationship. She will be drawn away from you as each day passes, even if she likes you and has fun with you. Its happened to me a million times, when I am friends with girls and go out alot, but we are drawn apart more and more and doesnt last. I still see them here and there but its never the same. You need to just expect for her to go on her way and if you like her enjoy the times you have with her.

[VCaddy05]

I forgot to say this part:
As far me being friends and respecting her: NOT NO MORE!

dont hate her for it, just learn from your experience and know that this is not someone who you can count on.

[Vaard]

you are only a dumbass if you keep thinking this girl is your "best friend".......

i wouldnt say to completely cut off all communication with her and give her the cold shoulder, but treat her as a friend you know you cant trust once she starts drinking........


you are only a dumbass if you think this "friendship" will develop into anything more than that........

[mysticbeauty_nbeast]

Why I call myself that? Here is why:

The friend I was telling you about that were dating and later decided to remain best friends.
Well last night, me and her as well as her two friends decided to go to a bar in the arena district and me since I don't drink, be the one to drive them home afterwords
The other guy had his ID expired and so he couldn't get in most of the bars. We were able to get into one bar where my friends were getting drunk and me getting a caffiene high from drinking 10-15 glasses of Pepsi.
We decided to leave and go somewhere else. We went to this bar and of course the barman wouldn't allow the guy in since his ID wasn't up to date. The two girls including my so-called friend told us they needed to use the restroom and I decided to stay out so the other guy wouldn't be by himself. We stayed outside for 25 minutes wondering what was going on. I went in to see what was up, only to see the two woman hanging out with the guys flirting with a few other guys.
I was needless to say ****ed off. I even told both of them what I thought about that when they finaly left. My best friend even had the galls to say this: "This is why I shouldn't of invited you along because this is how we act when we are drunk". I ask her if being a drunk is an excuse for lying to us? She told me yes.
Even the guy with the expired ID was pretty upset about it.
We were planning on becoming roommates but after this and the fact that she also hide the fact she was still in love with her her ex-bfriend now her current bfriend when we were currently dating, that will proberly never happen.
What happen was she never mentioned him. She said the reason why she hid it is the fact she was still in love with him. Maybe it is none of my bussiness, but I felt if she still had feelings for her ex, at least be honest about it and not try to hide it. I would of been completely understanding of it if she'd told me.
I'm a dumbass for either making too much of a big deal or the fact I actually trusted her as my best friend.

Remus...oh dear heart...I know this whole foray into dating is like making your way in the dark...but the light will come..I promise. With some time, some experience and some trust in yourself...your gonna be just fine. And...No..your not a dumbass...your young and sweet..there's a difference.

Now this gal...this friend...this person you mention in your post. .....she's a 'User'. That's right...USER. Get away from her ASAP. She's no good man...trust me on this one...she's gonna keep on using until there's no one left to use. I'm confident you can find someone else to be a room mate with..right? Cut the ties...wipe the slate clean...move on...live and learn. ;)

~Mysty

[birddog1]

Unless you are going to become a monk get used to it, she will not be the last lying woman in your life. You will likely find many more before you stumble across the right one. Just keep up your standards and don't give up.

[Dr. Funkenstein]

Why I call myself that? Here is why:

The friend I was telling you about that were dating and later decided to remain best friends.
Well last night, me and her as well as her two friends decided to go to a bar in the arena district and me since I don't drink, be the one to drive them home afterwords
The other guy had his ID expired and so he couldn't get in most of the bars. We were able to get into one bar where my friends were getting drunk and me getting a caffiene high from drinking 10-15 glasses of Pepsi.
We decided to leave and go somewhere else. We went to this bar and of course the barman wouldn't allow the guy in since his ID wasn't up to date. The two girls including my so-called friend told us they needed to use the restroom and I decided to stay out so the other guy wouldn't be by himself. We stayed outside for 25 minutes wondering what was going on. I went in to see what was up, only to see the two woman hanging out with the guys flirting with a few other guys.
I was needless to say ****ed off. I even told both of them what I thought about that when they finaly left. My best friend even had the galls to say this: "This is why I shouldn't of invited you along because this is how we act when we are drunk". I ask her if being a drunk is an excuse for lying to us? She told me yes.
Even the guy with the expired ID was pretty upset about it.
We were planning on becoming roommates but after this and the fact that she also hide the fact she was still in love with her her ex-bfriend now her current bfriend when we were currently dating, that will proberly never happen.
What happen was she never mentioned him. She said the reason why she hid it is the fact she was still in love with him. Maybe it is none of my bussiness, but I felt if she still had feelings for her ex, at least be honest about it and not try to hide it. I would of been completely understanding of it if she'd told me.
I'm a dumbass for either making too much of a big deal or the fact I actually trusted her as my best friend.
Two things...

1. Thread title- You said it, I didn't ;)

2. Caffeine high from 10-15 glasses of Pepsi? :hand: Lightweight.

[JimGP20]

This is a difficult situation. What I know from my own life experience in dealing with friends, is this: There are two versions of each friend.... there is the version of them as I see them, and there is the version of them as they really are. The thing is, that the more I cared about a person, the greater the desire and effort I would put forth to convince myself that the real them was the version in my head. Most people can't live up to that. I'm not saying that Remus did anything wrong here, I'm just saying that, just perhaps, his image of this person was a better version of her than she could ever be, so when she did something that was true to herself, it shattered the image that was never real to begin with.

[Alaric]

Lets see if I've got this straight: She drinks and you do not drink. And that doesn't raise any red flags about your potential relationship right there?

If it does not raise a red flag then you are a dumbass.

If it does raise a red flag, but you ignored it, then maybe you are not really a dumbass, just a hormone driven fool in the school of hard knoncks. That not meant in a derogatory way, its something that is true of a sizable portion of the male population of most species on this planet for at least some time during their life - and you are going through one of life's uncomfortable rites of passage; lesson learned, so much the wiser next time around. Remember that wisdom is that thing which is usually acquired only after you should have exercised it.

You don't pick peaches from tumbleweeds. The woman you will find in a bar is either the woman who is looking for the kind of man she will find in a bar or a woman who isn't smart enough to look elsewhere. If that is what you want then keep looking for your soul mate in bars. Otherwise, look in the places where you will find the kind of woman you want. And ask yourself, what kind of a man will the kind of woman you want be looking for. Then be, do, and go where that kind of a man will be.

[VCaddy05]

you are only a dumbass if you keep thinking this girl is your "best friend".......

i wouldnt say to completely cut off all communication with her and give her the cold shoulder, but treat her as a friend you know you cant trust once she starts drinking........


you are only a dumbass if you think this "friendship" will develop into anything more than that........

+1 just dont let your emotions take you one way or the other, relax and things will work them selves out. Youll see things more clearly the more you experience them

[Samm]

What's the issue here? As I see it you all are just kids trying to pretend you are mature adults when you all still need to do a lot of growing up.

Get over it; count yourself lucky; get on with your life. You undoubtedly will be burned many more times before you catch on. Consider it "initiation."

Good luck.

[USAF Medic]

Remus,

After reading all this all I can say is Phew...thank GOD I'm married and not in the dating market anylonger.

[USAF Medic]

And I agree with most others here in that you're not the dumbass in this situation.

[BrittleBullet]

Why I call myself that? Here is why:

The friend I was telling you about that were dating and later decided to remain best friends.
Well last night, me and her as well as her two friends decided to go to a bar in the arena district and me since I don't drink, be the one to drive them home afterwords
The other guy had his ID expired and so he couldn't get in most of the bars. We were able to get into one bar where my friends were getting drunk and me getting a caffiene high from drinking 10-15 glasses of Pepsi.
We decided to leave and go somewhere else. We went to this bar and of course the barman wouldn't allow the guy in since his ID wasn't up to date. The two girls including my so-called friend told us they needed to use the restroom and I decided to stay out so the other guy wouldn't be by himself. We stayed outside for 25 minutes wondering what was going on. I went in to see what was up, only to see the two woman hanging out with the guys flirting with a few other guys.
I was needless to say ****ed off. I even told both of them what I thought about that when they finaly left. My best friend even had the galls to say this: "This is why I shouldn't of invited you along because this is how we act when we are drunk". I ask her if being a drunk is an excuse for lying to us? She told me yes.
Even the guy with the expired ID was pretty upset about it.
We were planning on becoming roommates but after this and the fact that she also hide the fact she was still in love with her her ex-bfriend now her current bfriend when we were currently dating, that will proberly never happen.
What happen was she never mentioned him. She said the reason why she hid it is the fact she was still in love with him. Maybe it is none of my bussiness, but I felt if she still had feelings for her ex, at least be honest about it and not try to hide it. I would of been completely understanding of it if she'd told me.
I'm a dumbass for either making too much of a big deal or the fact I actually trusted her as my best friend.

I couldn't see this being that big of a deal unless you still had feelings for her.
The moral of the story: Don't be "best friends" with a female if you have romantic feelings for her.

[angelicmadrigal]

Ouch, not a very good friend if you ask me.

[FidelisAdMortem]

Remus, you should of took my advice instead of listening to these keyboard goody goodies on here.

Pump and dump, brother.

[thr3]

Look: here is the problem. You do not drink. No relationship is ever going to last if one drinks and the other does not.

So, get drunk, and enjoy it.

Or, don't, get reading the books, and get a highly paid job.

Up to you!

Or get drunk, be a frigging genius and get a highy paid job, and have the best of both worlds!

[Ninjacorpse]

Given time, when you look back at this, I am sure you will realize how little it and her really matter. You will learn from this and any future let downs and become a better person for it. If she turns up in a few days sucking up do not fall for her crap, you are already onto it and if you let your guard down then you are too blame. That saying comes to mind, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. ;)

[Tulsa]

Always look for the silver lining. In this case, you're not out any money and you learned a great lesson at the same time. Usually these lessons don't come this cheap, consider yourself lucky and move on. Better things always await you.

[thr3]

Given time, when you look back at this, I am sure you will realize how little it and her really matter. You will learn from this and any future let downs and become a better person for it. If she turns up in a few days sucking up do not fall for her crap, you are already onto it and if you let your guard down then you are too blame. That saying comes to mind, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. ;)


Yes, Yes. Whatb this man said.

[DLaw911]

Remus, you should of took my advice instead of listening to these keyboard goody goodies on here.

Pump and dump, brother.As much as I want to disagree .... well I can't! :)

[DLaw911]

dont hate her for it, just learn from your experience and know that this is not someone who you can count on.His talking about it is a good thing. Better than wanting to get even. The heck with her. There are a zillion ladies out there who would be a perfect date and match for Remus.

[toeknee]

you need to call the Cheaters Show
http://www.cheaters.com/

[CaptainPike]

Remus,

How could you be "best friends" with a person you've only known for a short time?

The whole "friends" thing is a scam.

It sucks now because you've been had, but later in life the only real regret you'll have when you think back on all this...

Well, you'll know it when it comes to you. Girls like that are only good for one thing.

[sgdp]

I agree with Captain Pike.

My best friend I've been friends with for going on 13 years. If anything like that ever happened, we'd talk it over and it'd be nothing. But I wouldn't put up with that in a new friend.

[sgtmac_46]

For trusting her and thinking we would be best friends and roommates after
the first time she decieved me, the name "dumbass" fits well for me.
I don't give a damn about the fact she flirts with different men even though she
already has a bfriend. That's none of my bussiness.
But how can someone be a good friend if he/she is going to be this decietful.
If she and her friend would of came out and told me and the no ID guy, they wanted to stay and ask if me and him could do something else, I would of been cool about it.
Being drunk isn't an excuse.

I saw this coming.

Here's a hint, Remus..........in order for you to find a woman of value, you must FIRST consider yourself valuable enough not to settle for whatever crumbs some broad looking for a fallback crutch decides to throw your way...........if you don't consider yourself and your time valuable, how do you expect some girl to?

This girl used you for a place to crash and transportation..........don't let that happen again.

[sgtmac_46]

you are only a dumbass if you keep thinking this girl is your "best friend".......

i wouldnt say to completely cut off all communication with her and give her the cold shoulder, but treat her as a friend you know you cant trust once she starts drinking........


you are only a dumbass if you think this "friendship" will develop into anything more than that........

I would say that...........burn her number and forget you know her.

[sgtmac_46]

I couldn't see this being that big of a deal unless you still had feelings for her.
The moral of the story: Don't be "best friends" with a female if you have romantic feelings for her.

DING, DING, DING! Exactly!

[sgtmac_46]

Remus, you should of took my advice instead of listening to these keyboard goody goodies on here.

Pump and dump, brother.

That's what the guy she was hitting on at the bar probably did........and that's the moral to the story if there is a moral to the story. ;)

[sgtmac_46]

His talking about it is a good thing. Better than wanting to get even. The heck with her. There are a zillion ladies out there who would be a perfect date and match for Remus.

Yeah, but the bad part is that a lot of guys (and gals) are like puppies.........the harder you kick them, the faster they come crawling back trying to please.

Remus' problem is he doesn't value himself........guys like that start thinking it's a fluke when some gal shows interest in them, and become desperate to hold on lest she realize her mistake..........which, ironically, is why the 'Pump and Dump' is the sure fire way to relationship happiness.........nothing like a couple of one night stands to boost the male confidence. :))

[sgtmac_46]

Men are just as hurtful. I know a lady I work with who set up a blind date with a guy. He came up to her door to take her out, took one look at her, said "you're fat", slammed the door, and walked away. That ain't right..........I went home with a fat girl once a bunch of times.

[FidelisAdMortem]

That ain't right..........I went home with a fat girl once a bunch of times.

Yea who cares if she has some meat. If shes cute, alittle alcohol, hit it, then never call again, no biggie.

[CaptainPike]

I saw this coming.

Here's a hint, Remus..........in order for you to find a woman of value, you must FIRST consider yourself valuable enough not to settle for whatever crumbs some broad looking for a fallback crutch decides to through your way...........if you don't consider yourself and your time valuable, how do you expect some girl to?

This girl used you for a place to crash and transportation..........don't let that happen again.

I agree. Remus should set his standards and stick to them. Don't settle for anything less.

I will admit.. it's easier to set standards and see that they are met after being burned a few times.

[DRS]

Why I call myself that? Here is why:

The friend I was telling you about that were dating and later decided to remain best friends.
Well last night, me and her as well as her two friends decided to go to a bar in the arena district and me since I don't drink, be the one to drive them home afterwords
The other guy had his ID expired and so he couldn't get in most of the bars. We were able to get into one bar where my friends were getting drunk and me getting a caffiene high from drinking 10-15 glasses of Pepsi.
We decided to leave and go somewhere else. We went to this bar and of course the barman wouldn't allow the guy in since his ID wasn't up to date. The two girls including my so-called friend told us they needed to use the restroom and I decided to stay out so the other guy wouldn't be by himself. We stayed outside for 25 minutes wondering what was going on. I went in to see what was up, only to see the two woman hanging out with the guys flirting with a few other guys.
I was needless to say ****ed off. I even told both of them what I thought about that when they finaly left. My best friend even had the galls to say this: "This is why I shouldn't of invited you along because this is how we act when we are drunk". I ask her if being a drunk is an excuse for lying to us? She told me yes.
Even the guy with the expired ID was pretty upset about it.
We were planning on becoming roommates but after this and the fact that she also hide the fact she was still in love with her her ex-bfriend now her current bfriend when we were currently dating, that will proberly never happen.
What happen was she never mentioned him. She said the reason why she hid it is the fact she was still in love with him. Maybe it is none of my bussiness, but I felt if she still had feelings for her ex, at least be honest about it and not try to hide it. I would of been completely understanding of it if she'd told me.
I'm a dumbass for either making too much of a big deal or the fact I actually trusted her as my best friend.

Dude we live we love we learn

Treat people the way you want to be treated, and ignore the ones who do not respond

[sgtmac_46]

I agree. Remus should set his standards and stick to them. Don't settle for anything less.

I will admit.. it's easier to set standards and see that they are met after being burned a few times.

Yep.......Live and learn.

[curtis123]

Why I call myself that? Here is why:

The friend I was telling you about that were dating and later decided to remain best friends.
Well last night, me and her as well as her two friends decided to go to a bar in the arena district and me since I don't drink, be the one to drive them home afterwords
The other guy had his ID expired and so he couldn't get in most of the bars. We were able to get into one bar where my friends were getting drunk and me getting a caffiene high from drinking 10-15 glasses of Pepsi.
We decided to leave and go somewhere else. We went to this bar and of course the barman wouldn't allow the guy in since his ID wasn't up to date. The two girls including my so-called friend told us they needed to use the restroom and I decided to stay out so the other guy wouldn't be by himself. We stayed outside for 25 minutes wondering what was going on. I went in to see what was up, only to see the two woman hanging out with the guys flirting with a few other guys.
I was needless to say ****ed off. I even told both of them what I thought about that when they finaly left. My best friend even had the galls to say this: "This is why I shouldn't of invited you along because this is how we act when we are drunk". I ask her if being a drunk is an excuse for lying to us? She told me yes.
Even the guy with the expired ID was pretty upset about it.
We were planning on becoming roommates but after this and the fact that she also hide the fact she was still in love with her her ex-bfriend now her current bfriend when we were currently dating, that will proberly never happen.
What happen was she never mentioned him. She said the reason why she hid it is the fact she was still in love with him. Maybe it is none of my bussiness, but I felt if she still had feelings for her ex, at least be honest about it and not try to hide it. I would of been completely understanding of it if she'd told me.
I'm a dumbass for either making too much of a big deal or the fact I actually trusted her as my best friend.

You got burned.

Welcome to the club.

Shake it off and move on.

[FidelisAdMortem]

He doesn't have to stay away from that type of girl. He just needs to realize the different caliber of female that is out there and date accordingly. The shallow ones, he needs to liquor up and have fun with. The nice ones, date, see where it goes. Just realize the kind of girl you're around and treat them the way they like to be threated, either beat it up or date it up, whatever works.

[sgtmac_46]

He doesn't have to stay away from that type of girl. He just needs to realize the different caliber of female that is out there and date accordingly. The shallow ones, he needs to liquor up and have fun with. The nice ones, date, see where it goes. Just realize the kind of girl you're around and treat them the way they like to be threated, either beat it up or date it up, whatever works.

Exactly! The kind of girl he had here? Pump and dump! She's used to it, and probably prefers it.

In fact that was probably his mistake.....if he'd jumped right on and booted her out the door the next morning, they'd be picking out their china pattern right now. ;)

[FidelisAdMortem]

Exactly, along the same lines of a female who dates a badboy thinking shes gonna change him, or a guy who dates a hoodrat and thinks hes gonna make her a housewife.

[sgtmac_46]

Exactly, along the same lines of a female who dates a badboy thinking shes gonna change him, or a guy who dates a hoodrat and thinks hes gonna make her a housewife.

You ain't turning no hoodrat in to a housewife. Any man who thinks he is, is likely to come home on his lunch break to discover that the kids are with the neighbors, and his wife is smoking crack cocaine and taking on all his best friends at one time.

[FidelisAdMortem]

LOL.......woRd uP!

[angelicmadrigal]

You ain't turning no hoodrat in to a housewife. Any man who thinks he is, is likely to come home on his lunch break to discover that the kids are with the neighbors, and his wife is smoking crack cocaine and taking on all his best friends at one time.

Hope that's not from personal experience.

[sgtmac_46]

Hope that's not from personal experience.

I would never do such a thing with a buddies wife.

[CaptainPike]

Exactly! The kind of girl he had here? Pump and dump! She's used to it, and probably prefers it.

In fact that was probably his mistake.....if he'd jumped right on and booted her out the door the next morning, they'd be picking out their china pattern right now. ;)

He may not be able to do that now. He's probly still thinking that it was somehow his own fault because he forgot to open a door for her or push in her stool :lol:

After he gains a little more dating experience it will become a lot easier for him to judge a woman's character and treat her accordingly.

[mboncher]

Why I call myself that? Here is why:

The friend I was telling you about that were dating and later decided to remain best friends.
Well last night, me and her as well as her two friends decided to go to a bar in the arena district and me since I don't drink, be the one to drive them home afterwords
The other guy had his ID expired and so he couldn't get in most of the bars. We were able to get into one bar where my friends were getting drunk and me getting a caffiene high from drinking 10-15 glasses of Pepsi.
We decided to leave and go somewhere else. We went to this bar and of course the barman wouldn't allow the guy in since his ID wasn't up to date. The two girls including my so-called friend told us they needed to use the restroom and I decided to stay out so the other guy wouldn't be by himself. We stayed outside for 25 minutes wondering what was going on. I went in to see what was up, only to see the two woman hanging out with the guys flirting with a few other guys.
I was needless to say ****ed off. I even told both of them what I thought about that when they finaly left. My best friend even had the galls to say this: "This is why I shouldn't of invited you along because this is how we act when we are drunk". I ask her if being a drunk is an excuse for lying to us? She told me yes.
Even the guy with the expired ID was pretty upset about it.
We were planning on becoming roommates but after this and the fact that she also hide the fact she was still in love with her her ex-bfriend now her current bfriend when we were currently dating, that will proberly never happen.
What happen was she never mentioned him. She said the reason why she hid it is the fact she was still in love with him. Maybe it is none of my bussiness, but I felt if she still had feelings for her ex, at least be honest about it and not try to hide it. I would of been completely understanding of it if she'd told me.
I'm a dumbass for either making too much of a big deal or the fact I actually trusted her as my best friend.
Yer not the dumbass Remus. Trust me man. And hey! You learned this before she gave you a social disease.

[FidelisAdMortem]

I would never do such a thing with a buddies wife.

You forgot to add "when sober" at the end.

LOL

;-)

[sgtmac_46]

He may not be able to do that now. He's probly still thinking that it was somehow his own fault because he forgot to open a door for her or push in her stool :lol:

After he gains a little more dating experience it will become a lot easier for him to judge a woman's character and treat her accordingly.

That's spot on!

[sgtmac_46]

You forgot to add "when sober" at the end.

LOL

;-)

Well, above .150 it's not cheating...........

[FidelisAdMortem]

True that.

[grbennett]

I would never date a girl who wants to go to an Arena District bar. I hope you didn't have the misfortune of stepping into Brothers or Gaswerks.

[angelicmadrigal]

I would never date a girl who wants to go to an Arena District bar. I hope you didn't have the misfortune of stepping into Brothers or Gaswerks.

::chuckles:: too bad Outlands isn't still around,they could go there.