Need major advice regarding going out with a woman

[Remus Lupin]

I'm going out with a woman Friday night showing me around Columbus. She is around my age and works at the same store I'm at (in a different dept though).
I see it as a friendship for now. I'm not expecting too much. She seems real nice and
down to earth.

One issue is dealing with the gossip at work since I'm going out with a co-worker.
I did something real dumb and told one of the guys in meat (where I work) that she is going to show me around town. Now he is going around telling a few folks at work
"I'm dating Jane Doe in the domestics dept". I'm not upset with him mainly because I was the one who opened my beak.

Another one is I didn't ask her if she was single or not. I remember us in the breakroom talking about me being new to Columbus and still don't know much of the city. She told me she wish she would show me around but she didn't have a car right now.
I told I have a car and we can go somewhere to sight see and she said sure. We are doing something Friday what exactly don't know.

Another issue is me being asperger I tend to say things that are kinda off the wall. Plus I a bit of a oddball. You think I should let her know I have AS (I don't keep my disorder a secret anyway)?

Also, I had my DL for a while but still trying to get used to driving in the city. I'm doing alot better in that regard but I still need a bit more work driving ijn the city. I'm a bit worried she might see me as downright reckless or a boob who seems like I learn to drive from clown school.

[PeterGriffin]

Don't tell her about the AS. Tell her you're an artist. As far as dating a coworker, the old saying of "don't crap where you eat" always holds true. Now that the toothpaste is outta the tube on that one, you don't really owe anybody an explanation and its best to just change the subject. Don't lie about it, just don't talk about it. If you're not comfortable driving around the city, scout a place that parks and museums are close by, park, and go on foot. If you're not sure about her availability, then just treat it like she's being nice and really is just offering to show you around town a little, and be thankful for that.

[CaptainPike]

I wouldn't tell her that you have Aspergers. She may not know what it is.

Don't mention anything about being an oddball either. It must not be terribly obvious because she's already agreed to go out with you. Or maybe she likes oddballs.

Pete is right about dating people you work with. Usually not a good idea. I'm not sure where you work, but this may only be a temporary problem. Is it WalMart?

Also, don't make sexually related jokes involving the meat department.

Have you dated many girls? My first few were real disasters.

[PeterGriffin]

Duh! Forgot the most important part. When it comes down to making out, whenever possible, put on side one of Led Zeppelin IV.

[davetexas]

I'm going out with a woman Friday night showing me around Columbus. She is around my age and works at the same store I'm at (in a different dept though).
I see it as a friendship for now. I'm not expecting too much. She seems real nice and
down to earth.

One issue is dealing with the gossip at work since I'm going out with a co-worker.
I did something real dumb and told one of the guys in meat (where I work) that she is going to show me around town. Now he is going around telling a few folks at work
"I'm dating Jane Doe in the domestics dept". I'm not upset with him mainly because I was the one who opened my beak.

Another one is I didn't ask her if she was single or not. I remember us in the breakroom talking about me being new to Columbus and still don't know much of the city. She told me she wish she would show me around but she didn't have a car right now.
I told I have a car and we can go somewhere to sight see and she said sure. We are doing something Friday what exactly don't know.

Another issue is me being asperger I tend to say things that are kinda off the wall. Plus I a bit of a oddball. You think I should let her know I have AS (I don't keep my disorder a secret anyway)?

Also, I had my DL for a while but still trying to get used to driving in the city. I'm doing alot better in that regard but I still need a bit more work driving ijn the city. I'm a bit worried she might see me as downright reckless or a boob who seems like I learn to drive from clown school.


If their is no 'electricity' between you two then what is the point. On the other hand,if their is electricity,then your faults will not be a biggie. and if they(your faults) are then she is not the one for you. But friendships with the RIGHT people are rare..

There are two basic types of friends Nurturing and Poisonous.

Surround yourself with nurturers and they will cheer you on to reach your destiny.

God will lead you.

[CID_0687]

Duh! Forgot the most important part. When it comes down to making out, whenever possible, put on side one of Led Zeppelin IV.
Hellz yeah!! Gets 'em every time.

[malnila]

Pfft, men....:rolleyes:

If you feel it's just a friendship and a co-worker being nice, showing you around the town, then of course you tell her you have AS. I know it's not like Tourette's but....being honest is always the best policy. Also, don't pay those guys any mind. How else are you going to meet people to at least socialize with if not from work (for starters).

Sheesh....men :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

[sgdp]

I was recently involved in a situation where neither one of us were quite sure whether it was a "Friend Date" or "I Kinda Like You Date".

Actually aired it out, and decided it was an actual date. Made things a LOT more comfortable. I bet she's wondering the same thing.

As for the co-workers, play it off as a joke. Just don't let them know their comments bother you, and they'll lay off.

Also wouldn't go into AS right away.

My two cents...

Good luck!

[Remus Lupin]

Pfft, men....:rolleyes:

If you feel it's just a friendship and a co-worker being nice, showing you around the town, then of course you tell her you have AS. I know it's not like Tourette's but....being honest is always the best policy. Also, don't pay those guys any mind. How else are you going to meet people to at least socialize with if not from work (for starters).

Sheesh....men :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

I'm sorta hoping it will become more than a friendship to be honest though.

[malnila]

I'm sorta hoping it will become more than a friendship to be honest though.

The best relationships start out as friendships. My cousin just celebrated his 50th wedding anniversary and the only thing he said was, "I married my best friend."

[CaptainPike]

Probly not a good idea to discuss politics with this girl.

[PeterGriffin]

Pfft, men....:rolleyes:

If you feel it's just a friendship and a co-worker being nice, showing you around the town, then of course you tell her you have AS. I know it's not like Tourette's but....being honest is always the best policy. Also, don't pay those guys any mind. How else are you going to meet people to at least socialize with if not from work (for starters).

Sheesh....men :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

Hey, I did not make ONE meat department joke suggestion even though it was hanging out there like a helium balloon over home plate. Not dating coworkers is solid advice. Unless you are getting married, that means you're going to break up, and that breakup is going to be initiated by one party, leaving the other one feeling like, well, they got dumped. And then you're still seeing each other at work. Nothing good comes from that. Same reasons you don't get down with neighbors or people that live in your apartment building.

Plenty of opportunity to meet people outside of work, and if it doesn't work out, you don't have to get a new job to avoid them. Dating coworkers is baaaad advice....booo....hisss @ Malnila.

[CaptainPike]

Hey, I did not make ONE meat department joke suggestion even though it was hanging out there like a helium balloon over home plate. Not dating coworkers is solid advice. Unless you are getting married, that means you're going to break up, and that breakup is going to be initiated by one party, leaving the other one feeling like, well, they got dumped. And then you're still seeing each other at work. Nothing good comes from that. Same reasons you don't get down with neighbors or people that live in your apartment building.

Plenty of opportunity to meet people outside of work, and if it doesn't work out, you don't have to get a new job to avoid them. Dating coworkers is baaaad advice....booo....hisss @ Malnila.

I applaud you for not making meat department jokes. I have never seen that kind of self control from a lib.

[CID_0687]

I applaud you for not making meat department jokes. I have never seen that kind of self control from a lib.
7 year meat market veteran and conservative here...And By God, it's taking everything I have to not make a meat market joke. :((

Bastards!!

[gdoane]

Pfft, men....:rolleyes:

If you feel it's just a friendship and a co-worker being nice, showing you around the town, then of course you tell her you have AS. I know it's not like Tourette's but....being honest is always the best policy. Also, don't pay those guys any mind. How else are you going to meet people to at least socialize with if not from work (for starters).

Sheesh....men :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

The problem with "dating" from work is that promotions happen. If you're dating someone and get promoted all of a sudden, then you're a district manager with hire/fire authority over them. The appearance of impropriety is just as potentially damaging as actual impropriety and should be avoided.

That's not to say I don't socialize with coworkers. I've gone golfing, kayaking, tubing, camping and shooting with coworkers after hours for recreation. What I won't do is intimate relationships with coworkers, because the work dynamic can change anytime and I might wind up their boss or they might wind up mine.

Intimate relationships either work out or burn bridges in my experience.

[Ninjacorpse]

Try to treat it like you are hanging out with one of your friends, try to take the pressure off the situation. If you get an awkward moment of silence do not force yourself to say something about yourself, instead ask her questions about her. That will help you from spewing out some random crap. If you do slip up do not dwell on it too long, everybody says something crazy at one time or another, no need to make a big deal out of it ;). Good luck just try and have fun.

[malnila]

Try to treat it like you are hanging out with one of your friends, try to take the pressure off the situation. If you get an awkward moment of silence do not force yourself to say something about yourself, instead ask her questions about her. That will help you from spewing out some random crap. If you do slip up do not dwell on it too long, everybody says something crazy at one time or another, no need to make a big deal out of it ;). Good luck just try and have fun.

Good post. That's what I'm getting at too. Be yourself and have fun. If something was meant to "flower," it will.

PeterGriffin....pfft right back atcha....you can't give advice about dating, you're married. Rumor has it she asked you....;) I keed now leave the boy alone.

[Tulsa]

PeterGriffin is absolutely correct. Dating someone from work is a seriously bad idea. Meet their friends and date them if you must but stay away from a co-worker love story. Quite simply, no good will ever come from it.

I tried it once, my wife was not pleased.

Just kidding. :D

[BrittleBullet]

Probly not a good idea to discuss politics with this girl.

Very good advice.
I would stay clear off any sort of "controversial" topic as well.

[BrittleBullet]

PeterGriffin is absolutely correct. Dating someone from work is a seriously bad idea. Meet their friends and date them if you must but stay away from a co-worker love story. Quite simply, no good will ever come from it.

I tried it once, my wife was not pleased.

Just kidding. :D

I've heard that plenty of times before but never had a problem with it. Meh.

[BrittleBullet]

I'm sorta hoping it will become more than a friendship to be honest though.

Not trying to add any pressure here, but don't try to **** this up too bad. Sometimes you only get one opportunity when trying to make a decent impression on a "date". If you screw it up royally, you're ****ed from then on. If I'm understanding this correctly and it's just showing you around town, then definitely ask her what a nice place to eat is, take her there, and pay for her meal. I wouldn't bring up anything up about your AS. I don't know enough about it, but if she mentions something about it, don't lie. Everyone else has covered pretty much everything else.

[Floydian]

Remus, more info is needed. Are you just trying to have a "friends" date with this chick or are you trying to bang her?

[curtis123]

I'm going out with a woman Friday night showing me around Columbus. She is around my age and works at the same store I'm at (in a different dept though).
I see it as a friendship for now. I'm not expecting too much. She seems real nice and
down to earth.

One issue is dealing with the gossip at work since I'm going out with a co-worker.
I did something real dumb and told one of the guys in meat (where I work) that she is going to show me around town. Now he is going around telling a few folks at work
"I'm dating Jane Doe in the domestics dept". I'm not upset with him mainly because I was the one who opened my beak.

Another one is I didn't ask her if she was single or not. I remember us in the breakroom talking about me being new to Columbus and still don't know much of the city. She told me she wish she would show me around but she didn't have a car right now.
I told I have a car and we can go somewhere to sight see and she said sure. We are doing something Friday what exactly don't know.

Another issue is me being asperger I tend to say things that are kinda off the wall. Plus I a bit of a oddball. You think I should let her know I have AS (I don't keep my disorder a secret anyway)?

Also, I had my DL for a while but still trying to get used to driving in the city. I'm doing alot better in that regard but I still need a bit more work driving ijn the city. I'm a bit worried she might see me as downright reckless or a boob who seems like I learn to drive from clown school.

Just relax, be honest with her and enjoy her company.

Be yourself. And don't be so hard on yourself. Women like confidence. You have a lot to be confident about, even with AS, so just be a friend to her.

[curtis123]

Remus, more info is needed. Are you just trying to have a "friends" date with this chick or are you trying to bang her?

Note to self:

Never ask for dating advice on Hannity.com.

Carry on.

[gwhughes]

1) Ask her about herself. Women love to talk about themselves and can go on and on for hours about nothing. Listen intently and try to relate a couple of experiences you've had with hers. Don't go on and on about it, like if she says, "Blah blah blah, cat in the toaster, blah blah blah..." 30 minutes later after she wraps it up, you say, "Yeah, I had a cousin that was really mean to cats, buried them up to their necks, then ran over them with the pushmower blade inches from their head....just aweful! So, I played with GIJoes as a kid, did you like barbies?" Thatll keep the back and forth convo going all night and no uncomfortable silences.

2) You're scared about driving, let her drive. She knows where she's going and it'll be a little treat for her seeing as how she don't own her own wheels. Plus you'll be able to get a better view of the city rather than having to pay attention to the road. And, if she's wearing something lowcut, you can check that out while she's paying attention to the road. That is if you don't want to get caught, I like getting caught, good ice breaker.

3) Agree with Led Zepplin IV.

4) Take her some place nice, but not too nice for dinner. Play it off as a thank you for showing me around, keep up the back and forth convo, and this is where you get caught checking her out. Doesn't hurt to make it obvious either. Shows you're interested and mean business at the same time.

Have fun, be yourself and don't pass gas. Everything else is cream cheese.

[BillBrown]

I wouldn't date a coworker.
I tried it twice in my single days and it didn't work.
It creates jealousy among other people you work with, for one thing.

[5thIDSoldier]

Dating a coworker is always a bad idea.

[JimGP20]

Hey Remus.... don't listen to all these guys telling you that dating someone from work is bad. I dated a gal I met at work and now she's my wife.... and we still work together. :D

[Remus Lupin]

I would aing ogree that dating someone where you work might be a bad idea. But I'm not planing on staying at Walmart much longer.
I'm right now as we speak sending resumes and employment applications at dealerships and auto repair shops. One dealership near where I work is needing mechanic helpers real badly. It's a min wage job so you will most likely see high turnover in that area. Hey it will help me get my foot in the door.
Anyway if even if we do go further than a friendship I will most likely be out of Walmart and pursuing my desire career.

[DLaw911]

I'm going out with a woman Friday night showing me around Columbus. She is around my age and works at the same store I'm at (in a different dept though).
I see it as a friendship for now. I'm not expecting too much. She seems real nice and
down to earth.

One issue is dealing with the gossip at work since I'm going out with a co-worker.
I did something real dumb and told one of the guys in meat (where I work) that she is going to show me around town. Now he is going around telling a few folks at work
"I'm dating Jane Doe in the domestics dept". I'm not upset with him mainly because I was the one who opened my beak.

Another one is I didn't ask her if she was single or not. I remember us in the breakroom talking about me being new to Columbus and still don't know much of the city. She told me she wish she would show me around but she didn't have a car right now.
I told I have a car and we can go somewhere to sight see and she said sure. We are doing something Friday what exactly don't know.

Another issue is me being asperger I tend to say things that are kinda off the wall. Plus I a bit of a oddball. You think I should let her know I have AS (I don't keep my disorder a secret anyway)?

Also, I had my DL for a while but still trying to get used to driving in the city. I'm doing alot better in that regard but I still need a bit more work driving ijn the city. I'm a bit worried she might see me as downright reckless or a boob who seems like I learn to drive from clown school.The issue of dating a co-worker is the danger of a hostile work environment if the "relationship" goes bad.

The real problem, however, is when one of the persons from the same office is in a superior position, like a supervisor, such as to invite a sexual harassment allegation. That's different from a co-worker and that is VERRRRRY risky.

Bottom line - from what you said. Go for it.

[traditional_woman]

The issue of dating a co-worker is the danger of a hostile work environment if the "relationship" goes bad.

The real problem, however, is when one of the persons from the same office is in a superior position, like a supervisor, such as to invite a sexual harassment allegation. That's different from a co-worker and that is VERRRRRY risky.

Bottom line - from what you said. Go for it.

Welcome back!!

[CaptPops]

Candy is dandy, but liquor is quicker.

[CaptainPike]

Definitely don't tell her that you posted on a forum asking for advice on what to do. And certainly don't tell her that anyone else knows that you are going out with her.

For a while I was stopping by a Wal-Mart after work and talking to this girl that worked in electronics. This was a looong time ago. Back when I could use buying a CD as an excuse to enter the electronics department. Anyhow, she was always nice and seemed to like talking to me.

Well, there was this weird old guy that also worked there, and he noticed me going in there all the time. Turns out this guy knows a lady that I work with, and the lady that I work with now knows that I'm awkwardly trying to hit on this older girl at Wal-Mart (I worked at a different business near Wal-Mart).

As it turns out, letting this attractive older girl in on the secret was a really BAD idea. I don't know why in the world I told her that anyone else knew I was up there talking to her. But what a way to ruin a possible date with a hot older girl. Dumb.

The point of this God awful story is, don't tell her anything she doesn't need to know. Don't mention "so and so" from the meat department, or anyone else that you work with. And don't make jokes about the meat department.

[ThrowCop]

Duh! Forgot the most important part. When it comes down to making out, whenever possible, put on side one of Led Zeppelin IV.:)) Teh funah!!! :))

[sgtmac_46]

I'm going out with a woman Friday night showing me around Columbus. She is around my age and works at the same store I'm at (in a different dept though).
I see it as a friendship for now. I'm not expecting too much. She seems real nice and
down to earth.

One issue is dealing with the gossip at work since I'm going out with a co-worker.
I did something real dumb and told one of the guys in meat (where I work) that she is going to show me around town. Now he is going around telling a few folks at work
"I'm dating Jane Doe in the domestics dept". I'm not upset with him mainly because I was the one who opened my beak.

Another one is I didn't ask her if she was single or not. I remember us in the breakroom talking about me being new to Columbus and still don't know much of the city. She told me she wish she would show me around but she didn't have a car right now.
I told I have a car and we can go somewhere to sight see and she said sure. We are doing something Friday what exactly don't know.

Another issue is me being asperger I tend to say things that are kinda off the wall. Plus I a bit of a oddball. You think I should let her know I have AS (I don't keep my disorder a secret anyway)?

Also, I had my DL for a while but still trying to get used to driving in the city. I'm doing alot better in that regard but I still need a bit more work driving ijn the city. I'm a bit worried she might see me as downright reckless or a boob who seems like I learn to drive from clown school.

Just relax........don't even talk about you. Talk about her. Show her a good time, make the night about her.

A few things to remember....


Women like to talk about themselves
Women like men who make them feel good about themselves
Women like men who make them laugh
Women like CONFIDENT (doesn't necessarily have to mean 'cocky') Men!


I suspect you don't date a lot........which is why it's VERY important not to come across as needy.......you can fake confidence until you are confidence......you have to FAKE until you MAKE IT!

The key to confidence is EYE and BODY contact........

During diner (i assume there will be dinner) sit across from her, and smile confidently while talking to her.......make it an effort to make eye contact with her.......when she makes eye contact with you give her a knowing friendly smile......if she holds your gaze for several seconds and smiles, the date is going GREAT! She may also blush and turn away, but if she smiles when she does it, everything is still alright......EYE CONTACT is tool one.

As for physical contact, make sure when you pick her up, open the door for her, or otherwise are standing nearby, you make it a point of putting your hand in a non-offending area, like touching her arm as you are talking to her, or putting your hand gently at the small of her back as you open the door for her. The key is discretion and not over stepping your bounds.......IF she touches you back in a friendly way, then you are IN!

And finally.........RELAX! Talk about her......be interested in EVERYTHING she is interested in, build RAPPORT!

[CaptainPike]

If you want to be really cool, hide some flowers in your car. But don't give them to her until the end of the date. Not roses. Never roses on a first date.

If things don't go well, don't give them to her.

[sgtmac_46]

If you want to be really cool, hide some flowers in your car. But don't give them to her until the end of the date. Not roses. Never roses on a first date.

If things don't go well, don't give them to her.

No flowers........and here's why.


On the first date we want to build HER interest in HIM........this might sound counter-intuitive, but gifts like flowers don't work toward that end. Gifts don't make others like us more.......they may make us seem nicer, but that's not the same thing as making her like us more.

He should stick to make her feel good about herself.......THEN if he's interested, he can decide to move on to the next level........which is an entirely different seminar. ;)

[gwhughes]

I agree, no flowers. Seems hoakie, and desperate. Just have fun with it. If the chick is into you she'll let you know. Body language, playing with hair, touches you (shoulder/hand is what I'm talking here, although the alternative is a sure "sign") .

[sgtmac_46]

I agree, no flowers. Seems hoakie, and desperate. Just have fun with it. If the chick is into you she'll let you know. Body language, playing with hair, touches you (shoulder/hand is what I'm talking here, although the alternative is a sure "sign") .

Bingo!

Eye contact, smile, confidence, talk about her.

Women aren't that complex.........they're like flowers.......you can have the best relationship with them with a paradoxical alternating combination of intense affection and benign neglect. ;)

[uncledoom]

The bad thing about dating at work is that your business will be everyone's business...unless you come across someone who likes their privacy as much you might. And if things go bad....one of you will need to quit.

I dated someone at work once. Before we were "serious", I took her boss out once...but had to nip that because she was more into it than I was. But then we broke up and she ended up marrying someone else from the office. Thank goodness she left....

[FidelisAdMortem]

Listen 4 pages and heres the deal.

Alcohol.

Hit it on the first night.

[BasicGreatGuy]

Remus,
Take a look at this dating video. It might come in handy. ;)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T5mPcmgoZNw

[gwhughes]

:))








He's right:) (alcohol)

[Floydian]

Listen 4 pages and heres the deal.

Alcohol.

Hit it on the first night.


Words of wisdom and truth right there Remus. Knock it outta the park!

[sgdp]

Remus, if you have any specific questions, feel free to PM me.

[CaptainPike]

Remus, if you have any specific questions, feel free to PM me.

Is that you in the avatar pic?

[sgdp]

Is that you in the avatar pic?

:)) Yes.

Was tired of people assuming I was a guy. :confused:

[jeepers]

Lord,just be yourself..your nice self. LOL

Never touch a body part without permission. Can easily blow any interest that she has in you. Yep, be a gentleman, open doors, but don't kill yourself to get to it, if ykwim.

Smile. Being funny is okay, being biting, sarcastic or rude, is not. Meat department jokes are REALLY out. Sexual anything, out.

Showing interest in her, IN. Slathering, out.

Anything that would make her feel like she needs to be on her guard with you, out.

Just have some fun. It's a first date, not the interview of a lifetime. Try too hard and you're going to trip over your own feet. Do something interesting and yes, it's okay to talk about yourself, but don't give monologues.

I would have avoided anyone from work, but it's already done. Good rule of thumb in general.

One other thing that I always tell young ones is that we oftentimes worry, do they like ME?

Probably better to ask yourself, do I like HER? She's got the same first date stuff going on, too. Try to have fun, but also ask, do I enjoy spending time with her?

If you think about that question, you'll spend less time worrying about whether or not she likes you, kwim?

Just go have fun and stop being in your head.

[Dual867PowerMac]

I think this thread was a mistake.

[Remus Lupin]

We are looking at going to the zoo friday, which will be great.
We can walk around and chat some.
Right now, I'm seeing it as a friendship. Still yet I'm nervious.

[Remus Lupin]

I think this thread was a mistake.

Well seeing that Bungal fans are the worst type of people to ask dating advice, I can why you say that.

[Dual867PowerMac]

Well seeing that Bungal fans are the worst type of people to ask dating advice, I can why you say that.
Some of these wiseacres' responses led me to post that.

By the way... Vince Lombardi will coming to Cincy on February 7, 2010. :cool:

[Remus Lupin]

Some of these wiseacres' responses led me to post that.

By the way... Vince Lombardi will coming to Cincy on February 7, 2010. :cool:

It don't bother me. I figure I would get a couple wisecracks from a few especially from the mall cop brothers on here.

[The Girl from Ipanema]

Listen 4 pages and heres the deal.

Alcohol.

Hit it on the first night.

:naughty: :lol:

[The Girl from Ipanema]

Lord,just be yourself..your nice self. LOL

Never touch a body part without permission. Can easily blow any interest that she has in you. Yep, be a gentleman, open doors, but don't kill yourself to get to it, if ykwim.

Smile. Being funny is okay, being biting, sarcastic or rude, is not. Meat department jokes are REALLY out. Sexual anything, out.

Showing interest in her, IN. Slathering, out.

Anything that would make her feel like she needs to be on her guard with you, out.

Just have some fun. It's a first date, not the interview of a lifetime. Try too hard and you're going to trip over your own feet. Do something interesting and yes, it's okay to talk about yourself, but don't give monologues.

I would have avoided anyone from work, but it's already done. Good rule of thumb in general.

One other thing that I always tell young ones is that we oftentimes worry, do they like ME?

Probably better to ask yourself, do I like HER? She's got the same first date stuff going on, too. Try to have fun, but also ask, do I enjoy spending time with her?

If you think about that question, you'll spend less time worrying about whether or not she likes you, kwim?

Just go have fun and stop being in your head.

Listen to Jeepers, Remus.

Have fun. :)

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

I wouldn't tell her that you have Aspergers. She may not know what it is.

See this? ^ This is what's called a recipe for disaster.

If your syndrome acts up, and it's necessary, tell her.

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Duh! Forgot the most important part. When it comes down to making out, whenever possible, put on side one of Led Zeppelin IV.

This message brought to you by the 1980's.

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Listen 4 pages and heres the deal.

Alcohol.

Hit it on the first night.

Oh man, I knew you were this guy.

[sgtmac_46]

See this? ^ This is what's called a recipe for disaster.

If your syndrome acts up, and it's necessary, tell her.

For godsake don't tell her you have a 'Syndrome'.......if it becomes necessary to explain just tell her you're lousy at this getting to know you stuff........but you're learning.

The 'I have a syndrome' talk can wait until you've hit it a few times.......women tend to handle those things better after you've been sleeping with them for a while. ;)




The FIRST date is about anchoring a first impression......NOT about airing all our quirks..........so if certain situations are likely to cause problems with the Asperger's i'd plan beforehand to avoid those situations.

[JimGP20]

We are looking at going to the zoo friday, which will be great.
We can walk around and chat some.
Right now, I'm seeing it as a friendship. Still yet I'm nervious.


LOL..... I cannot believe that you posted this. When I first read through this thread yesterday, the first thing that popped into my head was the scene from "Rocky", where Gazzo's thug driver told Rocky to "take her to da zoo". :lol:

[angelicmadrigal]

Well let's put it this way if you don't tell her you have AS, and then do something that freaks her out, I'd resist the urge to retcon it later and tell her after the fact. That's just shady and lame. So your two choices are 1) tell her in advance OR 2) try like hell to avoid doing anything too "out there".

[Greyclouds]

Lord,just be yourself..your nice self. LOL

Never touch a body part without permission. Can easily blow any interest that she has in you. Yep, be a gentleman, open doors, but don't kill yourself to get to it, if ykwim.

Smile. Being funny is okay, being biting, sarcastic or rude, is not. Meat department jokes are REALLY out. Sexual anything, out.

Showing interest in her, IN. Slathering, out.

Anything that would make her feel like she needs to be on her guard with you, out.

Just have some fun. It's a first date, not the interview of a lifetime. Try too hard and you're going to trip over your own feet. Do something interesting and yes, it's okay to talk about yourself, but don't give monologues.

I would have avoided anyone from work, but it's already done. Good rule of thumb in general.

One other thing that I always tell young ones is that we oftentimes worry, do they like ME?

Probably better to ask yourself, do I like HER? She's got the same first date stuff going on, too. Try to have fun, but also ask, do I enjoy spending time with her?

If you think about that question, you'll spend less time worrying about whether or not she likes you, kwim?

Just go have fun and stop being in your head.

Bolding mine. Best advice IMHO.

You have to realize that dating, for men, is a numbers game. If you enjoy going on dates with new women, and you get enough sampling of women that you're able to formulate a concept of what YOU like in them, then you'll be really successful. You'll gain confidence (confidence is the most attractive quality of men to women) and poise, and this will attract more desirable women.

Dating, for women, is a test. Women need to SCREEN OUT the numbers of willing men that would try to seduce them. Let's face it: guys aren't a "rare" commodity for women.



Just be yourself; believe in yourself. If things don't work out, and she turns out to not be attracted to you or you're not attracted to her, then GOOD! Get yourself back out into the dating scene and try to find someone that you like! Frame it as an opportunity to meet NEW people and you'll feel much more confident and have more success.

[DRS]

The best relationships start out as friendships. My cousin just celebrated his 50th wedding anniversary and the only thing he said was, "I married my best friend."

I thought down south the best relationships start out as cousins :D

[Cav Scout]

I'm going out with a woman Friday night showing me around Columbus. She is around my age and works at the same store I'm at (in a different dept though).
I see it as a friendship for now. I'm not expecting too much. She seems real nice and
down to earth.

One issue is dealing with the gossip at work since I'm going out with a co-worker.
I did something real dumb and told one of the guys in meat (where I work) that she is going to show me around town. Now he is going around telling a few folks at work
"I'm dating Jane Doe in the domestics dept". I'm not upset with him mainly because I was the one who opened my beak.

Another one is I didn't ask her if she was single or not. I remember us in the breakroom talking about me being new to Columbus and still don't know much of the city. She told me she wish she would show me around but she didn't have a car right now.
I told I have a car and we can go somewhere to sight see and she said sure. We are doing something Friday what exactly don't know.

Another issue is me being asperger I tend to say things that are kinda off the wall. Plus I a bit of a oddball. You think I should let her know I have AS (I don't keep my disorder a secret anyway)?

Also, I had my DL for a while but still trying to get used to driving in the city. I'm doing alot better in that regard but I still need a bit more work driving ijn the city. I'm a bit worried she might see me as downright reckless or a boob who seems like I learn to drive from clown school.

Be yourself, be truthful, be Chivalric.

As to your co-workers, tell them to take a flying leap.

[Cav Scout]

Listen 4 pages and heres the deal.

Alcohol.

Hit it on the first night.

And this is why fathers have guns.

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

I'm telling you, don't listen to these folks telling you to lie or refuse to bring up your condition.

I mean, don't lead off the conversation with it, but if it acts up, tell her about it.

Then, he's the real secret: Tell her, "This usually doesn't happen except when I get nervous." "Why are you nervous?" "Well, being out with a beautiful woman. . . ." Women eat that up.

And considering I have a disability, a stutter, I know whereof I speak.

[angelicmadrigal]

And considering I have a disability, a stutter, I know whereof I speak.

Yeah, I pretty much tell people upfront I have social anxiety disorder and narcolepsy. But those are two things if you start having episodes of either of them w/o people know it flips them out.

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Yeah, I pretty much tell people upfront I have social anxiety disorder and narcolepsy. But those are two things if you start having episodes of either of them w/o people know it flips them out.

Yeah, I don't get this advice from other people, it's like, "Oh, it's better to have her think you're a ****ing nutcase than know you're disabled." Like in my case I would prefer women to think that I'm an idiot or can't put a coherent sentence together rather than being a stutterer.

Besides, and this is the real goods, my motto with women is, If you don't like the real me, **** you.

[angelicmadrigal]

Besides, and this is the real goods, my motto with women is, If you don't like the real me, **** you.

Exactly.

Just curious, how severe is the stutter? I used to live with this Ukranian kid that stuttered in Russian (horrible stutter) but in English he was fine. It was the strangest thing.

Also, I"m not a big fan of retconning. When people do that it always seems so very ungenuine.

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Exactly.

Just curious, how severe is the stutter? I used to live with this Ukranian kid that stuttered in Russian (horrible stutter) but in English he was fine. It was the strangest thing.

Also, I"m not a big fan of retconning. When people do that it always seems so very ungenuine.

To be honest, I've mostly beaten it since about 2006 or so. Now it just pops up every once in awhile. (Did it myself, without speech therapy too).

But from age 5 to age 25, it was pretty ****ing bad. It kind of ebbed and flowed, sometimes I could speak almost like I do now, sometimes I couldn't get a whole sentence out.

[angelicmadrigal]

To be honest, I've mostly beaten it since about 2006 or so. Now it just pops up every once in awhile. (Did it myself, without speech therapy too).

But from age 5 to age 25, it was pretty ****ing bad. It kind of ebbed and flowed, sometimes I could speak almost like I do now, sometimes I couldn't get a whole sentence out.

Aww. We have a little boy at my work that started stuttering in Dec. We mostly had him out of it by Feb. but now it's started again. I'm starting to think it might be stress related.

[Cav Scout]

I'm telling you, don't listen to these folks telling you to lie or refuse to bring up your condition.

I mean, don't lead off the conversation with it, but if it acts up, tell her about it.

Then, he's the real secret: Tell her, "This usually doesn't happen except when I get nervous." "Why are you nervous?" "Well, being out with a beautiful woman. . . ." Women eat that up.

And considering I have a disability, a stutter, I know whereof I speak.

Yep, unless a person is a complete moron, lies are picked up pretty quick.

Your correct. Unless of course your our favorite cop...

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Aww. We have a little boy at my work that started stuttering in Dec. We mostly had him out of it by Feb. but now it's started again. I'm starting to think it might be stress related.

I kind of enjoy having it these days. It's why I'm such a cocky bastard. Because I'm a great public speaker, charismatic, and a hell of a salesman.

As a nightclub bartender, my favorite line when people talked **** on me was, "I can't even string a sentence together, and I'm still better than you are. What's your excuse?" The second favorite I can't post because it's against TOS, I think.

[angelicmadrigal]

I kind of enjoy having it these days. It's why I'm such a cocky bastard. Because I'm a great public speaker, charismatic, and a hell of a salesman.

As a nightclub bartender, my favorite line when people talked **** on me was, "I can't even string a sentence together, and I'm still better than you are. What's your excuse?" The second favorite I can't post because it's against TOS

Can you PM it to me. It must be a doozy.

[Tulsa]

The late Richard Jeni - on dating.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6r-3JuAPyho

[VCaddy05]

:)) Yes.

Was tired of people assuming I was a guy. :confused:

sure you arent??? LOL:think:

[Remus Lupin]

Can you PM it to me. It must be a doozy.

Something that isn't allowed on here also counts regarding PMs. That includes anything vulgar.
Just a heads up.

[DLaw911]

Remus, I will offer you the same advice I give myself. If people cannot accept you for what you are, a unique human being, then don't waste your time with them. There are plenty of people out ther who would love and respect you. Sometimes you are introduced to that special person, sometimes it is a chance meeting. It is difficult to force and plan but when it happens you will know it.

[angelicmadrigal]

Something that isn't allowed on here also counts regarding PMs. That includes anything vulgar.
Just a heads up.

If the mods want to wade through my PMs, they are more than welcome to be my guest.

[Tulsa]

If the mods want to wade through my PMs, they are more than welcome to be my guest.

Well then, you'll be sad to know that a stock vBulletin system, the mod or admin have no access to your PM's.

[CaptainPike]

:)) Yes.

Was tired of people assuming I was a guy. :confused:

I always knew Freddy Mercury was a woman.

[angelicmadrigal]

I always knew Freddy Mercury was a woman.

That'd be one seriously hairy woman. ::shudders::

[Ninjacorpse]

If the mods want to wade through my PMs, they are more than welcome to be my guest.

They do not wade through pm's if their is a complaint the offended party must forward the message to them, they have said such multiple times.

[FidelisAdMortem]

Oh man, I knew you were this guy.

3rd date rule.

By the 3rd date, if its a no go, then shes a no go.

HOLLA!

[Tulsa]

3rd date rule.

By the 3rd date, if its a no go, then shes a no go.

HOLLA!

Doesn't that depend on what she looks like? I'm just sayin' the brass ring isn't always going to that easy to achieve.

[BillBrown]

Remus, I will offer you the same advice I give myself. If people cannot accept you for what you are, a unique human being, then don't waste your time with them. There are plenty of people out ther who would love and respect you. Sometimes you are introduced to that special person, sometimes it is a chance meeting. It is difficult to force and plan but when it happens you will know it.

I agree with that.
Be yourself. Don't try to act confident or anything else. If she doesn't like that, you haven't lost anything. Move on to the next one.

[DLaw911]

3rd date rule.

By the 3rd date, if its a no go, then she's a no go.

HOLLA!You're patient FAM --- my rule was one bad date and you're out.

[gdoane]

Doesn't that depend on what she looks like? I'm just sayin' the brass ring isn't always going to that easy to achieve.

Looks are for looking. Eventually you get done looking and you move on to better stuff.

[PheonixOps]

Just relax........don't even talk about you. Talk about her. Show her a good time, make the night about her.

A few things to remember....


Women like to talk about themselves
Women like men who make them feel good about themselves
Women like men who make them laugh
Women like CONFIDENT (doesn't necessarily have to mean 'cocky') Men!


I suspect you don't date a lot........which is why it's VERY important not to come across as needy.......you can fake confidence until you are confidence......you have to FAKE until you MAKE IT!

The key to confidence is EYE and BODY contact........

During diner (i assume there will be dinner) sit across from her, and smile confidently while talking to her.......make it an effort to make eye contact with her.......when she makes eye contact with you give her a knowing friendly smile......if she holds your gaze for several seconds and smiles, the date is going GREAT! She may also blush and turn away, but if she smiles when she does it, everything is still alright......EYE CONTACT is tool one.

As for physical contact, make sure when you pick her up, open the door for her, or otherwise are standing nearby, you make it a point of putting your hand in a non-offending area, like touching her arm as you are talking to her, or putting your hand gently at the small of her back as you open the door for her. The key is discretion and not over stepping your bounds.......IF she touches you back in a friendly way, then you are IN!

And finally.........RELAX! Talk about her......be interested in EVERYTHING she is interested in, build RAPPORT!

What, did you steal my old playbook or something? Excellent advice, it's also good to do many of the same things when you are in a relationship and married as well. Even a "hey, nice rack!", goes a long way.


After you're in the relationship and depending on the chick, before the relationship. ;)

[FidelisAdMortem]

So whats the deal?

Did ya tap the drum, Remus?

[Ninjacorpse]

So whats the deal?

Did ya tap the drum, Remus?

Maybe they are still on the date? ;)

[CID_0687]

You're patient FAM --- my rule was one bad date and you're out.
Darn hippies, with your free love, and your peace!! :lol:

[sgdp]

:)) Okay! Some of you are seeing Freddie right now, but it was me for a few hours the other day.

:)) I don't think I can beat Freddie in a leather mini competition.

[DRS]

:)) Okay! Some of you are seeing Freddie right now, but it was me for a few hours the other day.

:)) I don't think I can beat Freddie in a leather mini competition.

The brunette was you?

[sgdp]

The brunette was you?

Yeah. Pale brunette would be me.

[DRS]

Yeah. Pale brunette would be me.

Then you have Freddie beaten hands down

[DRS]

Maybe they are still on the date? ;)

It is now Sunday, maybe they are married now :D

[sgdp]

It is now Sunday, maybe they are married now :D

How far is Remus from Vegas? :whistle:

[DRS]

How far is Remus from Vegas? :whistle:

Not sure how far he is from Vegas, I have never drive from that area out to Vegas but it is about 10-14 hours to Niagara Falls

[tblaze]

I just read a few of the comments so I'm not sure what all was said but the main thing is it sounds like you are putting too much pressure on yourself worried about making sure everything goes right.

First thing is don't worry about it. Just be yourself and if you hit it off then great and if not then go out with someone else.

The other thing is don't go telling someone about all your problems on the first date or you won't get a second one. How much fun are you going to have if you go on a date and she starts telling you she has 4 different kids by 4 different men, going to court every other week, has congestive heart problems, is depressed by this and that. You are going to run in a different direction because you don't want to hear about all that crap. If things go well you can always talk about those things later as they come up.

Probably the best thing you can do is take her to a mall as the first stop. Walk around, there is always something interesting to look at and talk about. Plus wonder off a couple times and see if she comes looking for you, then you know she likes you. If things aren't going well you can take her home and haven't spent any money on her.

Like I said the main thing is to be yourself and don't worry about what she thinks. Don't tell her a bunch of lies either, what you really want is someone who likes you for yourself anyway not some character you made up.

Looks like you might have already went on the date but I hope this helps if you haven't or helps in the future.

[DRS]

What ever happened to dinner and movie, and if you enjoyed spending the night in a coffee shop talking?

Oh if you are doing a movie I recommend the Proposal

[sgdp]

What ever happened to dinner and movie, and if you enjoyed spending the night in a coffee shop talking?

Oh if you are doing a movie I recommend the Proposal

That would be a good movie for a first/second date.

I've never been a big movie person. I have....like a movie ADD or something. But I tend to think you don't get to know the person if you're not talking, anyways.

But, I'm out of the box like that. My idea of a first date is a dog beach, even though neither one of us has a dog. :doh:

[DRS]

That would be a good movie for a first/second date.

I've never been a big movie person. I have....like a movie ADD or something. But I tend to think you don't get to know the person if you're not talking, anyways.

But, I'm out of the box like that. My idea of a first date is a dog beach, even though neither one of us has a dog. :doh:

That is why I said dinner first, then if you go out afterwards for coffee you can talk about the movie, if you end up spending the night talking then you know it is usually going to go well. Besides a good romantic movie can help set the mood for both of you to possibly open up and talk.

[tblaze]

What ever happened to dinner and movie, and if you enjoyed spending the night in a coffee shop talking?

Oh if you are doing a movie I recommend the Proposal

Dinner and a movie, that is what everyone else does, so you just end up being the next guy doing the same thing. She has already done that 100 times on every other date she has been on so you just appear to be to be the norm.

If you do something different, you stand out, and have better chance of gaining attraction since you are being different she'll want to know more about you and why you are different.

Plus with all the political correctness everyone is scared to tell you what they really think so she'll never tell you she isn't having fun. It goes for guys to, too afraid to say something wrong or too afraid they won't get a second date and too afraid they won't find someone else.

Plus women act a little strange nowadays since they are empowered now.

It's just best to do something were you can just talk awhile and see how it goes. Why go spending money on someone who doesn't care 2 cents about you ? If you think things are going well you can always propose to go do something later that night.

[sgdp]

That is why I said dinner first, then if you go out afterwards for coffee you can talk about the movie, if you end up spending the night talking then you know it is usually going to go well. Besides a good romantic movie can help set the mood for both of you to possibly open up and talk.

That's true.

I probably made a fool of myself rooting on the Lab that couldn't find his stick in the water.

[DRS]

That's true.

I probably made a fool of myself rooting on the Lab that couldn't find his stick in the water.

Ahh sounds sweet

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Yeah. Pale brunette would be me.

Hmmmm:think:

[sgdp]

Hmmmm:think:

Don't leave me hanging...

[sgdp]

Ahh sounds sweet

What more can I say? :mrgreen:

[DRS]

Dinner and a movie, that is what everyone else does, so you just end up being the next guy doing the same thing. She has already done that 100 times on every other date she has been on so you just appear to be to be the norm.

If you do something different, you stand out, and have better chance of gaining attraction since you are being different she'll want to know more about you and why you are different.

Plus with all the political correctness everyone is scared to tell you what they really think so she'll never tell you she isn't having fun. It goes for guys to, too afraid to say something wrong or too afraid they won't get a second date and too afraid they won't find someone else.

Plus women act a little strange nowadays since they are empowered now.

It's just best to do something were you can just talk awhile and see how it goes. Why go spending money on someone who doesn't care 2 cents about you ? If you think things are going well you can always propose to go do something later that night.

I am not into marketing or gimmics, now if there is something I know she likes then I will try that, in some cases where there has been women I went out with kids I have done things that were family friendly.

Women are acting strange around you?

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Don't leave me hanging...

Thumbs up. I thought that was an actress.

[sgdp]

Thumbs up. I thought that was an actress.

Oh. I didn't mean to fish for that. :)) I thought you were thinking the Freddie was me, too.

But thanks, ahha. :)

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Oh. I didn't mean to fish for that. :)) I thought you were thinking the Freddie was me, too.

But thanks, ahha. :)

I'm deadly serious. The pic looked like a significantly younger version of the actress that played the mom on Gilmore Girls.

[DRS]

I'm deadly serious. The pic looked like a significantly younger version of the actress that played the mom on Gilmore Girls.

That is who it was

By the way you know you may lose your man card for knowing that right :D

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

That is who it was

By the way you know you may lose your man card for knowing that right :D

Please, I've seen that lady in movies and on commercials for that show, she's hot.

[DRS]

Please, I've seen that lady in movies and on commercials for that show, she's hot.

Yes Lauren Graham is

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Dinner and a movie, that is what everyone else does, so you just end up being the next guy doing the same thing. She has already done that 100 times on every other date she has been on so you just appear to be to be the norm.

If you do something different, you stand out, and have better chance of gaining attraction since you are being different she'll want to know more about you and why you are different.

Plus with all the political correctness everyone is scared to tell you what they really think so she'll never tell you she isn't having fun. It goes for guys to, too afraid to say something wrong or too afraid they won't get a second date and too afraid they won't find someone else.

Plus women act a little strange nowadays since they are empowered now.

It's just best to do something were you can just talk awhile and see how it goes. Why go spending money on someone who doesn't care 2 cents about you ? If you think things are going well you can always propose to go do something later that night.

:think: I don't think you need to do anything that special. Especially on a first date. Dinner and a movie. Go get some beers. Coffee.

Of course, the fact that I'm not "every other guy" becomes readily apparent after talking to me for about three minutes. But maybe other people need help.

[BillBrown]

I'm seeing a lot about "trying".
Trying to stand out or trying to be different.

Don't try to be anything.
Be yourself. If you like movies, take her to a movie.
If you're hungry, take her to eat.
If you like rooster fights, that's where you should go.
As I said before, if she doesn't like it, move on to the next girl.

You can have anything you want, as long as you don't want it to much.

[sgdp]

I'm deadly serious. The pic looked like a significantly younger version of the actress that played the mom on Gilmore Girls.

Had to google that. I can see it. I also get Rachel McAdams and Megan Fox.

[PheonixOps]

That is why I said dinner first, then if you go out afterwards for coffee you can talk about the movie, if you end up spending the night talking then you know it is usually going to go well. Besides a good romantic movie can help set the mood for both of you to possibly open up and talk.

People go out for coffee after a date now? It used to be go out for dinner and drinks...... and take it from there. I'd rather get to know the chick more than be interrupted by a movie. I think that people should be themselves with good manners. In my opinion there's nothing wrong with be a gentleman with some good humored risque' qualities, challenge them a little, joke, flirt a little, talk about a myriad of different subjects, etc. it always worked for me.

[DRS]

The only thing I know I won't do any more is go night clubbing a few years ago I went out with this woman and we must have hit 4 or 5 clubs in one night, I am too old for that stuff anymore.

[sgdp]

The only thing I know I won't do any more is go night clubbing a few years ago I went out with this woman and we must have hit 4 or 5 clubs in one night, I am too old for that stuff anymore.

I don't get night clubs at all. I also don't care for the bar scene, UNLESS they have NTN Trivia.

Because I'm a nerd like that. :cool:

[DRS]

I don't get night clubs at all. I also don't care for the bar scene, UNLESS they have NTN Trivia.

Because I'm a nerd like that. :cool:

I was not expecting it, I figured single mom would be a little more into a quiet evening

[tblaze]

:think: I don't think you need to do anything that special. Especially on a first date. Dinner and a movie. Go get some beers. Coffee.

Of course, the fact that I'm not "every other guy" becomes readily apparent after talking to me for about three minutes. But maybe other people need help.


Like about everyone is saying, just be yourself works out the best even if it doesn't work out. I think a lot of guys are just plain afraid to talk to girls so when they get a chance to go on a date they consider themselves lucky and do everything they can not to blow which usually results in them blowing it. Same goes with women, they don't get asked out a lot so they settle for someone thinking they can do no better or they can change him to be what they want.

So it all ends in divorce because later on down the line they get a better offer they never thought would happen and off they go.

It's best to try and go on as many dates as you can with as many people as you can that is how you know you've found someone you really like.

Just like making friends at work, you talk to everyone but become good friends with only a few you really get along with. When it comes to the opposite sex you try to be friends just for that reason, which usually doesn't work out.

This is just one guy's opinion...............................

[sgdp]

I was not expecting it, I figured single mom would be a little more into a quiet evening

Moi? I'm childless.

Unless we count the cat I'm stuck with.

I guess I don't get the point of jumping up and down to music so loud you can't hear conversation. Strobe lights give me a headache. It's insanely hot, and they cut you off on water because of all the idiots who do ecstasy there.

Yeah. It's not always good to be "an old soul". :))

[DRS]

Some people are out there looking for convo just a good time and a sleepover

[Ninjacorpse]

I don't get night clubs at all. I also don't care for the bar scene, UNLESS they have NTN Trivia.

Because I'm a nerd like that. :cool:

I do not like either unless I am their for a show, not into the glow stick flailing repetitive rhythm crap most night clubs have to offer. It probably does not help that I seem to be a target for fights whenever i go, probably because I am always the dd unless its for a show lol. Give me a country setting around a bon fire with friends any day over the bar scene around a bunch of strangers.

[DLaw911]

Darn hippies, with your free love, and your peace!! :lol:I was so far from "hippie" that people did not even bother telling me I was "square" but that I was a "cube."

[Ninjacorpse]

Some people are out there looking for convo just a good time and a sleepover

Are not looking for conversation? I agree, but it is nice being with someone that does not feel the need to fill every moment of silence with mindless drivel.

[sgdp]

I do not like either unless I am their for a show, not into the glow stick flailing repetitive rhythm crap most night clubs have to offer. It probably does not help that I seem to be a target for fights whenever i go, probably because I am always the dd unless its for a show lol. Give me a country setting around a bon fire with friends any day over the bar scene around a bunch of strangers.

Same here. I don't drink.

I'm in between the country and the city, so I like to think I have a good mix. Meh.

[Ninjacorpse]

Same here. I don't drink.

I'm in between the country and the city, so I like to think I have a good mix. Meh.

I like my privacy and the peace and quiet country living provides, but I am also 30 minutes from a decent size city so if I get bored only a short drive to find something to do.

[sgdp]

I like my privacy and the peace and quiet country living provides, but I am also 30 minutes from a decent size city so if I get bored only a short drive to find something to do.

Things to do. :eek: That's the problem in this immediate area. Thankfully, I'm a hop, skip, and jump from Chicago.

[Ninjacorpse]

Things to do. :eek: That's the problem in this immediate area. Thankfully, I'm a hop, skip, and jump from Chicago.

Chicago is bit too big for me, too intimidating lol. I would hate to drive their :(

[sgdp]

Chicago is bit too big for me, too intimidating lol. I would hate to drive their :(

I just hate that nobody follows the rules of the road. It's fend for yourself. Red and green lights don't mean anything, and nobody looks before they open their car doors. Oh, and people pull so far up into the intersection that you can't see around them when trying to turn left.

That happened to me last week. The light ended up red before I could see if anyone was coming. The people who had the green started going before I could get out of the intersection. Road was wet, so the quick acceleration I made sounded scary. Needless to say, the passenger goes:

"How many accidents have you been in?"

"None where I was driving. :mrgreen:"

[Ninjacorpse]

I just hate that nobody follows the rules of the road. It's fend for yourself. Red and green lights don't mean anything, and nobody looks before they open their car doors. Oh, and people pull so far up into the intersection that you can't see around them when trying to turn left.

That happened to me last week. The light ended up red before I could see if anyone was coming. The people who had the green started going before I could get out of the intersection. Road was wet, so the quick acceleration I made sounded scary. Needless to say, the passenger goes:

"How many accidents have you been in?"

"None where I was driving. :mrgreen:"

I also hate the attitude you get if you actually *gasp* follow the speed limit, at least the only times I have had to step out of my vehicle they took off. I am a big boy, just looking for hugs :(

[sgdp]

I also hate the attitude you get if you actually *gasp* follow the speed limit, at least the only times I have had to step out of my vehicle they took off. I am a big boy, just looking for hugs :(

Gah. I know. Especially in the residential areas, because that's where the doors fly open and kids run into the street.

The one that ****es me off, and I said this in the speed trap thread, is speeding through a construction zone. :mad:

Oh, and here ya go, big boy. :hug: Chicago streets are scary, I admit. S'ok. :))

[Ninjacorpse]

Gah. I know. Especially in the residential areas, because that's where the doors fly open and kids run into the street.

The one that ****es me off, and I said this in the speed trap thread, is speeding through a construction zone. :mad:

Oh, and here ya go, big boy. :hug: Chicago streets are scary, I admit. S'ok. :))

My dad works road construction so I am with you on that, I get worried about him sometimes especially when he has to work nights. :hug:

[sgdp]

My dad works road construction so I am with you on that, I get worried about him sometimes especially when he has to work nights. :hug:

I don't blame you! These people are within feet of a car going 80 mph. I slow down and even keep my foot ready on the brake if I need to. What is wrong with people?!? :wall:

[Ninjacorpse]

I don't blame you! These people are within feet of a car going 80 mph. I slow down and even keep my foot ready on the brake if I need to. What is wrong with people?!? :wall:

I do not know, but he has seen some pretty horrific wrecks, usualy involves some bastards in a semi ramming multiple cars under another semi.

[sgdp]

I do not know, but he has seen some pretty horrific wrecks, usualy involves some bastards in a semi ramming multiple cars under another semi.

Family of 5 on their way to see grandma and visit Disneyworld died being crushed between two semis.

Trucker behind them wasn't paying attention. Caused a lot of outrage.

[DRS]

Big City rules for lights

Green means go but avoid the guy running the red

Yellow means gun it

Red I do not care if you have the green light what were you doing in my intersection

[Ninjacorpse]

Family of 5 on their way to see grandma and visit Disneyworld died being crushed between two semis.

Trucker behind them wasn't paying attention. Caused a lot of outrage.

Trucker probably fell asleep behind the damn wheel.

[tblaze]

I do not know, but he has seen some pretty horrific wrecks, usualy involves some bastards in a semi ramming multiple cars under another semi.

I wouldn't be blaming everything on semi drivers although I have seen some pretty bad drivers behind semi's nowadays. I about got clipped because we were coming up on an on ramp and the semi driver yanked the truck over to the fast lane in about a split second to let the cars getting on the freeway. No signals or warning. People getting on the freeway should be yielding.

How many other times do you see car pull in front of semi's and then slam on their brakes ? Trucks just can't stop on a dime or as quickly as a car.

Around were I live, no one is in a hurry, they are just in a hurry to get in front of you. They will pull out in front of you from a side street at the last possible second and then drive 25 in a 35 zone. Makes no sense.

It's just everyone has the I'm more important than everyone else mentality.

How many traffic problems could be solved if people in the fast lane not passing anyone would just get over, what is hard about that ?

They should give an IQ test on your driving test.

Anyway what does traffic problems have to do with the dating problem this thread is supposed to be about ?

[DRS]

It has been three days since the date

Man I hope this is not the scene

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQb2m6VJ-eo

[tblaze]

If it's been three days did we ever get an update on how things went or how it turned out ?

[sgdp]

Trucker probably fell asleep behind the damn wheel.

Well, there's a lot of blame going around. IIRC...

Cop pulls guy over for not wearing a seatbelt. Guy has warrants. Cop hauls guy off and calls tow company to get the car. (Some say this is the cop's fault for pulling someone over for something "stupid".

Tow man comes. Friend of the family, actually. Police shut down the right hand lane so tow man can get the car safely. (Some say this is the tow man's fault for not working fast enough)

Now, the trucker who ended up sandwiching the SUV with the semi in front of them was "not aware of traffic slowing down to merge".

:wall:

[Ninjacorpse]

Well, there's a lot of blame going around. IIRC...

Cop pulls guy over for not wearing a seatbelt. Guy has warrants. Cop hauls guy off and calls tow company to get the car. (Some say this is the cop's fault for pulling someone over for something "stupid".

Tow man comes. Friend of the family, actually. Police shut down the right hand lane so tow man can get the car safely. (Some say this is the tow man's fault for not working fast enough)

Now, the trucker who ended up sandwiching the SUV with the semi in front of them was "not aware of traffic slowing down to merge".

:wall:

Well they are supposed to be going slower than everybody else to help them avoid such situations, sometimes it is out of their hands. Most tow trucks have lights and construction zones are required to have signs and other ways of alerting traffic of possible obstacles ahead of them.

[PeterGriffin]

If it's been three days did we ever get an update on how things went or how it turned out ?

6 seconds of sex, 3 days of crying about it afterwards.