My brother died the other day. . . .

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Stroke, or some kind of cerebral infarct. Died on the operating table.

He was about fifteen years older than me, and had two heart infections in the last three years, but after he pulled through his most recent open heart, where he literally had a ten percent chance of surviving, I had come to the conclusion that he was too damned stubborn to die.

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.

[blazer]

aww bless your heart! :hug:

[blazer]

i just lost my brother a few months ago.

[Residential Bob]

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.Because, believe it not, Tommy, some of us might care.

My prayers are with your family.

[blazer]

We do care Tommy! :hug:

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Because, believe it not, Tommy, some of us might care.

My prayers are with your family.

No offense intended, I'm just not usually the guy who needs a bunch of reassurance.

I'm more bummed out than I thought I would be. I thought I had already made my peace with this.

[Rupperov91]

Keep your head up Tommy, thoughts for you and your family.

[super cool ski instructor]

Tommy...maybe you posted this not for reassurance...but maybe because it had a hold on you and this was the way you could release that hold.

We all have our ways of dealing with things...and alot of people come to OO not specifically for reassurance, but because we just need to get things off our chests.

My prayers are with you..I cannot even begin to imagine what you are dealing with right now :hug:

[CMike11]

I am sorry Tommy.

My condolences.

[stoked]

You are like me, little or no tears at first, but a long time griever. The problem with losing a parent or older sibling, is that person has been with you your whole life and it's hard to move on without them in your memory. Each memory includes them somehow. For him, I'm glad he passed away under anesthesia because strokes can be very painful and frightening for the one having it, it can be very traumatic (although it can be quick too). But I'm sorry for your loss. Hang in there brother. :hug:

[Liability]

Nobody is ok with this kind of thing, Tommy. There is never a "right" or an "ok" time for it, either.

My sincere condolences for your loss.

[Ballygrl]

I'm really sorry that you and your family are going through this. Just said a prayer for all of you now. :pray:

[Ballygrl]

No offense intended, I'm just not usually the guy who needs a bunch of reassurance.

I'm more bummed out than I thought I would be. I thought I had already made my peace with this.

I think sometimes when people go through illnesses and pull through we just automatically think they're always going to pull through. I know when my Father was sick he pulled through so many times, it got to the point where we never thought he'd die, and he did eventually of course. The fact that your brother survived before with such bad odds, it might've made you feel like he can beat anything.

[johnrocks]

Sorry to see this Tommy, I have a Brother who is two years older than me, we are alike as well as world's apart in different ways, I love my Brother more than I love myself though, my condolences to you and your family Tommy.

[Ninjacorpse]

I know you may feel the need to be strong, but this is really one of those times that it is ok to seek guidance, reassurance and a shoulder to cry on. You know there are several of us that are here if you need us and don't be shy to message us if you feel like talking about it. :hug:

[Getty Girl]

* i am so sorry*

:(

[roger teekell]

My prayers go out to you and your family Tommy...

Losing someone that has been there for you your whole life is hard...Really hard..

Let yourself cry...Let yourself Grieve...And remember the GREAT times you spent together...

[Momma]

Stroke, or some kind of cerebral infarct. Died on the operating table.

He was about fifteen years older than me, and had two heart infections in the last three years, but after he pulled through his most recent open heart, where he literally had a ten percent chance of surviving, I had come to the conclusion that he was too damned stubborn to die.

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.


My sincere condolences. It's very hard to lose someone who you think is so strong and will beat all odds. Especially an older sibling.

[blazer]

:hug:

[Seanachie]

Hello Tommy,

My condolences on the passing of your Brother. Celebrate his life with all the memories you have of him with others. It sure helps in the grieving process and methinks your Brother will get a wee bit of a kick out of it too.

My Brother Ed passed three years ago on Valentine's Day. Sometimes when I talk to him through prayers I get a bit miffed with him. I'm # 2 of 10 children and it really ticks me off that this younger Brother Ed had to be # 1 in the passing. I'll guess I'll never be #1 in the pecking order. I'm sure Ed gets a charge out of that. He was always the trail blazer.

I'm sure your Brother will be waiting for you patiently till you are called home and will help to guide your way when you make the journey.

I will keep your Brother in my prayers next time I get to the Falls and ask the 'Big Guy' to take him into His home if he isn't there already. I think our spirits dawdle around a bit after we're gone just to see the reactions and in that Spirit's need to also mourn the loss of leaving this life's Loves behind.

Be well,

Jim

[JenyEliza]

God bless you and yours, Tommy. I'll keep your family in my prayers.

Jeny :hug:

[gosling2Lindy]

I am sorry to hear this.

My prayers are with you and your family.

[No one of Consequence]

Heartfelt condolences for the loss of your brother.

[CID_0687]

I lost my sister a few years back, that was tough, even with all of her health problems and being "prepared" for it. I know what you're going through Tommy, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Remember your brother for all the good times, and one day you'll be able to think of him and smile again.

[bella-day]

No offense intended, I'm just not usually the guy who needs a bunch of reassurance.

I'm more bummed out than I thought I would be. I thought I had already made my peace with this.


Losing someone so close is like losing part of yourself. Your brother contributed to helping you learn to be the man you are, it's easy to understand why you would hurt for his lose.

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

This must be so hard for all of you.

I'll remember you and your parents in my prayers. May peace be with you my friend.:hug:

[USMCmom]

Tommy ...am sorry to hear of your loss. Your in my prayers...
Take care & God Bless

[birdonawire]

Stroke, or some kind of cerebral infarct. Died on the operating table.

He was about fifteen years older than me, and had two heart infections in the last three years, but after he pulled through his most recent open heart, where he literally had a ten percent chance of surviving, I had come to the conclusion that he was too damned stubborn to die.

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.

You just broke my heart. :cry:

I lost my big brother three years ago and I too thought he was to stubborn to die.

You are in my prayers. :pray:

[Gaetano "Tommy" Lucchese]

Thank you all for the kind words.

[meggers49]

My deepest sympathy and condolences to you and your family for your loss. No matter how prepared you can be, the finality of it is a rude awakening.

Thoughts and prayers are with you.


Meg

[Pudge]

Stroke, or some kind of cerebral infarct. Died on the operating table.

He was about fifteen years older than me, and had two heart infections in the last three years, but after he pulled through his most recent open heart, where he literally had a ten percent chance of surviving, I had come to the conclusion that he was too damned stubborn to die.

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.

Your brother was a fighter, given all he had survived, but eventually, we all come to our Wyrd.

Mourn him well, but remember most of all his life. I recently lost an uncle who I was very close to in my childhood, he was only 56 years old. He will live with me the rest of my days in my memory. Honor your brother's life so, and the weight of your grief will not be so difficult to shoulder.

[Talk2Bill]

I am sorry to hear that.

[Stuball]

Stroke, or some kind of cerebral infarct. Died on the operating table.

He was about fifteen years older than me, and had two heart infections in the last three years, but after he pulled through his most recent open heart, where he literally had a ten percent chance of surviving, I had come to the conclusion that he was too damned stubborn to die.

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.
Condolemces to you and your family Tommy

[PaleoPaul]

Condolences and Blessings to you and yours, amigo.

[LouC]

Stroke, or some kind of cerebral infarct. Died on the operating table.

He was about fifteen years older than me, and had two heart infections in the last three years, but after he pulled through his most recent open heart, where he literally had a ten percent chance of surviving, I had come to the conclusion that he was too damned stubborn to die.

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.

My prayers are going out for you and for your family.

God bless.

[ThinkingMan]

Damn Tommy. That's rough. My sincerest condolences to you.

[curtis123]

Stroke, or some kind of cerebral infarct. Died on the operating table.

He was about fifteen years older than me, and had two heart infections in the last three years, but after he pulled through his most recent open heart, where he literally had a ten percent chance of surviving, I had come to the conclusion that he was too damned stubborn to die.

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.

That's awful, Tommy. I'm sorry for your loss.

[Fire Watch]

Stroke, or some kind of cerebral infarct. Died on the operating table.

He was about fifteen years older than me, and had two heart infections in the last three years, but after he pulled through his most recent open heart, where he literally had a ten percent chance of surviving, I had come to the conclusion that he was too damned stubborn to die.

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.
I am so sorry for you loss.

[jwil59]

I am sorry for your loss Tommy.

I am praying for you and your family, hang tough my brother

[CaughtInTheMiddle]

Tommy,

I lost my dad almost 10 years ago and still remember the pain I felt. I was ****ed and somewhat relieved at the same time (he had pulmonary fibrosis and was suffering at the end). It hurt so bad but I kind of ignored it for the longest time. Then one day I just let my emotions out. And they came screaming out. And that was the day I started getting better. As a guy, I didn't think I was supposed to do that, but it happened. And I realized how healing it was. You may or may not be ready but it will happen when you least expect it. Then, at some point, you'll just think of him and smile. And remember all the good times. Damn, this made me remember a couple of things about my dad and how lucky I was to have him. I bet you were really lucky to have your brother. And we're the unlucky ones for never having met him.

PS: PM me anytime you need to. And I mean it. If you don't, I'll start pulling against Pittsburgh.

[PredFan]

My condolences Tommy, and good luck.

[Trinka]

I'm sorry for your loss.....God Bless You and Yours..

[doodle5]

Guys have a different way of grieving than gals, that is a fact!!

There comes a time the tears come unexpectedly and makes everything better.

You will appreciate the beauty of the outdoors more, I do. I was in the mountains alot when I was growing up and later. I love the sounds of the animals, the singing of the birds, and the smells.

These are memories we will always have.

Prayers for you and all your family.

Carlene

[curtis123]

Stroke, or some kind of cerebral infarct. Died on the operating table.

He was about fifteen years older than me, and had two heart infections in the last three years, but after he pulled through his most recent open heart, where he literally had a ten percent chance of surviving, I had come to the conclusion that he was too damned stubborn to die.

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.

I had a sister that passed away after a long illness some years ago. I know why you posted this.

Your brother is okay. He's better than okay. He's home.

[blazer]

:hug: :pray:

[rhet 2]

Oh, Tommy.

I'm late getting this response posted, but I am so very sorry to see you endure such a sudden, sharp loss.

As much as you and I disagree about politics and sociology, I wish you did not have to endure this earthquake shake up of your world.

Just know this: while one who loves you still cannot daily show you that love because he's moved on to a New Life in a New World far away, you are still loved by many.

Including me.

:hug:

[RayMan]

Stroke, or some kind of cerebral infarct. Died on the operating table.

He was about fifteen years older than me, and had two heart infections in the last three years, but after he pulled through his most recent open heart, where he literally had a ten percent chance of surviving, I had come to the conclusion that he was too damned stubborn to die.

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.


Sorry for your loss Tommy.

[tha malcontent™]

Stroke, or some kind of cerebral infarct. Died on the operating table.

He was about fifteen years older than me, and had two heart infections in the last three years, but after he pulled through his most recent open heart, where he literally had a ten percent chance of surviving, I had come to the conclusion that he was too damned stubborn to die.

I was wrong. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this really.

Sorry to hear that... My Prayers for your Family...

I Lost my Sister in 1986 and I can still Hear her Voice like it was Yesterday...

Siblings are Special People...

Love them, Hate them... They are still your Family, and Losing them is Never Easy...

I don't Envy the Coming Months for you...

Lost both my Parents last November and it's been like an Unreal Dream that I can't Wake from since...

Anyway, if you Need to Talk about it, Feel free to PM me...

:)

peace...

[smyrna]

Tommy,

Please accept my heartfelt wishes of peace and comfort for you and your family.

Lord, please hear my prayer.:pray: